I can honestly say it's never happened to me before.
Being relatively new here, I do find the custom of thanking someone for adding you as a friend by posting a bunch of gifs to their wall is odd. While I'm not necessarily offended, it does feel like my personal space being decorated by some stranger I've only just met. It also seems like a rather public display of affection (orperversion). ;)
I do not do it, and know it would not happen in real life conversation with a new person, so why should it happen here
It gets pretty annoying sometimes, and if I've never talked to you before, there's no way I'm going to respond anyway. It's sometimes more funny than anything, especially when the pictures don't look real at all and they claim that it's them. Also, people who post Gifs on my wall and I sometimes delete the ones I don't want there, and then think they can message me "Why did you delete my picture on your wall??" Uhm....why do you think? Because I didn't like it... not to mention that I don't need to explain myself to this person that I don't even know! That's another thing, some people on this site don't get that you might not like something, or you might not want to talk to them, simply because you just don't want to talk to them. If you're going to send me pics, wait until I ask for them or at least until we've had a decent conversation. (more than a one sided "Damn, you're hot.")
Absolutely not!
It's way below junk mail on my disgust scale and I think it's very arrogant of the sender. I get to chose what I want to look at. That applies to everyone too.
I like to say, "Hi." to people for the first with my pants on and I appreciate it when they do too.
I mean I don't mind but I probably won't answer.
Well, considering this site, this is a gray area. I guess it just boils down to how much contact you've at least had with them. If you've not even sent them a private message before, that would set off some red flags. If you've had a little more contact with them, like you've IMed them, and have talked a little bit, it might be a little less inappropriate. I suppose if you have had cyber sex with them, that would be different too. So, really, no one person can one answer for this. It's a case by case basis. For the record, I wouldn't send nude pics to anyone, except my gf, on this site, or anywhere else.
This whole discussion makes me wonder, who those people are. I have made some of those experiences too. They are more annoying than anything else to me. However what kind of person decides that sending naked pics of yourself to a stranger is a good ides. Or just sending porn. What do they hope to get out of this. Attention? Praise? I think not. From what I heard so far most people seem to react the same way as I do by just ignoring them. Of course this is an erotic site and that bends the rules of human interaction a little. But that doesn't mean you should abandon them completely. So whoever those people are, I would like to tell them. I think your behavior is rude and unwarranted. But most of all it makes me question your intellect and your manners.
No. Not if you have any 'couth' at all!
Typical of disrespectful people who take it upon themselves to do this. It shows the lack of self esteem and not much in character...mostly that of a fence post.
Personally, I would never PM someone I didn't know unless they look interesting and have given me permission to do so in their profile. I personally feel the people that PM strangers are, unfortunatly, the stalkers of of this website! New people, please be wary of strangers that PM you, there are many unsavory characters on this site! Just a friendly warning!
I am not a very visual person, I like the mental stimulation on this site but sometimes a suggestive or sensual picture helps that stimulation. Straight out pictures of someone's body parts are a complete turnoff
It would be a turn on if I got one from a female and send one back
This has happened to me. Twice. From the same person and even after I told him the first time that I was not impressed. Yes, you know who you are. Funny thing is, he didn't even have the ability to send it a different gif, or topic line, or message, so god knows how many people he has sent the same message to. I just dont think its appropriate at all. What are they hoping for, a message in return saying how wet it made me?? Send more please?? Trust me, this guy creeped me out and is now blocked. Its not cool. At all.
I get it, but I think it's somewhat inappropriate. I hate the PM's, but if a friend posts something on my wall that I don't care for, I just delete it. No, it's not cool from strangers, but I do like to see what my friends are into, and show them what I am. I always follow up though to see if the interest was shared, and make sure they know I won't be offended if they delete any images.
Lush is an adult site, but it's fundamentally an erotic fiction site, and not a porn site. Many people come here to escape the world of porn, or at least avoid it. I think it's important to respect that, but on the other side, I got a message the other day from somebody saying that all porn is offensive to them, and how dare I let anybody post it on my wall. They scored story low for that, too while acknowledging it was good... Some people are jerks.
By the way, for the person to whom this sounds like it could be you, it wasn't. It was the person who obviously knows it, because they were extremely rude and contacted me completely out of the blue. They are not somebody with whom I was discussing the topic.
I am an adult, a member of an adult site. With this being an adult site, and the majority of the writings of this site being of an erotic/and yes, porn nature .... some people, not all just assume such behavior is acceptable. I see it as a fetish .... some just need to show, while others need to write to get off. ( shoulder shrug ) Having received of such from both male and female, I usually just delete, and go with life. If such is of continuance, whether from a Lush friend or out of the blue, it's off to the black hole of dwell. ( primarily known as the blocked area of Lush ) I like to think of those I have sent there as now having a place to share their sends .... in hopes they have found solace amongst each other. I am not saying I approve .... it is my way of seeing, dealing and doing.
Those who send genital pics of themselves randomly to other members are:
1) Disturbed
2) young and/or dont know any better.
3) Don't really give a shit and are just doin it for thier own kicks.
and a block if they keep bothering me:)
I appreciate all the postings on my wall. That's one of the reasons why I visit the site. However I find it inappropriate if a member, friend or not, starts to PM sexual or genital images of himself/herself. I find it self-destructive.
