Why aren't you telling your spouse that you frequent sites like Lush?

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When you say others, are you referring to other stories? If so, why is that the case?

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Well, some of my stories are about cheating and I wouldn't want him to misinterpret. Fantasies are just that, but there's no reason to make it uncomfortable.

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She does know I am on sites, I don't deny it. However, I do not let her know everything that takes place on here because it is my business what I do here. And yes, I understand all of the arrows aimed at me now, but I joined Lush to enjoy experiences that I could not have physically. It does not change my life at home in a negative way, actually it has helped my life at home Lush is a place to relax and act like you want to act everyday but cannot because of preconceived limits set by society. Whether they are good or bad they do affect how everyone acts and I find it refreshing to speak to others without worrying how it will affect my family, or me personally.

Again, just my humble opinion, so don't tear me apart :)

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Well, some of my stories are about cheating and I wouldn't want him to misinterpret. Fantasies are just that, but there's no reason to make it uncomfortable.

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I'm really struck by everyone's honesty in their replies, and how different all our circumstances are. The common thread seems to be how Lush provides such necessary mind-space for so many of us. I feel lucky that I've been able to tell any boyfriends about Lush; and I do understand that its not that simple for everyone.

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She knows i am on some site that deals with sexual matter and she is ok with that as long as i don't stray and see any women in person

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No - a long ago and far away Convent School upbringing on her part doesn't tend to easily lead me into thing there would be an understanding of my 'alter-ego'.

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I do tell her. I let her read the stories I write too. I'm still hoping she gets some of herself back but I don't hold forth much hope.

This is pretty much all a fantasy for me but I do have hopes. When I no longer have her then things will be different but not until. I think mostly she just forgets about it. It's never seemed to bother her though and she will make good comments on the stories.

As long as she's still happy, I'm happy. But I am very sad too.

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My husband knows and considering all the other sins I am involved in, this certainly is less than most.

He reads stories from time to time and that seems to be the limit of his interest.

Do you kids think he could have his own account and not told me?

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My spouse knows that I write and I just said this is like an adult facebook. Where there are walls, and friends and you might send porn gifs and stuff like that. He just laughed and said "WEIRD."

I do not hide it and have welcomed him to read my stories, which he does not.

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My wife doesn't know that I a write stories on here. She knows I can write sexy stories because I have written them for her. Lush is a site I just found and liked reading the stories. It was never for cybering or making friends for sexual needs or for finding another partner or whatever. It was just to read, then write and then chat to some of the people that like my stories and ones I like too.

For me that is what it still is and always will be. This site offers a lot of things to a lot of different people, some of the things it offers I don't think she would be comfortable with. She would think I was doing it because I am unhappy in our relationship which I am not. So, for the moment - Lush is my space.

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I found Lush when I was traveling a lot between South Florida and Northern Florida. I read a lot before I even registered.

I told my husband about the site because he is a cross dresser who is conflicted. I believe he is bisexual and he was a virgin up until his late 30s. He was made to feel ashamed of that. I suggested it for him because I care and think he should explore for his own benefit.

I do admit in the beginning when I found out I was furious not due to the cross dressing but because I had asked before we got married then afterwards and he had felt ashamed. Then he had lied about chatting online.

We worked through it and I have tried to be supportive because I want him to be comfortable with himself.

For me, I love reading the stories and I used to write. I really want to write but it is on hold while I get myself taken care of.

My husband has been helped by many here.

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Since I'm singles it does't apply to me now.
But I did tell my ex that I read and watch porn, he was not only happy about it but relived, because of that our sex life was more exciting and we didn't have to lie.

Since I'm so open minded about sex and sexuality, sometimes I think that guys are a little afraid or intimidated? I would really love to find someone, boyfriend/husband, that understand it and likes it.

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I created my Lush account whilst I was with my fiancé, with him next to me! It started from a dream I had and I just had the inspiration to write and once I read it to him (followed by an unbelievable sex session) he urged me to upload it online so others could enjoy it. If people don't tell their partners about Lush I feel it's a bit sordid and sly, so why not be open about it? Lush is a big part of my life, not just the site but sex in general and if I met a guy and he didn't agree with my sexuality and open minded nature he basically didn't agree with every fibre in me, so I'd tell them to shove it .

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When I get married, porn or erotic stories wouldn't be an issue with me. In fact, I'd think they'd spice up our intimacy.jMl0iN6eIZeoZkx2

All I know is that it better not be a problem with him...