About
Update Dec. 2022: in autumn this year I was diagnosed with ADHD, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Finally I could make sense of myself. My extreme sex craving, my inability to form long-term relations, my obsession with work, my paranoia. It is quite rare among females, and I am afraid that it might be genetic, and thus I might pass it on to the next generation.
I had sexual encounters with 28 men and 2 couples in 2022. Most were great times, and I think I will continue my lifestyle - can't he helped.
Update Nov. 2021: Since Seina and Andy moved out (they both have a stable job and need more space for themselves and the baby), my daughter and I are alone again. This brings some stress (empty nest syndrome...LOL) and I am more active here, again.
Update Jan 2020:I resumed to accept new friends requests. Please read this before contacting me.
My father is Swedish, my mother Japanese. My friends call me Lola, but my name is Lotus. I studied in Tokyo and I worked part-time as a model, etc. I studied information science with a focus in web design.
I have been involved in some kinki stuff and I still am.
When I joined here several years ago, it was when I fully lived out my kinki side. I loved it, and my partners, too. Now I see the dark side of it, and the many scars it has left in my and other loved people’s lives.
I got married in 2012. My hubby is such a nice guy! He knew about - and participated in - my various sexual activities. But over the years, my sex drive did not diminish and he couldn't stand it anymore and we needed to divorce in 2020.
I took a long break, but now I am back here.
I consider this site a way to move part of it from reality into the virtual. It is a kind of therapy for me. Before you contact me, read to the bottom and then decide. I take 100% liberty to treat you who you are: a stranger with whom I decide to have contact or not.
Now a few comments on some important topics.
A: Cock size does not matter:
I get contacts from men who brag about their size. Believe me, many women don’t care. Twenty-plus cm guys are rare. They often feel entitled to be adored. I will not adore them. Why don’t you brag about your long tongue that can go deep into my pussy?
Shape does matter, by the way, but the most important point is technique and the ability to adjust your movements to the subtle signs from the woman. We women react differently. Some orgasm from clit stimulation, some from labia stimulation, and some from G-spot stimulation. The G-spot is not that far into the pussy, so a normal sized cock will be enough. Diameter-wise also: If I really want to stretch my pussy to the limit, I can use a dildo. They come in any size, shape, and surface structure.
B: Why do I like older men?
Of course there are big individual differences, but in general:
1.They can look back to 30+ years of sexual experience.
2.The older, the more kinki. Chances are high that they have a well-developed fetish that I love to explore.
3.They last longer, even though it might take time to get them stiff, once they are, they stay stiff if I take good care of their cock.
4.They are good at oral with mouth, lips, tongue
5.They are good at fingering
6.They adore the female body more than a self-entitled ‘young stallion’
7.I have had my share of teaching young guys some tricks. It was fun to see how they react to some kinki stuff, but now is my time to enjoy and be taught some new tricks.
3. I am sensitive to word choice. I do not like to be objectified. "How many times did he fuck you" kind of comments imply that I was the one who got fucked, not that I wanted to have sex, too. People, especially men, who write that see women as an object to fulfill their 'needs'. Please go somewhere else, I will not do that.
Interests
I am active and love fun. I like sports, because I meet lots of people and it makes me slim. Before Corona, I travelled a lot and I made many friends all over the world. I want to make many friends here, too.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Exhibitionist
97% Voyeur
97% Non-monogamist
89% Boy/Girl
84% Ageplayer
82% Experimentalist
58% Daddy/Mommy
52% Switch
48% Dominant
47% Primal (Hunter)
41% Submissive
38% Owner
31% Primal (Prey)
28% Rigger
28% Master/Mistress
21% Pet
18% Degrader
15% Brat
14% Brat tamer
7% Slave
4% Sadist
3% Rope bunny
3% Masochist
0% Degradee
Interests