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Sexting/cybersex: Is It Cheating?
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I think it depends how its used and how would you feel if the significant other was doing it?
If you just use it as foreplay, and help yourself become horny and then go have sex with your SO, and you feel no connection to whoever you are sexting/cybersex-ing with I don't see it as an issue. Also if you are doing that and thinking of your SO as the other person again don't see the issue. However if you doing it because you like other person or getting off to said other person then, I think this is where it crosses the boundary. Also if you have been doing this with said person and then meet up with the IRL without your SO knowing this would also cross the line.
I think there are fine lines to it.
If you just use it as foreplay, and help yourself become horny and then go have sex with your SO, and you feel no connection to whoever you are sexting/cybersex-ing with I don't see it as an issue. Also if you are doing that and thinking of your SO as the other person again don't see the issue. However if you doing it because you like other person or getting off to said other person then, I think this is where it crosses the boundary. Also if you have been doing this with said person and then meet up with the IRL without your SO knowing this would also cross the line.
I think there are fine lines to it.
If you were in a room with the person and they were naked and you were naked you would be cheating. Even if you never stick it to her you would be cheating and you know it. The same goes if you send explicit pictures to someone other than your significant other. Its cheating. Now the line in the sand starts to fade if you are texting only words, however, it is still probably cheating.
While it might not be physical cheating (although, if both parties are masturbating, then perhaps it is?)
However, your mind is with the other person, so in my book, it does constitute cheating and you can bet your ass that if you got found out and were going through a divorce, it could be used against you...
However, your mind is with the other person, so in my book, it does constitute cheating and you can bet your ass that if you got found out and were going through a divorce, it could be used against you...
The Linebacker
I don't do it. Since I am married I would feel guilty. I am okay talking generally about sex, but not cybering.
Truthfully, I never desired to cyber much anyhow.
My wife and I do have fun sexting each other! That gets us good 'n' ready to be all over each other as soon as we actually get together.
Truthfully, I never desired to cyber much anyhow.
My wife and I do have fun sexting each other! That gets us good 'n' ready to be all over each other as soon as we actually get together.
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Quote by Mazza
While it might not be physical cheating (although, if both parties are masturbating, then perhaps it is?)
However, your mind is with the other person, so in my book, it does constitute cheating and you can bet your ass that if you got found out and were going through a divorce, it could be used against you...
This seems true to me.
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Generally this is how it I see it.
Pornography - Getting a sexual thrill/pleasure from watching other people having sex, however as it is a solo experience, its acceptable and is not cheating
Cyber Sex - Getting a thrill/pleasure from having sexual interaction with another person outside of your relationship, is not acceptable and is cheating (its no different than texting, videoing, phone sex)
Basically, stick with porn, its not exactly a fantastic and innocent solution, but its the least of all the evils.
Pornography - Getting a sexual thrill/pleasure from watching other people having sex, however as it is a solo experience, its acceptable and is not cheating
Cyber Sex - Getting a thrill/pleasure from having sexual interaction with another person outside of your relationship, is not acceptable and is cheating (its no different than texting, videoing, phone sex)
Basically, stick with porn, its not exactly a fantastic and innocent solution, but its the least of all the evils.
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The question is:
Do you hide this activity from your partner? If its yes, its violating the trust you have with each other and I would consider that cheating.
If, like me, its a no. My partner fully understands I may engage in it from time to time to keep myself "amused".
Its not a replacement for our sex life but an enhancement or a temporary solution for times we're apart.
I don't bring other men to bed, but while the cat is away this mouse is allowed to play. At a distance.
Do you hide this activity from your partner? If its yes, its violating the trust you have with each other and I would consider that cheating.
If, like me, its a no. My partner fully understands I may engage in it from time to time to keep myself "amused".
Its not a replacement for our sex life but an enhancement or a temporary solution for times we're apart.
I don't bring other men to bed, but while the cat is away this mouse is allowed to play. At a distance.
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Yep its cheating
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Her Royal Spriteness
depends on the rules. if your partner knows about it and has given you their blessing. no. if you are lying about it, then yes. it's that simple. i'm not judging, btw, but it's pretty much black and white.
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Yes. especially, if the SO have no knowledge about it and you do it because you are not satisfied enough with what do you have between you...however, it is another thing if you do it just to heat up your relationship with your SO (don't you think you must discuss any issues about this with your SO because he or she might help you more than anyone else)...and more so, a lot more different if the SO knows all about it and gives consent to it...
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Quote by Beck
Thanks. Its like this. If she asks me I'm going to be honest and open with her. I'm not gonna go meet the person wherever they are.
I may not be very bright but I'm not that stupid.
IF SHE ASKS???
How can she ask about it if you HIDE it from her?
I'm always open and honest about it with my partner. BECAUSE I TOLD HIM. Thats being open and honest.
If I was your partner and you never mentioned it and I found out about it - I'd kick your ass to the curb - What else are you hiding if you can't come right out and tell them what you're doing?
Maybe its your choice of words but I'm not entirely sure about the stupid part if this is how you're thinking...
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IF SHE ASKS???
How can she ask about it if you HIDE it from her?
I'm always open and honest about it with my partner. BECAUSE I TOLD HIM. Thats being open and honest.
If I was your partner and you never mentioned it and I found out about it - I'd kick your ass to the curb - What else are you hiding if you can't come right out and tell them what you're doing?
Maybe its your choice of words but I'm not entirely sure about the stupid part if this is how you're thinking...
I must ask you if you have told your current partner about our effing hot cyber sessions at all muffin?
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depends on the rules. if your partner knows about it and has given you their blessing. no. if you are lying about it, then yes. it's that simple. i'm not judging, btw, but it's pretty much black and white.
This is the correct answer.
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I must ask you if you have told your current partner about our effing hot cyber sessions at all muffin?
Ummm... it was him the last time... I wasn't home
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