Why does a straight guy fall for a girl he knows to be a lesbian?
And why does he stick around, sometimes forever, when there can be no sexual interaction?
If you are a young lesbian on Lush you actually get to meet some great guys,
but why? and why so many friend requests from Guys????
Oh yes there are the "Lay Preachers", those guys who Preach that salvation from your lesbian ways is assured by them Laying you.
But the others, the good guys? speak up.....
I don't think any of the choices are valid. And trying to convert someone is not falling for them. I think the reason people fall for someone of a different orientation is exactly the same reasons as they fall for anyone else.
Once at summer camp I had a night with a straight-curious lesbian. It was fun, but she never wanted to try it again, so I guess the same can't be said for her...
Guys like attractive gals no matter their orientation. Even if there is no chance of a sexual relationship, having a girl-friend who is a lesbian is nice. Not only does she have better insight into women, but she even views women in a similar light so she can provide a really good point of view. Plus, what a great wingman!
Guys are pigs and will hit on everything with a pulse.
If the girl is a lesbian it means she is unreachable and it will become a sport to a guy to get that girl. The hunt begins and guys are hunters.. It sorta means guys are stupid too tight?? hmm or primitive.. But hey, we mean well ;)
If a guy finds a girl interesting in a sexual way it doesn't matter which way she is leaning. I know lots of lez and bi girls (now adays it seems to be part of being a woman to like women). Of course you learn that it is only friendship, but guys are horny devils and we can always hope a girl will like US if not men in general. As for bi I like the majority of guys for some perverted kinky reason enjoy seeing women making love to each other. I think in our minds we put ourselves in either of their places with the other one. And of course having two lovers (girls are the same way) is hot. I once put my arms around two lez girls without thinking. It wasn't for sexual reasons, but we were joking and having fun and I just did it as I was between them. But they both gave me that LOOK "Back off mate!" and I did and smiled and they then smiled back to show no hard feelings. But I didn't do it again.
Most lesbian 'girls' on lush are guys pretending to be girls.
Most Guys on lush, are hard up and will try and hit on anything they believe to be female.
I've seen, and known a lot of lesbian girls, none of who I am remotely interested in, as most of them are really trying hard to pretend, that they are guys or some kind of androgynous pseudo guy.
Not at all attractive to me.
In x number of years, I've only seen one, I found remotely attractive, and she was covered in tattoos. Probably not good in bed and probably not good at sucking cocks... so why bother?
Probably a gay guy is better at sexually pleasing another man than a lesbian girl. I don't consider myself attracted to guys either.
So again, why bother.
To each their own. I'm quite sure a lesbian girl, who is trying to appear masculine, is going to be pissed off, when a hetrosexual guy hits on her, as it questions her 'manliness'
Not saying it's not ok to be lesbian, gay or other. Just not attractive, to me.
Plenty of beautiful, attractive sexually hetrosexual women to choose from.
I don't know about here on Lush because I'm still kinda "new". It's likely as some say that many of the "lesbians" here are guys pretending just for the stroke interaction. IRL, I know several lesbians. They can be as fucked up or great people as anyone else. I don't understand why every interaction with other people has to include sex. It doesn't. I know gay men and lesbians and sex never enters into the equation. We can be colleagues or even friends without any sex involved. Grow up, people.
Indeed, not every interaction has to lead to sex or be sexually motivated / focused (no matter the sexual orientation or preference)...... that would make a wonderful thread of its own.
By and large, bi/les girls tend to be more visual than straight girls as far as their profiles are concerned. This leads many to people to question their honesty (and many times those suspicions are well founded)
Most straight girls on here learn pretty early on to lock down their profiles and will rarely put up face pics much less leave them for open for anyone to see. Bi and les girls tend not to behave in the same way.
The pictures on your profile are very attractive, irrespective of your orientation. They tell people viewing your profile that you're body confident and that you have a web cam - for a lot of men here that's too much to resist.
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NEW! Want a quick read for your coffee break? Why not try this... Flash Erotica: Scrubber Guys like to hang out(not hit on) with other guys and lesbians. Girls like to hang out with other girls and gay men because these groups are like-minded to each other. I cant stand hanging out with gay men because, basically, they have taken every atribute of a straight woman that is annoying and multiplied them by 10. They are twice as feminine as an actual woman! This is why guys like lesbians. They think more like we do than straight women. Straight women will nag us and not ever really get why we act the way we act, but a lesbian will join in and tell dick and fart jokes right along with us guys. That and two girls eating pussy is fucking hot! We know we dont have a shot in hell, but we'll sure watch
if I see her tag says she is a lesbian then I don't bother sending a friend request. For guys who think if they can only fuck them they will change there ways.... dream on. Try the bi girls instead. way better chance there cuz they go both ways. I really think its becuz lesbians at least most of the ones online are so fucking HOT! We think to ourselves...... damn she's so beautiful I want to fuck her then she will see what she is missing. lol so guys just look at em jerk off and have your fantasy cuz that's just the way it is!
I would need a specific situation to answer of why straight guys fall for gay girls.
So, I will try to answer generally from a guy's perspective:
If the guy isn't too perceptive, he may think 'lesbian' means 'I occasionally have sex with girls' instead of 'I only have sex with girls'. Sometimes, in colloquial English the term can be used to describe a mode of operation than a mode of being ('I have lesbian sex' vs 'I am a lesbian').
Maybe they think lesbian is just another word for bi?
The guy doesn't think lesbians exist? (I don't know how this one works)
Maybe he thinks everyone wants to have sex with a guy? (gay guys want to bang guys, straight women want to bang guys, so why wouldn't 'lesbian' women? They're women after all... and don't all women want to bang guys?)
It would be a blow to their ego to admit that someone (or a group of people) doesn't want to sleep with them?
They're just hoping that a woman who has never had sex with a man before will take a chance on them?
The guy thinks that a woman describing herself as a lesbian is just a way for her to say she doesn't want to sleep with him without being mean about it (this is the most realistic one I've come up with).
And there are probably others...
It's actually really difficult for me to figure out why a guy would fall for a lesbian. Probably because I'm not a complete idiot (I'm mostly an idiot).
as for the reason guys are trying to add you? that's simple. most guys are visual creatures and want to see more of you.
Well, it can be lots of things. It's a common enough phenomenon, honestly. I suppose I'll try and lay this out in as organized a manner as possible, given how scattershot my brain has been lately. As I see it there are three common causes to this syndrome: wanting what you can't have and/or having difficulty separating emotions and sex; the guy believes he can cure lesbianism or ;or a secret or concealed sexual orientation/identity other than purely heterosexual male/heteromasculine.
#1: The guy in question is unable, or finds it extremely difficult to distinguish between their platonic feelings for somebody and a possible sexual attraction. With that said, the reasoning is often that if his feelings for you are so confusing, maybe yours are for him too. I don't think this comes from an intent to take advantage of that confusion (which we are all aware does not exist in you). This version of the phenomenon is also often contributed to by a desire to have what isn't attainable. He may also be subconsciously using these feelings to provide a safety from rejection in the general hostility of the dating world.
#2: He really is a jerk. He believes he can fix you either with his words or his magical penis, or he does not believe that lesbians exist at all, and that it will simply turn out that you love cock once you feel his. Yes, this guy is an asshole, and we all want to punch him. I don't think, however, that it's fair to lump all guys who contact you through lush into this category because it is a sex-centric community we have here.
#3: This "straight" guy is in fact not straight at all. Maybe he's a little transgender, or all the way transsexual and not out, to himself even. Maybe he's bisexual or gay, and doesn't know how to confront that option, so he becomes attracted to visually who he thinks he's supposed to, but is still forbidden and a part of the LGBT community. Other possibilities include that he's pansexual or flexible in some way and it's hard to conceive that all people are not that way, through no fault of his own or with any ill intent.
As far as contacting you on Lush is concerned, I'd friend you, because I'm a friendly person, and you sound as though you might be an interesting individual to chat to. Also, your profile doesn't ask guys not to do so, and not being able to see your friends list I can't say for sure, but your socialite badge tends to make me think that you could very well have male friends on lush, and you state that you have them in the rest of your life "Have girlfriends and boyfriends, except I don't sleep with my boyfriends". Many of my best friends are lesbians and I don't try anything with them or pine for them. I have with others in the past for a variety of the more innocent reasons on this list, and I even dated one of them for a while (I am a trans girl, though I have a male body for the time being and foreseeable future).
I hope this will be helpful. I've given it some thought, but I know there's much more to say on the subject. I tried not to repeat too much without adding to it, and let the advice on sorting out the actual jerks and whathaveyou stand on it's own.
I recently ran into this exact situation when I was at an out of town bar the other night. I met a Butch (but very sexy) lesbian who was into me, and I was into her. We checked out girls together, did shots together, and had a great time hanging out. She said "You're fucking hot. I'd like to go home with you if you can keep your mouth shut." Unfortunately didn't happen that night as I had to take off shortly after those comments, but it may in the future...
Can any lesbians give me insight on that?
