Kimasa’s post ‘Have you ever…’ in Ask the Gals, got me thinking…
There have been times when we’ve ‘got to the bedroom’ and as lower garments have been removed, the smell is enough to tell you there’s something that’s not going to be happening. Fortunately it’s never been bad enough to ruin the evening, but something has quietly been taken ‘off the menu’.
If this has happened to you (boys or girls; this can happen both ways!), do you tell? Before or after? In the unlikely event it’s you putting your partner off, would you want to be told?
Almost a follow on question, does it make any difference if it’s a new partner or someone you’re with regularly?
It's happened occasionally with both first time encounters and regular partners.
New Partner - don't tell, put up with it but ya, certain thing I was thinking of doing just don't happen.
Regular Partner - let her know it's a little...wuff...leads to us in the shower and sometimes not making it back to the bed
Being told - never by a new partner, but my GF's and wife have occasionally told me that I need to wash up a bit - same result as previous
Quite honestly this has never happened to me ; I think that anyone who just cares a little about his/her personal hygiene won't smell just by removing his/her underwear. If you put your nose "up there" maybe, but then again...
You're question is not quite clear. What do you imply by "something off the menu"? No anal? No sex at all?
If it was a long term partner I'd most probably tell her and joke about it. Like I said it never happened to me, so if it did happen it would most probably have been caused by some random bad luck.
For a very first partner, I don't know what I'd do. For sure my opinion about her would be quite negative, since for the first time I'd "smell her" she would give quite a bad impression. I'd probably offer a shower... and might have sex but never call her up again. It depends on the girl in general I guess.
I would tell, its only fair
Mmm.
Tough one. I doubt I'd ever have that problem with a girl, but I believe you can approach it covertly by suggesting foreplay in the shower to get hot and ready.
Honestly, we are "animals" in a way. We're all going to smell not so great depending on circumstances.
But I imagine if you wash well on a daily basis and use your deodorant, you shouldn't worry unless you really have something going on that requires a visit to the doctor.
I mean, a one time thing shouldn't be a problem.
We can't be expecting sex 24/7 and keeping ourselves prim, proper, and ULTRA clean for sex at any moment. Good god, we DO have lives outside of the bedroom.
If it happens on more than one occasion, yea. I'd say something. Mainly because there might be a health issue that needs to be addressed.
I've read a few ladies here on Lush talking about guys that stunk. They've gone down on a man before and he smelled like ass. I can imagine that would be a turn off and oral would definitely be off the table. Did they tell him, that I don't know.
As for me, I've had a smelly situation once. It was with someone I knew from work, we'd flirted for weeks before we finally found ourselves alone in my office. We were fooling around and I got my hand inside her pants and was playing there. When I removed my hand to push her pants down, the smell was absolutely horrendous. I wasn't smelling pussy. Or long day at work pussy mixed with sweat or whatever. It was sick pussy. Foul pussy. I wasn't mean or ugly but suddenly I found that I'd lost track of time and I needed to go. NOW. My fingers smelled of it and I washed and washed. Finally had to use car garage Orange pumice soap just to wash it off. Blech.
We remained friendly after that day, flirted and all but luckily we never managed to find ourselves alone again. I made sure of that.
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I had a "personal" friend a while ago that was a runner... On the advice of her Dr. she went on a regimen of cod liver oil pills and cale to maintain her levels of something or other... After a few days, shower or not, I couldn't take the odor enough to go south on her. It was tough for me to do but I finally had to say something to her. She had no idea and thanked me profusely for letting her know because she takes the subway everyday and it's usually packed and in close quarters.
Needless to say, she went against the advice of her Dr.!!!!!
One of my favourite foreplays is bathing together...
One of my favourite foreplays is bathing together...