Why would anyone like to be humiliated and degraded?

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Quote by Pinkfloyd75
thank you

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a few thoughts, one actually. there is a huge difference between a Domme saying/doing things to humiliate their sub because they know it sexually arouses the s sub to be treated like that and a Domme who really means them. Subs are going to know the difference, and recognize it for what is is; the Domme looking after the needs of the sub, feeding that arousal for the sake of the sub, not because of any real need to degrade them. in a way, it's roleplay and the sub knows that they don't truly mean those things, no matter how convincing they might act/sound.

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Absolutely Sprite! It can be like dirty talk in any kind of sex. 90% of what is said is role play. Both people know the other person you are calling and SOB is not someone who doesn't know who his/her daddy is, or that their Mama is a poodle ya know?
We must say over and over to ourselves, that this is not about one person "getting over" on another person. It is about two people who care about each other, choosing to play with each other, having fun, and enhancing
the pleasure and meaning of their sexual play.

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Absolutely Sprite! It can be like dirty talk in any kind of sex. 90% of what is said is role play. Both people know the other person you are calling and SOB is not someone who doesn't know who his/her daddy is, or that their Mama is a poodle ya know?
We must say over and over to ourselves, that this is not about one person "getting over" on another person. It is about two people who care about each other, choosing to play with each other, having fun, and enhancing
the pleasure and meaning of their sexual play.

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thats true and I agree, its supposed to be fun and erotic. It pretty much just enhances the roleplay of a sub and dom

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For some it actually turns THEM on... the submissive... I hear this in cuckold, and wife swap things I have read, and even people have told me about their personal lives. I have looked at pictures of implements that look torturous as well as grotesque. I have heard of people craving to be called all sorts of derrogatory names. For some, it is punishment, control, and for some, they WANT and enjoy the punishment and degradation that comes with humilation.


I cannot say as I understand -personally speaking, either, it is not the aspects of BDSM I am into. There is so much diversity in kinks. What might seem hellish to one person might be highly arousing and significant to another. I enjoy sex studies and learning.

I wish those into it would explain more.

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I am trying to learn and understand here, not put anyone down.

For me it is important to treat other people with respect, and most of all those you are is a near relationship with. I have through my work seen relations where one partner is abusing and destroying the other - and psychological abuse can be just as destroying as physical violence.

I guess I am not wired for BDSM, but I would think that there must be a mutual respect between Dom and Sub, and a trust that the Dom is not going to damage his/her sub physically or psychologically.

Is that what you mean by difference between humiliation and degrading? Humiliation is pushing your limit into embarassing and awkward territory that may be or become likable anyhow? But degradation is abuse.

But do you agree that the relationship between Dom and Sub should have a mutual respect, that the Dom is not more worth as a human beeng then his/her Sub, and that a Dom should not damage a Sub?