Im a baby girl submissive. My question is how do you deal/react when a Dom (is not your Dom just a Dom) starts accusing you of things that you never did.
How do you fight back with out stepping overboard?
It depends if you mean online or not.
If it’s online, I’d block him. You have no reason to put up with someone’s shit if he is accusing you of things that you haven’t done. Who is he to tell you what you have or haven’t done.
If you want to stand up for yourself, which you can even if you’re a submissive, tell him he is wrong. That he has no right to tell you that you’ve done something you haven’t. If this person means something to you, even if he isn’t your Dom, you’ll want to prove this, but it’s not up to you to prove it.
It’s not his place to tell you this. Who is he to say what you have or haven’t done anyways, if he isn’t you Dom, it’s not his place to tell you anything. This goes with a real in person Dom as well. He isn’t YOUR Dom, so you don’t need to justify yourself.
A real, true Dom wouldn’t do this anyway, considering you’re not his submissive. He seems like a prick to me.
I agree with Poppet. I'd block him. Again don't listen to him and he is wrong. Just listen to YOur Master.
Let your real Dom handle it. That's what I'd do.
[url]http://[/url] Well the thing is.. I don't have a Master/Mistress, so I can't let them take over if they are non-existent in my life.
Yes, this whole thing started online. We were talking platonically for a week or so. During this time I was also talking to a couple other of my friends who are also Doms/Dommes. He "found out" about it then accused me of keeping that from and then "lying" about it. So because I did that I'm an unfaithful sub? and a Cheater? because I had a total of 5 casual conversations with this dude.
I'm blocking him, I just don't understand. How could a Dom (even a fake on) get this super crazy?
It just leaves a bad taste in my mouth.. you know
Sounds like you were whorin' around with multiple doms and covering it up. No biggie, it's lush. The dom that got pissed should know that happens.
If he's NOT YOUR Dom, how exactly would you be overstepping anything? You wouldn't.
First of all, I'm not in the lifestyle, so my opinion may not matter here.
But... I strongly dislike the idea of manipulation of another under the guise of 'chivalry/etiquette' or 'BDSM rules' or whatever it is a Dom considers as acceptable behaviour by anyone he considers an underling.
My assumption was that if one considers themselves a sub that they show respect to Doms in general, but that they are still a free-agent and have autonomy over themselves, their time and their attention.
While I don't know the rules of the game, I'm posting because it pisses me off when I see manipulation, subtle social threats and the equivalent of 'slut-shaming' as a method of trying to control someone or bully them into something they don't want to do. Whoever this guy is, he's a first class Asshole (and I capped the 'A' since he calls himself a Dom). You did nothing wrong, littlebirdie - whether in a BDSM environment or a general social environment. There are no implied promises just because you're chatting with a guy. Until you make a commitment, you still get to choose.
Seems to me that you need to be a bit of a dom here and tell whoever has annoyed you, prob Felix and the other twerp, to Eff Off lol
I've found that the block button works very well in the chat rooms. If someone is annoying, block them. You can stay in the chat room and play without having to put up with them. You can also keep them from pms and black boxes and keep them from seeing that you're online.
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