Yes I have felt like this! I like the ones that give you a load of rules to adhear to.
'You must not be boring'
'If you tell me I am lovely/gorgeous/sexy I will delete you'
'If you don't chat I will delete'
'If you do chat I will delete'
'If you creep me out I will block' and the like.
I always found it hard to respect authority and often want to be accepted just to break every rule.
There, I said it. It's been annoying me for a few days and it felt good to get it off my chest.
My favourite are the ultra-bitchy profiles that put up the front of "don't you DARE compliment/chat/message me or think of me as some sex object to get you off!" and then their image gallery is filled with half-naked photos of themselves bent over serving up their ass or pussy for stranger's viewing pleasure.
I don't get it. Either you want that kind of attention or you don't.
I'm a female, I'm always on 'invisible mode' and I don't chat (this is on my profile too, but nicely worded), but there's no need to fill your profile with a flaming ALL-CAPS attitude rant, telling people to fuck-off just because they happened to stumble across your profile.
And if you're really that concerned about repelling potential friend-adds, why not go for a granny-avatar or a nice landscape wallpaper and keep the profile a little less 'sexually charged'.
Some profiles do end up getting ridiculous...but the reality is that, as females, we do get spammed by guys who clearly belong in the bin...not that little one under the sink, but the BIG one out the front. From which they'll get whisked away to landfill, which is clearly all they're ever going to be any use for.
As someone who is extremely selective about her friend's list etc I do think you're well within your right to have a to-the-point profile that states what is and isn't okay for you...but there is a middle ground...I expect people to read my bio before contacting me, and I don't enjoy receiving unsolicited friend requests. Especially when I clearly state that I am more than open to just having a chat (from there I then add people as I feel inclined to).
You can have your 'rules', for want of a better word, but there's no need to have a little shitfit about it on your profile. That said, I'm sure mine comes across as shitfitty to some...and it's definitely more toned down than it used to be, so goodness knows what people used to think of it/me!
I like the profiles that state "ABSOLUTELY NO MEN DO NOT ADD OR YOU'LL BE BLOCKED!!!!", but you can see their friends list and there are a couple guys. Kinda blows their entire bio out of the water and loses all credibility. If it had any to begin with. It's kinda like telling a car salesman, "we're only looking". Yea, they don't believe that shit either.
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates Well I haven't understood this either. To me it's allright to state your preference, but Jeez, why are we here? This is a social network. Some people come across like, ok I'm here but leave me the fuck alone, and I always wonder why they are here then. I don't accept lots of friend requests, those I do accept I am interested in getting to know more about, those I am not interested in I just click on deny, it isn't difficult or time consuming. If you are just here to read the stories you don't need a profile. I really don't understand the 'fear' some seem to have of being contacted.
If you ignore beauty, you will soon find yourself without it.................Frank Lloyd Wright
I always practice obedience, when it's in my best interest.
I agree with chef too.. this is funny.. please don't take offense because none is meant.. but when you post avatars like Dancing_Doll.. LittleBambi.. or Curlygirly.. I don't think there is any mystery as to why some guys will run right past the stop signs.. I think it's a fair assumption that most guys in here will look at the avatar first.. then MAYBE read the profile.. then look back at your avatar.. then look for pics or types of stories you may have written.. then back at your avatar.. then check out your friends list.. then back at your avatar.. and just like spermatazoa.. some will get through and some will be flushed.. it's the nature of what happens here on planet Lush..
I don't like adding guys who only post pictures of their cocks, even though I like to look at a nice cock. I prefer pictures of dicks attached to men though, the whole man if possible. The face can be hidden or turned away, or shot from the chin down, but the legs and chest and arms are sexy. It's not because I think the cock might not be theirs either. I really don't care if it is or not, but a person is more than a sex organ. I don't expect to find pictures of real people on Lush, but I think a person's image file is representative of how they perceive themselves, and if it's all cocks that's not a person I'm sure I want to know. I don't put any restrictions on who I'll add, because there are exceptions to every rule. I'll pretty much add anyone who doesn't treat me like a twat.
On the other hand, if a person has a lot of rules as to whom they'll add I figure they won't add me anyway so I don't bother trying.
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I am a lesbian but I don't hate men, in fact some of my longest and dearest friends on here are men but I am choosy on the men I do add as a friend. As for people who add restrictions to their profile, I either abide by their rules or just pass their profile altogether if I feel the restrictions are too much.
I welcome all friend requests,and when I do get annoying bozos , I take advantage of them and use them as my verbal punchbags just for the heck of it. =)
I don't think I have too many restrictions, just the usual "No cybering/video sex" etc..
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35% of the female profiles are men pretending to be lesbians. 35% of the profiles are women stating that they are lesbians, which leaves very few. +I don't sift through them.
I'm not into teaching newbie girls "the ropes" I prefer sophisticated, emotionally mature women. It's about quality, not quantity. If I add, i find something unique and interesting to me, in their profile, usually.
I don't think I mind the random add as much as some people do. I mean if your going to put yourself out there and try to add my as a friend the kudos to you.
I usaully check to see if me and that person have anything in common or maybe some common friends if we do I may send a message.
Its just not all that hard to weed people out of the crowd!!
If you don't want to be friends with people, chat, and basicly be socail.
I assume you use this site only to post stories you have written your self.
Thus you don't need to put any personal info in your profile.
no pictures, no names or ages and no bio. Just don't check most your mail or veiw your profile.
After all it isn't part of what you came here to do,
you have no need to bother with it.
I find myself looking at some female profiles on here and laughing at them as I think it shouts out FAKE FAKE FAKE!!! Sometimes though, I find myself thinking, please leave this site as you clearly have no understanding of what it means to us 'regular and normal' users.
I have seen profiles going on SO MUCH about being a lesbian and that all men are idiots (or stronger words) and that they will be ignored/deleted/reported etc etc. I think, ah didums, get back under your stone. One such profile said how she hated fake MEN, hence being lesbian and then, looking deeper into her profile, she was using pictures that I know are of a female soap actress on a beach, saying it is all her and true etc etc.
Now, I am straight, and obviously a male, but I don't feel the need to SCREAM on my profile saying no one other than females should contact me. This, I thought anyway, was a site for ALL people to enjoy the world of sex and erotica. Not a hook up site to get cheap thrills with the gender you find a turn on.
All I can say though is, that after over a year on here, I find it easy to turn a blind eye to these Johnny (or Jane) Come Latelys, looking for a cheap thrill, that their profile stands out so easily, I find it easy to laugh at their transparency and move on and enjoy the next story on here or a chat with a friend from Lush.
I agree with chef ... this was funny