Yes Georgie, we heard you. It's on your bio and it's all over the forums where you keep bringing it up again and again. Thank you for letting us know about him and we're sorry he lied to you. You have our sympathy (if that's what you're looking for) BUT just because it happened to you, doesn't mean you have to go everywhere with a banner says "my husband cheated on me" or "I was lied to by my husband", 'preventing' others from falling in love.
As they've mentioned, it's a matter of choice. We're all adults. Some of us choose to love and to be loved. Be it with lust or not, they choose to do what makes them happy at that moment. Flip through this thread's pages, 70% of them have been in love on here and they loved it regardless of how it ended or if they have their future together. Some are lucky, some aren't but who cares. They take their chances. Even if they say they love someone and are "married" to them on here and then go and role play with others, that is their choice which they've agreed between them. You don't think you would fall in love on here? Well nobody asks you to, and once again, we heard you the first time you posted on this thread.
Of course your husband would never admit if he had fallen in love with any of them when you asked him. What did you expect. Him to say "I'm sorry I really loved them and it wasn't just lust"? Ironically enough, you of all people should have detested this site like the plague itself but here you are, with your gold badge. You seem to love everything on here while yapping away about him being a cheater or a liar, and you wondered why he needed this site and addicted to it.
One more thing. If he'd hurt you so much and lost your trust, why are you still with him. And "I would never leave my husband for anyone"? After knowing he was on here as the opposite sex? Really, you're confusing us.
And of course it takes some people longer to get over bad things that happen to them, and they can do some things we can't understand in response to it.
Hopefully Georgiebites can get over her bad things soon...smile
I'm sure they do. But some may be as the street walkers use to say in the Philippines. "GI you want #10 short time or long time?" The term #10 meant a very good fucking. Short time meant an hour or less. Long time meant all night. Never heard one of them ask if any one wanted a #9, or #8, always #10.
And of course it takes some people longer to get over bad things that happen to them, and they can do some things we can't understand in response to it.
Hopefully Georgiebites can get over her bad things soon...smile
This was a wonderfully kind and generous thing to say.
Quote by georgiebites I am so sorry for what you went through Ivanka I can't imagine having been lied to like that so heartless but if you read my bio you'll find out that your lushgirl/boy wasn't the only one here playing around with people pretending to be the opposite sex. I was lied to by my husband and it hurts a lot.
I know what you mean about a lot of people only wanting to cyber with you it's nice to find someone that just wants to talk because they find you interesting and just want to get to know you no sex just chatting like real people; but this is a sex site and people want to live out their fantasies. That's all good and well but don't play with people's emotions.
As for falling in love as I stated before I think people fall in lust here not love if it's any indication from what my husband's actions and what he tells me is true. He used people women especially for his own fantasies and pleasure; I just take everything with caution and don't and won't get attached.
I'm so sorry you got hurt, I really am. But talking about it over and over again is not gonna help you to Heal and move on with your life. When I first came here ,I to got hurt very badly. He cheated on me with another woman. Then she ended up getting hurt very badly. So it does happen, it happens to a lot of us. And as long as I dwelled on it, I was never gonna get over it. I finally decided I had to let it go and move on. Yes it took me some time, But well over a year later. I fell ,madly in love with Milik_the_Red. Love does happen on lush, We are the perfect example of that, along with a few other couples I know. He traveled 3000 miles to get me and together traveled 3000 miles back and made a home together. So please, let your past go, and let yourself heal. Maybe you will fall in love again with the right person.
Is it possible? Real, actual love (whatever your particular definition of that term may be)? No. Not if the relationship is exclusively online. Lush is a merry-go-round of online-only relationships and the drama is just a lot of stupidness.
Now, toss in some texting, phone calls, a meet up or twenty...then yes, I imagine it might be possible, even probable. Certainly Milik/Simplicity and Verbal/LaylaJune are excellent examples of this (also, of the man definitely marrying up, in both cases).
Me? I am too much of a cynic, too complicated and too careful, to fall in love anywhere, online or off. With anyone. Ever.
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I think most of us have at least one friend on Lush that we care for/love and would be friends with them in RL as well. So the idea of falling in love with someone shouldn't be too far out there.
Very well put. I believe that you can know someone pretty damn deep with conversation, even if you've never met(as long as they're being genuine with you). Friendships and deeper relationships can happen in any capacity now-a-days with the digital revolution.
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There is something to be said about revealing your "dirty secrets" to a person who loves that about you. Who makes you feel normal, protected, safe and loved. Lush allows you to be yourself without any filter. And when you meet someone that you enjoy without their real life filters, it can create an intimacy unlike anything most will ever have in our daily physical life. I don't like to call life outside of lush "real life" as life on Lush can be real as well.
People come here that are "in love" with their partners in their physical lives but say they cannot share Lush with them. It always makes me wonder what they are hiding from each other and what would happen if they just shared all their secrets. If there isn't truth in their relationship, is it truly a fully committed loving relationship? I'm not saying those couples don't love each other, but it seems a surface level love based more on tradition, convenience, obligation, affection, finances, etc. Those relationships don't seem like they are the Romeo and Juliet type of 'I'll die if I can't have you' kind of love.
Yes, love is rare. But after experiencing the depth of affection, lust, and love that I have with my love here, and comparing that to past "loves" that I've actually touched, there is no doubt in my mind who is my real life love.
Yes, you can get hurt here. But that can happen anywhere. Yes, there are liars here. But there are liars everywhere.
Yes, you can find love here. Love happens whenever two people connect at a soul level and put in the work to make it continue to grow. It takes incredible amounts of work, time, tears, heart and total commitment, but it can bring you a love like you never imagined could exist-not even in your best daydreams.
Quote by littleduchess There is something to be said about revealing your "dirty secrets" to a person who loves that about you. Who makes you feel normal, protected, safe and loved. Lush allows you to be yourself without any filter. And when you meet someone that you enjoy without their real life filters, it can create an intimacy unlike anything most will ever have in our daily physical life. I don't like to call life outside of lush "real life" as life on Lush can be real as well.
People come here that are "in love" with their partners in their physical lives but say they cannot share Lush with them. It always makes me wonder what they are hiding from each other and what would happen if they just shared all their secrets. If there isn't truth in their relationship, is it truly a fully committed loving relationship? I'm not saying those couples don't love each other, but it seems a surface level love based more on tradition, convenience, obligation, affection, finances, etc. Those relationships don't seem like they are the Romeo and Juliet type of 'I'll die if I can't have you' kind of love.
Yes, love is rare. But after experiencing the depth of affection, lust, and love that I have with my love here, and comparing that to past "loves" that I've actually touched, there is no doubt in my mind who is my real life love.
Yes, you can get hurt here. But that can happen anywhere. Yes, there are liars here. But there are liars everywhere.
Yes, you can find love here. Love happens whenever two people connect at a soul level and put in the work to make it continue to grow. It takes incredible amounts of work, time, tears, heart and total commitment, but it can bring you a love like you never imagined could exist-not even in your best daydreams.
And that is truly rare anywhere.
this!! All of this! Thank you my friend.16zLoU8GwI0CzXQw
Yes it can happen and while it's true that there is something special about finding a person here who loves you for your openness to sexuality, there is more to a relationship and even if that all falls seemingly perfect into place, they can still deem you unfit once you meet in person...
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The forms of things unknown, the poet’s pen
Turns them to shapes and gives to airy nothing
A local habitation and a name.
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Yes, most definitely. That's the thing about falling in love, we really have no control over it. The heart wants what the heart wants... that said, I think it has to be taken outside of lush for it to grow, obviously.
Yes... um... maybe. What I can feel happening currently feels a lot like falling in love.
My head says there's a difference between online love and falling in love in the flesh, even if, in the moment, the feelings are indistinguishable.
My heart says fuck it, enjoy the ride.
Oh I am in love. We have even talked about getting married... I believe she loves me so much and I here. The most difficult thing is my age. She just turned 39 and I will be 67. What kind of life could I give her is now is one filled with sex 24/7 365. She wouldn't have to work so all would be play... ever hour of the day. It's the long-term that should be considered as I am on the downward trail and may only have five plus years left. I don't want her to suffer because I love her too much. You know who you are... I love you much that I would give up my world just for you!
You totally can, I met someone here, fell in love here. I admit at first I was skeptical, worried that it would only be lust, but that simply wasn't the case. We've known each other three years, been dating for 6 months, it is great. I very much love him, and we never would have met if not for lush. So, yea, you can totally fall in love on Lush.
I don't see why not. Looking at all the lovely ladies on here I'd say falling in love is a real possibility. In fact, I think I've fallen in love a few times already and I've only been on here a few weeks.
Quote by dlcalguy Yes... um... maybe. What I can feel happening currently feels a lot like falling in love.
My head says there's a difference between online love and falling in love in the flesh, even if, in the moment, the feelings are indistinguishable.
My heart says fuck it, enjoy the ride.
I once met someone online and we fell hopelessly in love. We took things offline and even moved in together. We even met our respective parents. The whole thing lasted in the neighborhood of eleven years, eight of which we physically shared.
Given the chance, I'd do it again.
Meeting online isn't much different than meeting in a bar. The emotions behind the screen are no less real and run just as deep. Sure there are challenges just like in any relationship, but if you click you figure out how to deal with them.
You better believe it!!!...I have fallen in love with my girlfriend...feels so real at times, in fact most of the time. It's never going to be easy...but is any relationship easy?...jealousy creeps in from time to time...again like RL.
You have to trust your other half and be honest with your feelings.
Quote by doctorlove Most people have no idea what love is. If you look at most relationships you will notice that they fall under the category of "fish love"
I had to look that phrase up! I've never come across it before.
Of course you can -- on the basis that people link and find an attraction on here, continue to develop a relationship, AND then meet. Love can grow from there...
I don't want her to suffer because I love her too much. You know who you are... I love you much that I would give up my world just for you!
