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Are girls really the only ones worth chatting with..?

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Quote by roccotool
Just so you know, Mara: It isn't just "guys" being rude. I've had "girls" do the same thing.


I know it’s not only the guys --- I’ve had girls do it also, but yeah it’s as easy as closing a window or clicking on the (block user) button; I just had one too many today and I go upset…
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Quote by Blindfolded
I hope I'm not creepy. I love the lush ladies! In a total brotherly love type of way.


*laugh*
We love you too in a sisterly type of way...
Wanna make out?


Cat you already know my answer to this question.
Even when you're blindfolded, Hindsite is 20/20
Quote by Jebru
Not all of us are assholes. Some of us are nice guys.

I agree with Jebru. Not all of us are creeps and some of us genuinely want to get to know you gals and I for one enjoy just a chat with no strings attached. I also know that there are some girls who just want the sex as well and can come on quite strongly. However, I am sure us guys can be pigs, but it is best to look at it one individual at at time and don't be afraid to block those who piss you off! (Which I am sure you have!) Anyways, great question.
I enjoy talking with most everyone here. Then there those that don't talk becouse of my life style.
God... am I dumb... I don't even know how to initiate conversation in here... and have been here reading for months...lol
Going to check it out though...
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God... am I dumb... I don't even know how to initiate conversation in here... and have been here reading for months...lol
Going to check it out though...


Well at least we know you really enjoy reading the stories…
Quote by O0ziiomara0O
I get it, we’re on an adult site...


Mara:

Perhaps you answered your own the question right there... although even it weren't a adult site, things probably wouldn't be that much different.

I know one LS female writer who keeps her blocker set to "friends only." She initiates conversations--and whenever she finds people who can converse thoughtfully and respectfully, she adds them.

Maybe the genders are just wired differently. One observation I've made from chatting on LS:

guys masturbate while reading, women do it while writing!

Doesn't that just explain everything?


P.S.:

roccotool wrote:
Just so you know, Mara: It isn't just "guys" being rude. I've had "girls" do the same thing.[


Ditto: but it happens so rarely that I wouldn't call it rude, just novel.
Mara I know what you are talking about, my block list is long, my settings set to chat with friends only.

That said, every guy that has participated in this post can chat with me any time. And there are plenty of nice guys here
I won't name them for fear of leaving one off my list ,but there are a lot. Just look around the forum participants
"Love all, trust a few, and do wrong to none."
Regardless of the picture posted it doesn't justify being crude, it's like saying a woman was because of the way she was dressed. We are all adults here if this is the type of behavior that some men exhibit, then they need to grow up.
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I hope I'm not creepy. I love the lush ladies! In a total brotherly love type of way.


*laugh*
We love you too in a sisterly type of way...
Wanna make out?


Cat you already know my answer to this question.


Reading this thread, I am struck once again by the way in which the experiences of men and women on these sites are so totally different. The women get more attention than they can shake a stick (or anything else) at, and their problem is how to filter out the gold from the dross. The men, on the other hand, have to be extraordinarily patient and hope that a pleasant connection gets made once in a while, in spite of themselves.

Not a complaint, just an observation. Although at the risk of being accused of falling prey to the "grass is always greener" syndrome, I'd say that - at least in this one minor aspect of life - you women have the better end of the stick (warts and all).

Daniel
I agree Dan. And welcome.
Hey. I'm kinda new (aka never been on forums) but I've talked to a few guys who are really nice. Only one creep.
There was this one time at band camp.....

Welcome band_whore
thanks nicola. NOTHING ever happened at my band camps. i think those movies lie.
I know I'm coming into this convo/chat/thread/...umm...thing...late in the game but it's interesting and all I can say is welcome to the human race.

Now I'm not all knowing and can't speak for the male gender as a whole but I can tell you honestly I don't care to have cybersex, I don't really care if you send picures (unless you want me to draw you, then it's cool), I assume every avatar is a picture of some woman downloaded off the web because how many super hot people are there in the world?...I mean really!...not everyone can be as hot as us.

But I do have to respond to the comment about the hot avatar invites some guys to pull out their little tiny penis and jerk off...fucking grow up and be a man! That is EXACTLY the same mentality as a . Strong statement? Yes it is, but rapists always say, "Well she was asking for it" but what that really means is they have the social skills of a monkey and the brain of a single cell organism. Social skills mean you recognize that whoever is on the other end is a person and they think, feel, fart, scratch their ass, and everything else just like the rest of us.

But here is the thing...for as many guys to be out there trolling around with cock in hand waiting to accidentally hit on the right person to "get them off" means some times they are successful. Somewhere they must be getting rewarded or they wouldn't keep doing it. Who is rewarding their tiny little minds?

Last thing, just to make you feel better or worse, I'm older than probably a lot of people on this site and I used to work at the CDC HIV/AIDS hotline many, many years ago before chat and before the web had really become what it is today and even then we would have creeps that would want to call and ask about putting on a condom or something and jerk off. Here is where it gets even sadder, most of the time they only wanted a woman. The room was a big open area with operators all around the walls basically in a circle. When a masturbator called and wanted a woman you could hear him start the circle ringing...that means he would call in and if he got a guy he would hang up and keep calling and it would go around the room until he got a woman and you could hear the poor operator audibly sigh because for a while they forced us to talk to people no matter what. For all you sad, pathetic masturbators getting ready to call the hotline, forget it. They've changed rules now.

Ok, next to last thing. Masturbation is healthy, sex is healthy. But globally we live in a sexually repressed world where people don't have the skills to adjust to sexual awakenings and we are taught shame and guilt. Because we don't learn these skills everyone seems to think that sex is in our genes (no, not jeans...that's where your ass is ) and that nothing about sex needs to be learned, that it's healthy to hide our bodies, hide our sexuality, and rate movies with a pair of breasts NC17 while a movie about disemboweling someone and where 80 people are violently gunned down in the first ten minutes can be rated PG. Man...I'm fired up! Sorry 'bout that.

Ok, really, truely last thing. I try to chat with everyone as if they were comin' into my house. I wouldn't answer the door with my cock in my hand any more than I would go to work with my cock in hand. I assume that everyone I talk to is who they say they are until they give me reason to think otherwise. I've dealt with the mentally ill for several years and I can tell you that it takes patience, patience, patience. I think you are doing the right thing by turning off chat or simply closing a window. Please don't support them, try to talk to them or even try to reason with them. I applaud your efforts and sincerely apologize on behalf of the human race for the nut cases that give the rest of us a bad name. Notice I didn't say men...I'm sorry but I had female masturbators on the hotline as well. There are crazy women out there too, just not as many.

Peace and love and understanding my friends. Please feel free to chat with me any time. I promise you'll get the same respect you would if you were in my home.
Well said sir.
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Very well put indeed Satyr
=d> Well informed opinion. Yes, the women do it, too.
Hi
In answer to these comments, especially the long one:

This is a big site with a wide range of people who are all looking for something different. Indeed, I find that I am in need something different every day I come here. Some days I want intellectual chat, the next I want something else... If we're talking about sad people jerking off then what can I say? We all do it, we all use certain stimuli... video, webcam, pictures, text, telephone... and the world is a lonely place sometimes, despite all the many ways we have to communicate. Any happiness/solace we can impart or take from a fellow human should make the world a nicer place. Just because you can take it or leave it doesn't give you the right to judge others 'less fortunate' than, or with different appetites to, yourself.

Many people come here simply for instant sexual gratification. The stories get them hot and they need some company. They don't want to replicate a bar situation, where you chat for an hour, buy drinks, pretend they're interested, just to get laid. They want to cum and they have a limited window of opportunity. I think it's useful to lay it on the line. 'I could do with wank, but I only have 20 minutes... would you like to help me/join me/watch me?' It's more fun with two and, despite being a solitary pursuit, I find it can be very rewarding, liberating and fulfilling to share it with a stranger. Why beat around the bush, so to speak... life is too short. Not too short to be polite though - thought I'd better point that out. 'Please'/'thankyou'/'would you mind if?' are very useful phrases, both in 'real life' and here, 'surreal life'.

This is a sex site. The language and images are going to be sexual. The line between verbal obscenity and pictorial obscenity is not so clean cut. Wank, jerk, fuck, cunt, dick, spunk, ass, lick me out, suck my cock... these are very graphic and appear in virtually everyone's stories... so some guy has a picture of his hard dick as an avatar? That is his choice. He enjoys sharing that... that's his kick. Maybe you can put into words what he can't, perhaps you gain pleasure in another way... that does not lessen his need, nor diminish his right to express himself.

And ? Fuck off! Ever been ? No, I thought not. Your hyperbole does not blind me. Does a woman me when she shows her tits on page three of a morning (family) newspaper? No... Am I when a sex scene comes onto the TV unexpectedly? No. Or when Beyonce shakes her ass at my kids on MTV? No. It may be tasteless, but it's not . All the women here have seen a dick, they are surely not shocked by the sight of one... and to demean the guys by saying 'little' does you no favours at all. What? Is yours bigger? Is that why you're so 'cocky', so eager to criticise?

That sounds oh so serious. Not meant to be. Just one man's opinion. Tomorrow I may feel differently... now, where's that fucking webcam?
Good post Imalover. Welcome and keep coming back.
Quote by O0ziiomara0O
Ughrr .. ok so really, are girls the only ones worth chatting with? FUCK I get it, we’re on an adult site, I write adult stories, but really do you need to ask me if I’m horny all the time? Do you need to ask me for nude pictures? --- and then you wonder why you’re on the ignore list..!

Why can’t guys try and have a normal conversation, how things go, and then may be try to get “fresh” --- just answer this; do girls really respond with “yes, knowing that you’re jacking off because of my story makes me horny” wtf?


Too funny...nice rant...loved it!
Quote by Rembacher
Not all of us are assholes. Some of us are nice guys. But if you use a pic of your very sexy body as your avatar, you are kind of inviting the creeps to hit on you.


Well said (except the nice guy part). To paraphrase Dave Chappelle, "you may not be a whore, but you are wearing a whore's uniform".
That must be some kind of record: posting on a thread that's been dead for close to 10 years!


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