I would not trust any avatar. I mean how many people want to have their family discover they practically live on an erotic site? I mean... Awkward! since I joined I am already addicted. A very few people I have shared my real photos with. I have to consider them to be a real friend not just an Internet buddy. But what the hell, it's a site based on erotic fantasy.
I bet 90% of the Avatars on here are false, and 50% of the gallery pics too. (that is unless l most of the lush community can be found on chive, my ex girl friend and a dozen porn sites) I don't mind it if they say that it's not them, If they try to claim it. I have no use for them. Tin eye reverse image look it is a time saver
Very few people in this 'world' (the wonderful whacky interwebs!) are completely upfront about who they are for the simple reason that the internet is at the same time a very revealing, and concealing place. Behind every screen there is a human driving a keyboard and watching others through their own set of filters. Just like in real life (RL) we all have these filters, whether we know it or not. After more than 18 years on the internet I've seen some really weird and wonderful examples of all extremes, but then you get that in RL too.
Picking the 'fakers' can be interesting, or boring, depends on what your day and life is like. I don't have time, am not interested, and tend to be a little protective about my identity. Nothing I say here is a lie, but I do not make it simple for a nutter to track me down (because that? Is scary... why the hell would you do that?) If someone's lying to me that's their problem. If I find out that they're lying to me, that's an even bigger problem for them! I think of lying as theft, and I hate theft. It's the theft of my trust, and you don't get two goes at that. Once bitten, twice running in the other direction at very high speed.
And remember some people lie to your face, standing in front of you. No different here for those types of people. It hurts just as much, and we suffer the same disappointment and disillusionment. I just hope those who do the deceiving will one day learn what it's like on the other side of the screen.
I have a startling confession to make: my avatar is not me. I cannot really shoot laser beams from my mouth. My sincerest apologies to those I've misled.
I don't wish to overly make light of this subject, as I know people who have been hurt deeply by false claims. I don't think I've ever been fooled. But if I've been successfully fooled, I wouldn't know, would I?
Several women's profiles on here scream, "I'm really a guy!" though. They are kind of fun to read.
Another site, years back...he came clean when we reconnected. I was misled for the 3 or 4 years we talked on and off. I was truly dumbfounded. I couldn't believe it was all a complete fabrication. I was truly hurt. The real person was pretty awesome too...but heck if I know that was real either. I just wasn't interested in being friends any more.
I was fooled by a dear friend for about a month. She had a second account for a short while, simply to play a joke. It fooled me. Especially when she asked me questions about herself, if you know what I mean. I was quite loyal to her real account, and we had a good laugh about it later, when she revealed herself. I'm not sure if anyone else is aware that she fooled them all. Her second account was deleted after a month or so. Not before I wrote a story about her fake character. Her primary account is no longer here, either. I miss her.
Probably have, but I don't know for how. People who hide and lie have issues and are disturbing. Who is who to say, who is who. On the social media, everything is a toss up. If anyone as then five names on a friends list, chances are, one is not who they say they are.
Everyone gives themselves away in the end — a careless word in an unguarded moment is so easy, and none of us vet everything we say. As to my avatars — many of the ones I use were chosen for me, or I choose them to reflect a side of my personality or my mood, so they are as revealing as an actual self image would be, perhaps more so because they display a hidden truth.
About two hours...
(Luckily the Forum Moderating Team here are SMARTER than I and quickly sorted the problem...)
Thank you DANI.
(Nominated for MOD OF THE MONTH by this member.)
xx SF
True deception comes from those who only show their true colors when it's convenient for them or when it will serve them best.
Now, I'll be the first to admit that I'm neither a blue nymph nor a green fairy (shocking... I know.) Like many others, I don't think the avatar most people here use are really them, but a representation of them. Despite what some may claim or think... I've always been myself here as much as possible. I share my opinions, make jokes (that sometimes fall very flat) and read what others write. I've shared pictures and with those who have taken the time to get to know ME as a person, I've shared some personal details.
I've been deceived by one who is still here. I have accepted this element of said person and moved one. I won't say the deception was for a long time because to be truly honest, we were never that close to begin with. On the flip side... I've me quite a few awesome people here who I feel I have become friends with. Those relationships I have happily worked on and built up.
I'm ashamed to admit it, but back when I first started playing on social media 9 years ago, I was fooled for nearly 3 years, by a guy who was pretending to be a lesbian. He was amazingly good at it! I didn't find out until I stumbled on his actual profile, where he posted a blog about hoaxing people on MySpace, pretending to be a lesbian, and by his description of his alter ego, I realized he was actually my lesbian 'friend'. I was crushed to think I'd been so gullible and easily taken in. But it wised me up very quickly!
I've been fooling myself since birth...
Its happened quite a bit to me on here I am sad to say
the worse thing is people coming back over and over and over as different people that has also happened a few times
the thing is the way we type and certain likes and dislikes are almost as good as DNA its like a fingerprint of sorts
though anymore I don't know that it matters that much to every lie there is a bit of truth..I try to hope for the best in everyone.
Yes. Nothing really happened, but someone pretended to be completely different than who she really was. She was defeated by technology though, and still refused to admit it.
I don't chat in the chatrooms, so I don't know how honest people are there, but as far as I can tell, the people who I see as my friends here, and that extends way beyond my official friendslist, may be careful about their identity, but beyond that, I'm sure they do show their true personalities, or at least part of that. As for myself, close friends know my identity and anyone who reads my stuff can see part of me.
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Hey... pssst.... that's an l (as in luscious) at the end of my name, not an i 
