My parents married then divorced one another not once, but twice. They are best friends, support one another through hardships, take care of one another during illnesses and oddly enough what drove them apart still doesn't keep them apart. They met in their teens and only my mother experienced another love in her life, something keeps them bound to one another. They don't want to be a couple again, but they love one another in their own way.
I think I might be able to stop loving someone if it turned out that everything that I had thought I knew about my partner turned out to be wrong. That hasn't happened yet, and I'm usually too realistic to fall for pretty lies. When I'm in love, it's not just an obscure attraction, it's a deep-rooted feeling that grows upon little insights into the vulnerable parts of a person, into the complexity and uniqueness of their thoughts, into the ways they overcome the baggage that they carry around (and everyone has) and that always threatens to overshadow life. It grows upon shared intimacy, laughter and tears, and its not something that I can stop feeling at any time. There are partners I parted ways with twenty years ago because it didn't work out, but I still feel as much love for them now as I did back then. Just as I can not un-see or un-hear something, I can not un-love someone. Once someone has cracked the shell and slipped into my heart, they stay there.
Some people you will love forever, no matter what or how far the space between you is.
Someone has to be the Villain
I think you can move on and yes, stop loving the person in a relationship sense...but some of my ex's still make my pulse race when I see them. So I don't think you can totally dismiss feelings that you may have had for someone once. The important thing to remember, though (especially with the passage of time), is that neither of you are the same as you were when you were involved. So to think "what if" is a dangerous game to play with your feelings. Just embrace the memories and let it be.
I've always believed that love is forever. We fall in love with a person who exists in a particular space and time, and as more time passes that person changes. We all do. It can't be stopped. The trick is to love the person they become. If you loved something particular about a person and they change so that what you loved is no longer there, then you feel like you've fallen out of love with that person. The truth is that you just never loved who they have become, and you will always love who they once were. It's why we remember our high school sweethearts so fondly and carry a torch for the ones who dumped us, and why some people feel like their current relationship has dulled or makes them unhappy. To maintain a relationship is to fall in love all over again every day.
I say you can stop loving someone but you will never stop caring
this is a sore subject for me but I will throw my two cents in... I still love one person, we broke up two weeks ago, but I already started to move on. She still loves me and all but I cannot trust her. But yeah after a relationship, some love stays, depending on how much you actually loved that person.
Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you have to be with them.
I offered to be friends, even a little, and she said no to me.
I cannot do anything about it.
I was just dealing with this subject last night.
It all depends on the relationship. There are some relationships that completely burn down and all that's left is hostility. Just speaking for myself, I've been fortunate that the worst I ever felt for one woman was being glad I'd never see her again; I didn't wish her ill, but she was just impossible to be with anymore, but that was only once. But I think most of us have at one time or another known couples who flat out hated each other by the end. It's unfortunate that two people will end up completely killing each other's feelings for each other, but it happens.
At first I had hopes and dreams of getting back with my ex-wife... But then she became such a Bitch (yes, the capitol B is intentional) that I want absolutely nothing to do with her at all!! To say that there is no love between us anymore would be a massive understatement!! I'm not sure if it's exactly hate.. but it does a damn good job of coming close!!
YES.... you can actually HATE them......
I think you will always have love for that person but not in love with them anymore. It also depends on how long the relationship lasted too
I think love would always be there even if the relationship is over. I'd say it's a bit impossible for me to stop loving someone if I cared for him deeply during the relationship.
We can't really stop but we sure are on friendly terms.. Scar remains though
We can't really stop but we sure are on friendly terms.. Scar remains though
We can't really stop but we sure are on friendly terms.. Scar remains though
HELL yes! I believe some of us can stop loving someone after a relationship breakup. Especially if they did something so emotionally and/or physically scarring to you that you think your heart might never mend.
I understand there are others out there that continue to have a mutual respect for each other after a relationship breakdown. You can't do that if there was no respect in the first place. It depends on what type of person you are to begin with.
It varies depending on your situation especially how it ended. I think you can stop loving someone but you cant stop memories with the one from popping out every now and then. and by "loving" I mean the common term "love" used for caring for someone or having some feelings. "Actual love never dies If it does then it wasn't love in the first place"
That depends upon several factors. ONE is the NATURE of the relationship and the level of commitment you felt to it. Another is HOW it ended. A relationship that ends in betrayal of some sort? That makes continuing to care much more difficult (UNLESS you're a masochist...which I personally am NOT.) Once THAT happens, EVER caring AGAIN becomes nearly impossible as it renders TRUST impossible. And, to those who say that love is "eternal" ...WRONG! You just haven't dealt with sufficient abuse or perfidity to and lived long enough as yet to know it.00nCCBLtowkc0TN1
Folks, anger and hatred are NOT the opposite of love...APATHY IS. Anger and hatred like love REQUIRE energy and emotion; whereas apathy is the absence of those things. Two types of people do we allow to live rent free in our hearts and minds...those we LOVE AND those we hate.
Love can change and turn to hate, friendship/fondness or just ambivalence.
I have exes or people that I've deeply connected with that now fit into one of those three spheres.
Sometimes exes creep into my dreams as well (even the one I hate) - I don't think it's residual love or longing for that person. It's just that they are part of who you are and where you were at one point in your life. Everyone you feel something for changes you in some way. They're forever part of your "Life-Blood" and history. That doesn't necessarily mean I want them in my present or future.
If it was love, it doesn't just disappear. The intensity dies or it takes on a new shape or form. That form can be pain.
I once told a lover that there are somethings that I will always love about you, but you will never be my friend--never again.
Sometimes we have to forecefully make the decision to let go simply because loving ourself has to mean more. I remember me after my divorce. I would literally wake up on the floor. My body would search out his in my sleep and I'd drop right off the side of the bed. Now that memory makes me shake my head a laugh.
My last serious relationship ended just over a year ago. She visited over Christmas and we spent what was to be our last week together after an 8 year love affair. I sensed over the course of her visit that something was up, but had no clue she had found someone else until the last day, when she told me she was going back to men, ...her mentor. I haven't heard a word from her since the day she left. Its like she was sucked into a cult, and I'm left loving a memory. I have stopped loving guys I've been in relationships with, but I can't get over Nicole that easily.
