I am a closeted 63year old married man living in rural Nevada. I have stayed married only for financial reasons. I know I am gay, bi for sure. I constantly read and watch gay, tv and ts stories and videos. Any advice on how to proceed or connect with people, especially since Craigs list is down?
Thanks,
Dave in Mesquite Nv
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I am a closeted 63year old married man living in rural Nevada. I have stayed married only for financial reasons. I know I am gay, bi for sure. I constantly read and watch gay, tv and ts stories and videos. Any advice on how to proceed or connect with people, especially since Craigs list is down?
Thanks,
Dave in Mesquite Nv
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Find a mens spa. I.e, a gay spa. I know Nevada has them. Dont be afraid to goto gay bars. If you just want a blow job, or you want to suck some cock, the old adult arcade is best. Of course, if you think a coworker is gay, ask him if he would go to dinner with you. I hope this helps. ..The serious bi guy.
The romantic bi guy.
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I am married and love to suck cock, take cum in my mouth and swallow. My wife does not know that I am a cocksucker.
I played with school mates a lot when i was a teen. Once we all left school that stopped, and i got married. For years i did not play with a guy. One day i was sent out of town for training. I was in a big city. I was walking the streets one night when i got talking to a stranger. He ended up taking me to a local park. I ended up fucking him and giving him a blow job. As i walked away I felt very guilty. The next day i decided that it felt good. Soon i was at a gay sauna. Ever since then I get the urge for sex with a guy. The urge will not go away, and no amount of masturbating helps. The only thing to stop the urge is to have sex with a guy. Eventually it would happen and then the urge would go away. Only to return. If I was working out of town i would go and look for it. As I have got older the sex with guys has not been as good, except for one guy i met about 6 weeks ago on Grindr. He was a bit younger than me and had no trouble with an erection. He was the first guy to fuck me, and the sex lasted way longer than it normally would. I loved it. So try a gay sauna, dating site, even try gay chat.
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I'm a 49 closeted bi crossdresser. I am just recently divorced but my little secret was not the cause of it.
She would peg the hell out of me every other Saturday there was a couple times I was not into it so she put a bra and thong on me. She started me to dress up when i was alone. I used to get my dates off of craigslist or backpage and some times i would drive around dressed and pick men up off the street.now days i have no cluecwhere to look
She would peg the hell out of me every other Saturday there was a couple times I was not into it so she put a bra and thong on me. She started me to dress up when i was alone. I used to get my dates off of craigslist or backpage and some times i would drive around dressed and pick men up off the street.now days i have no cluecwhere to look
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These are all very sad. I have a friend who has been married for years and is now a grandfather. None of his family suspect he's gay. The thing is he's only had gay sex about five times with two different guys, and one of those wasn't to completion. I've tried to get him to give dating a shot but he's scared of being outed and he doesn't know how to go about it anyway. I wish I had some words of advice, but I really don't know how you get in the life on the quiet. Maybe Google gay bars in your area and find the kind that are sociable and/or cater to mature men. I don't think you have to worry about police entrapment anymore like you did when I was active, but play it safe with who you pick up and where you go. There are haters that our president has encouraged to come out from under their rocks.
I went a long time without gay sex. I'm married, we've had a very sexual marriage. But I need that feel of a man. I was on a site late last summer/early fall, when I began chatting with a guy. Two hors later, I was at his house, we went right into it and we've been together since. Our relationship is 100% physical sex. I do hope you find your partner. It's so fulfilling!
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40 year old in MN. My wife knows that I am bi however does not approve so I'm in the same boat. Its been 3 years since the last time I got to see another man's dick.
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In this day and age loads of gay,bi dating sites on internet my favourite is fabguys.
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I feel so much empathy to everyone here that knows what they want and are having a hard time finding that special guy. Gay bars or spas are ok as long as you are careful to start. Online sites can be a bit scary until you find someone you can trust and have mutual attraction. I have heard a couple of stories of hook ups getting filmed and then the married guy getting blackmailed, so be careful and safe.
I like Silverdaddies, as you can find local guys, some times men you know, or a relative. It makes approaching them much easier than just asking them if you could enjoy their cock. It takes all the pressure off. I still do sneak ads on Craigslist under "Missed Connections", and it isn't at all unusual to get 6-10 responses every weekend before they get flagged. I'm 67, and don't have the stamina I used to, but still usually suck off 4-5 men each weekend,and when I get lucky, one or more will fuck me.
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I have had a lot of luck with various hookup sites. Silver Daddies is great if you seek older/you are older. Squirt is good for random quick hookups.
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It sounds so hot and exciting to do random hook ups with guys been fantasizing for awhile havent tried anything yet
I haven't had much luck with my hookups (and they were all pre-pandemic, too, so I've kind of backed off). Either I'm not as bi as I thought or I have been having terrible luck with partners.
A poem for your enjoyment. Little something that came to me a couple days ago
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/erotic-poems/the-mistake-4
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Mostly happy with my marriage (except that I crave gay sex too) and not looking to leave, but definitely closeted. Sounds like even with the Internet it can be tricky to find good partners. If I do finally start seeking men, I'd probably lean towards wanting friends with benefits (or at least someone with mutual affection) rather than random hookups with strangers. I suppose I'd start with the dating sites and see who I meet. Or even try meeting up with a Lush friend. There seem to be quite a few of us middle-aged bi guys on here.
My entry in the Whodunnit? competition: Grilling the Suspects
I get dicked by a federal agent. My top-ten Le Noir Erotique competition entry: Dick Job
I pork everyone in my other Recommend Read, from the Punked competition: Pork by Northwest
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Mostly happy with my marriage (except that I crave gay sex too) and not looking to leave, but definitely closeted. Sounds like even with the Internet it can be tricky to find good partners. If I do finally start seeking men, I'd probably lean towards wanting friends with benefits (or at least someone with mutual affection) rather than random hookups with strangers. I suppose I'd start with the dating sites and see who I meet. Or even try meeting up with a Lush friend. There seem to be quite a few of us middle-aged bi guys on here.
Yes there does and a few surprises. I am looking for someone to top me on occasion . My gf is totally on board with me finding someone to give me some dick now and then.
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Recently tried oral...loved it, but am very concerned about STD's so it will be very limited I wish I could suck more cocks without worry.
I think your point is well-taken. I wonder how many of these random hookups resulted in someone bringing home something they didn't want.t
I’m married and tried coming out as bi to my wife with the hope she might be interested in a threesome. I had to walk it back a bit.
I am an avid cocksucker, and love groups, so when I came across a local email list for hosting all male parties, I started occasionally going. It’s always safe, and it’s rare I don’t swallow at least a couple loads every time I go.
Otherwise, I’m on Grindr hookups, my favorites being guys in hotels traveling.
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It sounds like so much fun to suck cock i fantasize of it i get so turned on . Just need to get the courage to try it . Maybe i procrastinate cause i might enjoy it to much..
I only did it once, before meeting my wife, but I sure found it to be as much fun as it sounds. You might very well enjoy it too much!
I think if I hadn't done it, I would have strayed by now, just to satisfy my curiosity. Not sure if/when I'll try it again, but I sure think about it often.
My entry in the Whodunnit? competition: Grilling the Suspects
I get dicked by a federal agent. My top-ten Le Noir Erotique competition entry: Dick Job
I pork everyone in my other Recommend Read, from the Punked competition: Pork by Northwest
Card catalog? Hard catalog! My library
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Will those who have been living a false lifestyle while being married, will you ever allow yourself to live like you'd like to, in old age?
I suspect one of the reasons a lot of guys come back around to recognize their sexuality as they hit their fifties and sixties is that with the kids getting grown up, they can do so with less risk of destroying their family.
My entry in the Whodunnit? competition: Grilling the Suspects
I get dicked by a federal agent. My top-ten Le Noir Erotique competition entry: Dick Job
I pork everyone in my other Recommend Read, from the Punked competition: Pork by Northwest
Card catalog? Hard catalog! My library
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Will those who have been living a false lifestyle while being married, will you ever allow yourself to live like you'd like to, in old age?
Thing is, I wouldn't say that i have been living a false lifestyle for the most part. Maybe in more recent times. I'm bi, meaning I can be satisfied by men or women so I can have fantasies and desires around men but still be happily married to my wife. Just like I can fantasize and have desires about other women but not act on them out of respect and love for her. And I was not even out to myself for much of my 30 years of marriage so it's not like I was deliberately hiding anything. I had some discoveries of my own to make before that even became an issue.
A poem for your enjoyment. Little something that came to me a couple days ago
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/erotic-poems/the-mistake-4
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Thing is, I wouldn't say that i have been living a false lifestyle for the most part. Maybe in more recent times. I'm bi, meaning I can be satisfied by men or women so I can have fantasies and desires around men but still be happily married to my wife. Just like I can fantasize and have desires about other women but not act on them out of respect and love for her. And I was not even out to myself for much of my 30 years of marriage so it's not like I was deliberately hiding anything. I had some discoveries of my own to make before that even became an issue.
Well said. "False lifestyle" is overly simplistic.
My entry in the Whodunnit? competition: Grilling the Suspects
I get dicked by a federal agent. My top-ten Le Noir Erotique competition entry: Dick Job
I pork everyone in my other Recommend Read, from the Punked competition: Pork by Northwest
Card catalog? Hard catalog! My library