Closeted married man

Quote by Seeker4

Thing is, I wouldn't say that i have been living a false lifestyle for the most part. Maybe in more recent times. I'm bi, meaning I can be satisfied by men or women so I can have fantasies and desires around men but still be happily married to my wife. Just like I can fantasize and have desires about other women but not act on them out of respect and love for her. And I was not even out to myself for much of my 30 years of marriage so it's not like I was deliberately hiding anything. I had some discoveries of my own to make before that even became an issue.

I missed this and finally saw it now.

There are a lot of guys who have a gay side. They may have a str8 side too, but if a marriage goes sexless that gay side rises to the surface. But, same sex desire is a powerful thing. Sometimes its so powerful that it does not take a sexless marriage to bring it to the forefront.

Quote by PEIslandman

There are a lot of guys who have a gay side. They may have a str8 side too, but if a marriage goes sexless that gay side rises to the surface. But, same sex desire is a powerful thing. Sometimes its so powerful that it does not take a sexless marriage to bring it to the forefront.

Well said. I'm aware of at least a couple guys who have had that happen. Their marriage went sexless, and maybe because they didn't want to cheat on their wives, or maybe because they suppressed thoughts of other women, but the desire for men came to the forefront.

And maybe you're right that it doesn't take a sexless marriage. Just the passage of time and all those unfulfilled fantasies lurking in the background.

I am also this. My previous wife knew about it and encouraged it. But my current wife, she has no idea that I’m bisexual.

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