I ask that question about being a fool/idiot. Because I never realized until recently, after 4 years I was just being manipulated and used. It's a bit of long story so bare with me for a little bit. Try to see it from my eyes or point of view, I knew this girl named Lexi let's call her that. I've known her for 4 years. I am sure everyone has dated known or known of a girl named Lexi in their lifetime. Anyway, She was the exact same as I was, Kind, caring, pretty, seductive, liked the same playful side I did.
But her playful side brought a wild kind of way out of me that I didn't know existed. I know we probably would have never met in real life. But it was so fun just having someone the same as I was and be able to talk to about anything. She didn't judge me, nor did she get mad at me to much only if i messed up but always forgiven me, and I did same forgiven her. A few did warn me what she was like but, I never listened I wanted to see for myself. She didn't show any signs of me doubting her until. I saw that she would dissappear and reappear for couple months to year at a time. Always told me the same thing travel, work, needed time to herself, that I can understand but, work for 4 months out of year without a word. It seemed kind of weird. So I let it go untill she kept doing it more often I figure she moved on in real life with someone else so I moved on well tried to a few times. But each i did. She would come running back making sure I was still here and pick up where we left off.
The last straw that broke all the while i known her She missed my birthday 3 times a day that is important to anyone right. Even though I am still mad at her i feel like forgiving her. But I am too soft to stay mad. Most of you probably think being too soft is a weakness. She knew how soft i was around her. I just didn't realize she was manipulating me the whole time or i choose to ignore it. Also, How can you just shut off a bond like that with someone you known 4 years? It is easy for someone to say "oh you, could do so much better." I heard it before. I've never said openly how much this has bothered me since I've known her. I am the kind of type let it build and build untill, I can't think straight anymore. Also, whenever I try to move on to someone else, Lexi always is there to mess with my head and toy with it. I know it's stupid to let her do that. Maybe i wanted to give her the benefit of doubt see the good in her. It just makes me mad and feel stupid for trusting her it feels like I was just a game to her nothing more. So, I'll ask again Was I fool or an idiot to give her so many chances?
Sorry for going on so much, Guys/Women can answer. I am sure some have been in the same place I was and probably still am.
you have a good heart and were misled. don't punish yourself for loving or trusting someone. lexi is the one who did you wrong. it is on her to say to you "I'm sorry"
In other words, she's been treating an unsubstantial cyber-acquaintance as an unsubstantial cyber-acquaintance, whereas you've granted a grandiose status to someone you've never even met?
This is unlikely to be the response you were expecting, but yeah... I think you've been rather foolish in this instance.
Is this the same Lexi who faked her death and everyone was like "omg I'm sorry for your loss" then her new profile was outed? That was so funny - fucked up - but funny.
Sounds to me you've got a problem here. Your head says one thing, and your heart says another.
And until you find someone equally amazing to take her place, it's likely that your heart will always win. Because your head will forgive your heart (might take the loss a bit, but will always forgive) - but your heart will never forgive your head.
Are you a fool? Well I guess we all are to an extent when it comes to affairs of the heart. We hope that the person we love will change for us and love us the same way that we love them.
But if you're actively asking this question then there's hope for you.
Good luck.
What are you a fool who likes to be played?? If so you are one nieve person
you are smart and nice. How can it be that you re a fool when you are my friends and you know, I choose a friend carefully
The difficulty you're experiencing is emotional investment. You've spent (perhaps wasted) 4 years of your life on this person, only to come to a realization that you've been duped. It's always difficult to let go of anything you have so much investment in, but the ability to just let go is a trait of emotional maturity, and until you can act on this, and just cut ties, you'll be 'owned' by this investment. Look ahead, not back.
Ask me, I always have an opinion!
Sprite, as is usual, given her innate creativity, is making shit up. A fear of reading is bibliophobia; a lexiphobe would have a fear of dictionaries if we are to accept such a word exists.
I believe I dated Lexi's sister. Don't torture yourself too long as I did. Move on..
While SP is being ruthlessly blunt, he's got a point. Your infatuation with her led you to ignore her failings, which led you to this hurt. Often when we feel so strongly for a person, we can't see the way they treat us objectively. That was your downfall. Hang on to your ability to be objective, especially if you want to live with an open heart, and listen to both.
To be honest, I don't think what anyone says here is going to affect you at all. You're going to make your own decision and that's fine. You're soft, you're naive, you're the victim, it's all good. Don't blame yourself, blame the woman you've never met. An online relationship is ONLINE. Who knows, you'll probably be chatting to her again tomorrow (considering how sweet you are) and I really couldn't care less.
All I want to know, is how does someone miss a birthday three times a day? Genuinely, I don't understand what that means. Do you have three birthdays all on the same day?