When I was younger, I always thought I was straight. A lot of my masturbation fantasies when I was younger always involved straight sex. Most of the videos and pictures I came across involved women or straight couples (I'm male, BTW). It's only recently that I decided to explore the side of me that's attracted to men.
Part of that had to do with my cyber relationship with a guy that I met through a nudist site. Even though we drifted apart, I began to wonder. I'm almost certain that I am bisexual, but I'm hesitant to label myself that way until I actually have sex with a man.
There is an article that I read at one point that covers this topic: it can be found here. The article also has links to other sites that tell of people's GLBT experiences.
Has anyone had doubts about attraction outside of straight preferences? How did you dispel those doubts?
I was always curious both before and after my first hetero experience. After my first gay and then bisexual encounters I never really had any doubts about what I wanted. Although for almost 6 years I worked to not act on anything but hetero experiences. Not because I wanted to but I was in a committed relationship and she deserved my fidelity. But the urges were always there.
I experimented early in life with other boys and later was seduced by an older man (my first real sex with another male.) I didn't know about bisexuality but I knew I wasn't gay and I wasn't truly straight. Much later in life the terms 'bisexual' and 'androgynous' made everything I'd been confused about come into focus.
I still do have my doubts .. but i consider my self to be straight ... the doubt arises when suddenly i have this craving to be with transsexual women ... Am I gay ? I think not because i love women .. and women with that extra something turnw me on .. thats it ... and to be honest that is what brought me into crossdressing .. have a nice day everyone :D
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I haven't dispelled my doubts yet. I've always been straight in my actual activities and find women very attractive (Hell, I married one and I've had more than few crushes even now in my middle age years). Yet, there's this niggling attraction to the fantasy of having a guy that's become stronger over time. I can't really say that I've been attracted to or even crushed on any specific guys but the general idea of sex with a man enthralls me and I certainly get off to gay porn and images. So, I'm not totally sure that "bisexual" is the right label yet but I'm increasingly thinking it is.
Sex researchers (forget if it was Kinsey or M&J) seem to think there's a continuum running from gay to straight rather than discreet points so I'm likely somewhere on that continuum leaning towards the straight end but a long way from being at that end of the line. Speaking hypothetically (since I don't have time to do real research on this) if we had a scale from -5 to +5 where -5 means one is attracted to sex with opposite sex only, 0 means one is equally attracted to both sexes, and +5 means one is attracted to same sex only, I'd probably fall around a -1 or -2 rather than squarely on a 0. Mostly attracted to sex with women but open to sex with men as well. Then again, if I were to let go and actually have a sexual relationship with my own sex, who knows? Maybe I'd find I'm more or less into it than I currently think.
Quote by seeker4 I haven't dispelled my doubts yet. I've always been straight in my actual activities and find women very attractive (Hell, I married one and I've had more than few crushes even now in my middle age years). Yet, there's this niggling attraction to the fantasy of having a guy that's become stronger over time. I can't really say that I've been attracted to or even crushed on any specific guys but the general idea of sex with a man enthralls me and I certainly get off to gay porn and images. So, I'm not totally sure that "bisexual" is the right label yet but I'm increasingly thinking it is.
Sex researchers (forget if it was Kinsey or M&J) seem to think there's a continuum running from gay to straight rather than discreet points so I'm likely somewhere on that continuum leaning towards the straight end but a long way from being at that end of the line. Speaking hypothetically (since I don't have time to do real research on this) if we had a scale from -5 to +5 where -5 means one is attracted to sex with opposite sex only, 0 means one is equally attracted to both sexes, and +5 means one is attracted to same sex only, I'd probably fall around a -1 or -2 rather than squarely on a 0. Mostly attracted to sex with women but open to sex with men as well. Then again, if I were to let go and actually have a sexual relationship with my own sex, who knows? Maybe I'd find I'm more or less into it than I currently think.
I remember seeing something about a Kinsey bisexuality scale. It ranged from 0 to 6 (0 is straight, 6 is gay). I remember also reading that very few people sat at 6 or 0, but most don't act on anything other than either gay or straight attraction.
NO. I've known since I was very young that I was Bi. But I also knew that I wasnt going to be happy limiting myself to only being with one sex. I tried to when I was married and although I did not have sex with women (or anyone other than my husband) during that time, women were in my fantasies.
Quote by Leatherneck I'm bisexual, but sex with men is only sex. I have no opposition to the gay lifestyle.
I can definitely relate to that.
I love sex with both but so far for me sex with men has lacked an emotional or romantic connection that I felt with women.
My current fuck buddy of 3 years is a little different in that we have been friends for over 30 years but only fuck buddies the last 3. But even then it is just sex.
Not exactly doubts, no. I've always found both men and women attractive, but relationshipwise I was only interested in men up until my first and only girlfriend. That relationship has since then ended, but it had nothing to do with the fact that she's a female and just didn't do it for me. Do I still find women attractive? Absolutely. I'm attracted to both sexes equally, and I don't prefer one over the other. It all depends on who I click with, so I'm indifferent to sex. Right now I'm with an amazing guy...and we mesh quite well together. It's all about timing and what you like. I think with being bisexual, you kind of have to reach that point of figuring out what you do and don't like WITHOUT bringing their sex into consideration, otherwise you'll always feel just a bit confused. At least that's how it's been in my limited experience.
My doubts have aways been in others and not myself, especially after college and witnessing 'street sap'. Sap drips when seeking the syrup container. The forest is full of 'street' sap trees that run deep in sap and low in esteem.
I love sex with both but so far for me sex with men has lacked an emotional or romantic connection that I felt with women.
My current fuck buddy of 3 years is a little different in that we have been friends for over 30 years but only fuck buddies the last 3. But even then it is just sex.
You're lucky to have a fuck buddy. I should put in a little more effort into finding one for myself.
I'm kind of a slut, though. I always want to try someone new.
I've always wondered if I may be bisexual. I know for a fact I'm not a lesbian (I like men too much - In a non slutty way) I've just had a real interest in what it feels like to have sex with a girl, I'm talking about emotionally as well as physically. I've been turned on by girls but I really can't see myself with one. Maybe I'm just a confused little bunny
I'm constantly doubting myself on whether I'm bisexual and for periods of time, I will only lust after women and enjoy their company more then men and sometimes, I'll enjoy a man's comapny to a woman's. I know for sure that I can't date a man (believe me, I've tried and it didn't work out) because I always have an emotional and romantic attraction to women. So, yeah.
At one time or another I always get questioned about my lifestyle and whether I'm happy with it or not. For the most part I'm happy and I don't question it since I know how excited it makes me to be different and try new things every time.
Sure there were times I wasn't sure but the reason I questioned myself was because people would tell me that being bi was not a real thing! Iwas either gay or I wasn't.
I've had serious relationships with men and women and found both to be very fulfilling. I think my biggest dilema is that I enjoy being with both too much to give up either. This obviously has led to some real heartbreak. Probably the main reason why I suck at relationships. Anyone else have this kind of problem?
I'm always questioning myself, there are days I think I'm a lesbian, other days straight, some days I'm convinced I've suddenly become asexual! To me sexuality is fluid, the straightest of people could still fall in love with someone of the same gender as them, so don't worry about questioning yourself. Just go with the flow and love and fuck anyone who you want to regardless of gender
Oh, definitely. I was probably around 14/15 when I started finding myself attracted to girls, though I did my best to ignore it. And then I saw my first f/f porn, got extremely aroused, and tried to excuse that away, too. I had (have) a huge thing for gay porn, so in my head it was the same thing. Yeah. The whole denial thing didn't last long. I ended up seriously crushing on a girl when I was 19 and while it was only a brief thing it made me realize that yeah, I liked girls. Not quite as much as I like guys, but enough that I can hardly call myself heterosexual.
(My best friend once told me that it was probably just a "girl crush". That conversation ended when I told her that I fantasized about burying my face between her thighs and eating her out until she came all over me )
I fall for men more easily, and when I imagine myself in a long-term relationship the hypothetical partner tends to be male, but I check out women just as much, if not more sometimes, than I do guys. And when I watch porn I tend to fixate on the women more than I do the men. Whenever I start having doubts and that little voice tries to convince me that maybe I'm just bi-curious all I have to do is watch porn. Porn never lies.
So yeah, I still sometimes have my doubts. It would certainly be easier to just be straight and ignore whatever attraction I feel for women. But that would be lying to myself, and I don't ever want to let an opportunity to find a near-perfect partner pass me by just because being straight would be easier.
I realized I was bisexual before I had sex with a girl. I realized it when I was checking out girls as much as I was guys haha. For a really long time, I had my doubts that I had a lesbian side, because I had never been with a girl (and also because of religious reasons), but by the time I was sixteen, I knew I was. Still, when I see myself in the future married, it's usually with a man. I guess you could say I favor men, but I still adore the ladies. (:
The moment I realized I was bisexual, I was younger and i was hanging out with my childhood friend and I started sucking his cock, after my mouth got tired, he penetrated me...deep, and thats what freaked me out cuz i REALLY loved the feeling of his cock going in and out of me. That was the first time I ever got a mouthful of cum, which I enjoyed. One week after that, I wanted him again so he came gave it to me again so i was no longer "curious"..but i was ok to be officially a cock loving bisexual. I've had 8 more guys after him anyways.
have a nice day everyone :D
