I've given anal sex to partners a few times, but only when they've specifically asked me to. On the whole, it's not something I'm that bothered with (I find it painful to give - rips foreskin), so it's not a thing that I'd ask a woman for. My only advice is do it only if you feel comfortable with it (don't be pressured), and yes use lots of lube.
If you decide you don't want it, then one thing you could say is "How about you let me get a strap-on and do you first?" That would certainly put me off.
Anal always reminds me of the old joke:
What's the difference between oral sex and anal sex?
Answer: Oral sex will make your day, but anal sex will make your hole week.
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It's just like ripping a band-aid off. You gotta do it real quickly and it will only hurt a little.
I'm just kidding I have no idea. All I know is don't use too much lube in the so called "anus", just trust me.
Forget who you thought I was, I'm The Chris J bitch!
Take charge and tell him thanks but no thanks! Just let the mood get you ready and if it works then edge through it, warning him to be slow and delicate.... the same way all women should be treated!
Enjoy!
Geez, I wish I could help. I've only given, and not received (LOL!) Some I've been with love it and some do not. Best advice is go slow, take your time. Make sure you let yourself relax each step of the way.
Men! Anal is best enjoyed if you remember the "ations": Preparation, Communication & Lubrication. See if you can find a copy of Anal Pleasure and Health which goes into detail on having a painless, pleasuring experience.
"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx
Never had it either, but I do know you should start by relaxing and have him use his lubricated finger to gently open your sphincter muscles up. I think there is two of them in the first few inches and you have to relax and allow them to "un-clench" and loosen up before he can get his cock in there.
Go slow and steady and retreat when it hurts and then go back in slowly and keep working it back and forth until you open up.
Like I said, I have never tried it but that is what I read about it.
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En vis mann slår aldri en hund i klubben med en stokk, fordi hunden vil vende rundt og biter mannens ballene av. Gypsy and Castle's responses both answer very fully. About the only thing I could add is that the preperation part should be given as much time as possible. The better prepared you are, the better the experience will be. Start on your own before hand. While masturbating, reach around and use your finger to massage your anus, rubbing in circles, then applying some pressure. This could be done during vaginal play too, or just by itself. Rub around while in the shower or bath. Hold your finger tip against the ring and clench and unclench your buns and sphincter. See how everything works. Find out what you like from anal stimulation, if anything. If it's a complete no-go for you on your own, it may well save you some time, or potential embarassment, with him even trying.
Also, I might reccomend that the first time you and he try anal play, don't even plan on penetration. If it happens, fine, but don't make it the final destination. Just plan on having fun with it. Use some fingers, tongue (see hygeine notes above), perhaps toys. Make sure you can enjoy that kind of play before letting him mount you that way. Believe me, he'll be hard as a rock just being able to play with it, that if penetration isn't on the table, he'll be tickled pink anyway.
its all such a pain in the Ass ....
"Anal is the new vagina."
MM I swear if you were here right now, I'd give you the biggest hug.
You are so sweet to give us an update and tell us how you're doing.
Well everyone made the effort to give me some advice and when i give someone advice I like to know how things went and if it helped at all - which it all did here, fankoo!!
Huzah! You're well on your way to having a new kind of fun, it sounds like. Keep it fun!!
Please let us know if you do get to try it and how it went.
MM, I know you received lot's of good advice, but I wanted to share that I was very scared at first, didn't like it the first few times, but kept trying until I found the right "fit" so to speak. I think the biggest thing about enjoying anal for me, is relaxing, being in control of the situation, but yet being out of control sexually, if that makes any sense. I find the most comfortable anal for me is on top. But when I am just so completely turned on missionary is out of this world. Good luck in your trials.
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