@OP
I'm saying this in all sincerity. You have to be more assertive. You should have told him to eff off and blocked him. You're a sub not a door mat..and he is a manipulative, narcissistic, and lonely piece of shit. I mean seriously? Who does that? In BDSM or Vanilla relationships and he is giving off some serious psycho vibes.
I have two male subs and 1 female subs in my service and I personally do not care who they speak to online as long as I'm not being disrespected. I don't stalk their online activity. They are free to speak to who they please because THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE.
You are a person that deserves respect and care but unfortunately you have to be very assertive when you're seaching for a Dom because there are so many predators out here. I'm a little nervous about what you would do in a real life situation. This is your safety....take control.
You're new to this, and people are taking advantage of it. I'd suggest you to tell the guy to get the f*** away. and start choosing wisely your friends and with whom you interact. pm me if you need help. Help only.
I am sick of so-called "Doms" that are like that (and the whole after a week of talking they're barking orders at you). That's not a Dom...that's an asshole. End of story. I think it's ridiculous (whether it's a sub or a Dom) to be talking for a week (or any other short period of time) and suddenly assume that they're yours or you're theirs. Online is harder, because it's such a fantasy world.
But honey, any guy who gets on your case for talking to other people or making accusations, or barking out orders you're not comfortable with...simply block. It takes a helluva lot longer than a week to establish a relationship (even an online one). Regarding the accusation thing you said...what it sounds like to me is that this is a guy with anger issues, low self esteem, and prone to jealousy. In the real world, that's a prick bf; someone who (if the gf allows it) has no friends outside of him, will have hell bestowed upon her if she talks to another guy, and has everything controlled by him non-consensually. Essentially...an abuser. Maybe he's had gfs like that and soon they realized what kind of a person he is and kicked him to the curb. So he goes online and creates a Dom profile, in search of a young, innocent, inexperienced girl who has submissive tendancies...jackpot for him huh. He thinks it's so much easier to control a girl this way and paint himself as a big strong Dominant, because with only typed words, you can't see what a true asshole he is in real life (or only to a point).
Anyway, I'll stop going on and on. Just remember, any "Dom" that rushes isn't worth it and you have no obligation to anyone if they're not your real Dom. Stay safe darling...xx.
~*~*~* Only the one that hurts you can make you feel better ~*~*~*
~*~*~* Only the one that inflicts pain can take it away~*~*~*
Check out my latest story: Drawn to Addy - Part 2 Here. Here to Lacy and Lilgirl.. I think they summed it up nicely. This guy has been watching to many porn clips. You see the 7 minutes of sex act...but not the other 78 minutes that goes with it. It takes time to get a connection and build a relationship. Yes that is equal to online and real life encounters. Plus along the way, you will probably screw it up at least once.. and thats in a good relationship. lol There are people that want to be submissive strictly for the getting off factor, and there are people who want it because they need it. Figure out which one you are, and then take it from there. But always always trust your instincts and be honest!!
