Ravyn, you hit the nail right on the head. This is a work of fiction and as a work of fiction I have no problems with it. My problem is that the main stream media as well as population is using this book to try and learn something about our community. As a community we have a responsibility to 1) respect the opinions of others as far as their taste in a book and 2) educate those that feel this is how the community works on what it actually means to be involved in it.
As a work of fiction enjoy.
If you are truly wanting to learn about the community this site, FetLife and others where the community that is active is there constantly to answer questions is a much better way to learn.
If you have read 50 Shades of Gray and think that you are ready to be a dom or a sub. Then you have a lot to learn.
Follow my slave's blog slave skye's real life blog if we can get 100 followers she is going to start posting pictures!!! I know there are at least 100 of you that want to see that click the link enter your email and follow. We hit 100 then she has said she will post a picture of herself. I have finished 50 Shades and am now onto 50 Shades of Darker. I enjoyed the first book very much but I will wait until I read all 3 before coming to any kind of conclusion. If people just read it for enjoyment they might like it. Its not by any means a guide to BDSM but it is also not as bad as those are depicting it either.
I read this story when it was fanfiction. It was alright, could have been cleaned up with grammar etc. Not really a work of liteature like Jane Austen etc.
My co-workers are talking about it. One chick at work is obsessed with Christian and says she wishes she was called Anastasia. And hopefully will meet a guy called Christian. But she is one of those girls that once the new thing comes in, she drops the old thing.
She even told me she is in a BDSM relationship. Which sounded almost like the relationship of Ana and Christian. lol.
My other co-work dislikes the series because she was in an abusive relationship when she was 19 and she says she can see her 19 year old self in Anastasia.
It's like Twilight all over again.
In answer to the original question there really isn't much about a real BDSM relationship. I knew the author had done research via google, bdsm sites etc. A part of me is glad that there is some interest in the lifestyle another part of me is that there is a lot to learn about the complex relationship of a dom/sub.
I was with my mistress for a year and a half. She taught me a lot about the bdsm world.
"Sexual pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken."
Simone de Beauvoir
Personally, I cannot see what all the fuss is about. It is just a book and by no means an authorative writing on BDSM.
I have seen much better stories on here but the writer was obviously in the right place at the right time and hats off to her for improving her bank balance!
“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
LOL I love that "Twilight Re-Mastered" has taken off so well... *ahem*
I have finished all three of these books, 50 Shades of Grey, 50 Shades of Darker and 50 Shades of Freed. I enjoyed them all very much. Again as I said before these are by no means the BDSM bible or handbook but as a series of books they were very enjoyable. Take them for what they are, a work of fiction from an authors mind and imagination. If you read all of them you can see why Christian was the way he was and why Ana stayed with him. Most us are a product of our making and he was no different except his was very extreme in my opinion. So, if you want a good story with some sex thrown in there then the books are not bad at all. Pulitzer prize winning? No but enjoyable nonetheless.
I couldn't get past the horrific writing of the author....
So far ive only had the pleasure of reading one. But i plan on reading the rest!
I read all three in less than a week. I read fast. Having them electronic makes it a lot easier. I found them as a series very tame. To me it was a love story with a little BDSM thrown in to spice it up. I just don't get all the hype. Here in America anything that provokes thought and is about sex sells. We are such a repressed mass. It takes a lot more than those books to get me going. It was young naive girl meets man who sweeps her off her feet. They fall in love . Have problems. Solve problems oh there is sex involved.
Let's move on.
This was amongst a lot of novels on my new Kindle thingy and I've started to read it after seeing these posts. I feel this work is very cliche full of juvenile expletives and quite badly written. The narrator told things rather than showed them. The main protagonists were totally unlikeable - the female came across as brain dead and shallow impressed by appearances and material things despite her statements to the contrary;and as for the martial arts whilst having sex bit that left me feeling that anyone who gets off that way seems a bit sad to want to dominate but that's just my taste - no doubt wielding a whip and getting burned by candle wax is a turn on for some. But my main criticism is the bad writing. For example the sexy contract - it was as boring as reading the terms and conditions for joining some new age religious organisation. I gave up reading it - it was like watching paint dry. I can't remember who wrote it but to me it's like a Barbie and whatever her boy friend's called with BDSM accessories.
i personally loved the book, some people thought it was poorly written but remember she only wrote this book for fun! not to be a best seller!
Lets not forget the epic Tampon Scene.
If there ever was a scene in a Romance book this would have to be it. Now I know when I am wearing a tampon during surfing the crimson wave. I don't take it out for sex that is why I use my anus for fucking lol.
"Sexual pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken."
Simone de Beauvoir
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