the thing is that i loved my wife and was devtoed to her no matter what until she cheated on me.
it's not like just once it was going on for over three years. finally i told her that if she wanted this other relationship that i was ok with it and even offered to let her girlfriend move in with us so my wife could have the best of both worlds but that was not good enough.
as far as my ex goes i loved her with everything in me. i was a stupid impatient jackass and walked away. to which i have kicked myself in the ass for for about 16 years.
it's not like i'm jumping into something that i don't know about already, but what do you do when you have to question every action and word of the person your supposed to live the rest of your life with?
i can see everybody's point but when i do look in the mirror i get pissed because i have tried everything to make this marriage work but all it does is get worse. case in point imagine coming home from work and getting greeted with hey bastard where is your check? i know the idea of leaving my wife for my ex makes me look like an asshole but there is only so much a person can do to fix a marriage and i've come to the conclusion that it's time to get out.
It's time to move on from the wife. She has made it clear that she doesn't respect you.
Be cautious about jumping into a relationship with the ex too fast. But if you have the opportunity to date her and take things slowly, maybe you deserve a second chance at happiness.
I don't recall if you said anything about having kids in this whole mix. But if you were willing to let the wife's gf move in, I am guessing no kids. If there ARE kids, you need to put them and their needs first.
I don't recall if you said anything about having kids in this whole mix. But if you were willing to let the wife's gf move in, I am guessing no kids. If there ARE kids, you need to put them and their needs first.
Thanks Tech. You beat me to a VERY valuable point.
Assuming no kids, and given there seems little chance of trust being rebuilt then it's time to move on. Best of luck.
"Whoa, lady, I only speak two languages, English and bad English." - Korben Dallas, from The Fifth Element
"If history repeats itself, and the unexpected always happens, how incapable must man be of learning from experience?" - George Bernard Shaw
guys here has given their own opinions about your situation buddy,
all i can say, based on my experiences being cheated by my past gfs, as what wellamademale said cheater will always be a cheater, yeah i've got that one, i've caught her having someone else when we were still in the relationship, i've been also that stupid on trying to hold on to the relationship for i really love her that time, that's why when she begged me to stay I've forgave her and gave her another chance and made her promise that she won't do it again, then she did promised, then one time i've caught her again, damn! would you beleive??
i've forgave her again and continued with the relationship.. then for the third time she did it. that's the time i've decided to leave the relationship and give her what is due to her. it's because i had realized that, that relationship or being in that kind of relationship isn't worth my effort to make it last. being in that kind of relationship just giving me heartaches and making me problematic.
TRUST is a very important thing for a relationship to be a happy and satisfying one. don't punish your self by staying in a relationship which will only give you heartaches and problems.
But then you might need to think about the things or reasons why she did that, much deeper than the reason that she gave you that you don't have time for her.
