I just think they are incognito and don't want their boss, parents, children, siblings, co-workers, clients, neighbors, and so forth, knowing that they read & write sex stories. Lush is a great escape from the other world, where you can meet and make new friends and share things that you are uncomfortable sharing with the people I mentioned. I've made wonderful friends here on Lush with many people that I have never seen their face.
I think that they don't want pics up and it's their prerogative to do so. This is a sexually charged ADULT social site, not Facebook. Most people choose to remain anonymous for a reason.
I don't like it, it leaves me guessing and I don't like to guess. I understand some people can't for particular reasons, but I like to be able to see people. I think it makes it easier to make a connection with them. I like to see people's faces and their smiles! It's not that I don't like them or trust them it's just nice to see them.
i get to know people well enough to trust them before they see pix of me - get your minds out of the gutter, i don't do nudes. anyone can post a picture - doesn't mean it's them. i don't really care. i care more about the people behind the picture. that's just me. if someone doesn't trust me based on me having an avatar as opposed to a photo on an adult web site, that's fine with me - can't say i blame them.
btw, that photo over there? *points to avatar* not me. looks very similar to me, but it's not, in case anyone was curious.
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I think those people, for the most part, are just trying to protect themselves. Like others have said, this is a nice escape from the "real world" and lots of people probably don't want to be found here. It took me a long time to post a photo of myself, and even now I protect the photos I do post. Only a few, very trusted friends have access to them.
i trust 'em just fine - or at least much as anyone else here. after all, how many people who message me are using actual pics of themselves? (i have to assume there are only so many calvin klein models on lush at any given time).
but...
i do find the whole, "i can't be bothered to upload anything, but please send me pictures of your boobs" vibe a little annoying. lazy, i say - lazy!!!!
Quote by Autumn17 I don't like it, it leaves me guessing and I don't like to guess. I understand some people can't for particular reasons, but I like to be able to see people. I think it makes it easier to make a connection with them. I like to see people's faces and their smiles! It's not that I don't like them or trust them it's just nice to see them.
Don't automatically take it for granted people who DO show pics are actually showing you pictures of themselves.
Quote by TheDevilsWeakness Trust? Online? Not a chance. With or without a picture.
I've been staring at those boobs for weeks now...
I feel so let down *huffs*
Buz is right. For many people, anonymity is an important part of being a member of a site like this due to it's adult nature.
I never judge a person on whether or not they decided to share a photo or two.
It does not bother me. Lush is more about fantasy than reality. Imagining what people actually look like can be fun. I chose to put a real pic of myself up for all to see. I'm not in the least bit concerned that people who know me might find out that I read and write erotica. My real name is on here too now. In for a penny, in for a pound.
I'm not bothered about what you look like, I'm more interested in what you have to say. This is not my reality, its my place to indulge in others erotic work and I truly appreciate it too.
I personally don't care. Put pictures up or not. I have to admit though that I like putting a face to the text. I like having an accurate mental image of the person I am talking to. What bothers me is when people present themselves as someone they are not, as in sending or showing pictures that are NOT them and claiming it IS them. And that happens a lot more often here on LUSH than some might think, and chances are one or two of YOUR friends is not really the person you have grown to trust, like, and maybe even a bit more. Some might not have a problem with that, but I do, and I know others who do as well.
I'll talk to someone no matter what there pictures depict but I do get kind of suspicious when someone doesn't have a single picture up, even a fake one off the net...
Not having YOUR picture as your AV doesn't bother me at all, But leaving it to the generic red face does. I understand you wanting your privacy but it would be nice if you at least posted a pic that depicted something about you. Like maybe a cat if you are a cat lover, a surfer if you surf or maybe a woman in handcuffs if your into bondage, etc. And no guys, that doesn't mean a generic cock if you think you have a big one, LOL!
But I do get upset when a person leaves their profile totally blank. It would nice to know something about them, likes and dislikes, etc. I don't think that is too much to ask for!
I will chat with or friend a person because we connect and not because of their AV.
Quote by JohnC I personally don't care. Put pictures up or not. I have to admit though that I like putting a face to the text. I like having an accurate mental image of the person I am talking to. What bothers me is when people present themselves as someone they are not, as in sending or showing pictures that are NOT them and claiming it IS them. And that happens a lot more often here on LUSH than some might think, and chances are one or two of YOUR friends is not really the person you have grown to trust, like, and maybe even a bit more. Some might not have a problem with that, but I do, and I know others who do as well.
I am with JohnC. I really do like putting a face to the text, but I don't believe most of the pictures that are posted for a moment. I'd rather see no pic rather than someone else's who doesn't know its being used.
Quote by Autumn17 I don't like it, it leaves me guessing and I don't like to guess. I understand some people can't for particular reasons, but I like to be able to see people. I think it makes it easier to make a connection with them. I like to see people's faces and their smiles! It's not that I don't like them or trust them it's just nice to see them.
Not to be picky or anything, but just checked your profile and you have no pictures... kinda a double standard don't you think??
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It doesn't bother me too much. I do wish there was something for a avatar but then I hate when a guy puts a girls picture up even if he is not pretending to be a girl. It just gets confusing. And I hate when a picture is used that doesn't represent that person at all.
I got a request to chat from a 61 year old man the other night but he had a picture of man in his late teens or early 20s as his profile picture.
Lush is about fantasy, but I don't like confusion.
Let me play Devil's Advocate for a second because I'm in that sort of mood:
To the people saying everyone should post pics just because you yourself choose to do so: Maybe people DON'T post pics here for the very reasons that you DO post pics.
Everyone has a choice, and shouldn't be bullied into doing it. I've shown myself to a very select few people here simply because I felt like it.
I'm not saying I stop traffic or anything, but I get enough unwanted attention as it is on this site. I'm not complaining or anything, because I've been here a long time, and it's just one of those things that comes along with being a member of this site and having a vagina. Add an actual picture of myself, and it'd be unbearable. Again, not being conceited, but just the visual itself would send people through the roof.
I'm not interested in people seeing what I look like. Or all the things they'd like to do to me. Because that's exactly what happens to everyone here who has pics of themselves up. Because this is a sex site, people think it's OK to leave the most obscene comments on the most obscure pics of people, even if the pics aren't even inherently sexual. And if that's your thing, well more power to you. But it's not mine.
It's not the kind of attention I want. It's my choice and the choice of many others. And it's a choice we're entitled to make without it being questioned.
As far as the trust issue goes, you should be careful with or without pics. If I can't trust the person behind the pic, then seeing your mug won't make a damn bit of difference. And that's assuming I actually believe the pic is of you. There are ways of finding out. Duh.
I really can't believe this is a question.
Disclaimer: I'm not trying to discourage anyone from posting pics. That's why the option to upload images is here. I'm merely pointing out the fact that it's not something that everyone HAS to do. And I'm against making it seem as if it's some sort of blight on your character not to post them.