Again I have to say that this post was not meant in anyway to offend anyone. I honestly used the word slutty, because I did not think people would be offended because on lush I have only seen the word slut used in a fun descriptive way and I was hoping people would realize I meant no harm when I used it.
To clarify what I mean by the word slutty, in the real world, a slut is someone who is promiscuous, dresses provocatively and sleeps around (according to dictionaries) But on lush the same cannot be said because this is a virtual world. Slutty on lush IMHO means someone who is not afraid (unlike me) to reply to all the sex questions and give honest and open answers and loves to flirt. Someone who I sometimes wish I could be more like them. I mentioned LadyX and Bunny12 only as examples because they are well known for their entertaining answers. When I said they had a lot of views and friends, it was not said in malice but in jealousy. I am even jealous of people like necho and savanna who I class as sweet but they do have a sexy side.
My only intentions of this thread was to see who, in the real world, would guys be generally attracted to and possibly consider a relationship with. Would they be attracted to the same type of people on here or do they go the opposite? I wanted to see if I should remain being "sweet" as I have been told by a lot of the people in the real world, or should I try to attract more males by being more "slutty".
And I don't mean just by dressing slutty but more like lush slutty, to be more open and honest about my sexuality in public, even flirt or should slutty just remain in the bedroom or in the virtual world. I am known here and in the real world as sweet but my problem is that it doesn't always work for me as you can tell by my profile where it says "single". My biggest problem is that I am sweet but a slut in the bedroom, but how do I let guys in the real world know that without being someone I am not?
Sorry if this is long winded, but I just wanted to let people know it was a genuine question and not one to stir the pot.
Maybe you can "accessorize" with something that shows your sexual nature. Wear something classy/elegant, with a bracelet that says "slut" on it. Or maybe a hidden tattoo ("Horny"), revealed at just the right moment.
Maybe in your language, you can let out a bit about yourself. If you're in a group of guys and you sense they think of you as "sweet", you can tell a dirty joke or blurt out a "fuck". Men love dirty talk.
These are just some ideas. Gauge it to your circumstances; don't overdo it.
I think you'll find a lot of men want a classy lady on the outside and can't wait to "crack open" that sexy part of you.
A sweet one. I don't want a relationship based on sex. I want to connect with a woman emotionally first. The physical should come from that aspect.
Never picked did I?
Slutty.
Sweet is best, there is something innocent, yet sexy about a sweet girl.
At this point in my life, I'm not interested in trying to go through hoops figuring out what a woman wants and desires in bed. I'm much more comfortable with a girl who can talk about what turns her on, what she wants sexually, and what things she will and won't do. I like sexually aggressive and strong women who will demand as much of me as I will of her.
I'd always been attracted to the 'liberated' and 'open' woman when I used to haunt the bars and clubs because they just seemed like they would be more fun (slutty) to be with, however, when it came to introducing those girls to Mom, well, let's just say it would have been less catastrophic if the girl-friend had been made from the 'sweet' mould.
As for long lasting relationships - they were always 'sweet' girls.
"Whoa, lady, I only speak two languages, English and bad English." - Korben Dallas, from The Fifth Element
"If history repeats itself, and the unexpected always happens, how incapable must man be of learning from experience?" - George Bernard Shaw
I would say that if this is public appearence I would say mostly sweet. Acting innocent, but daring enough to give me a flash when no one is looking, or doing something suggestive with a lollypop, or wanting to go into the bathroom for a little fun... ;). And of course when we get back home, time to break out the chocolate surup!
Relationship wise, I'd want a sweet lady, through and through. But it's like I tell my wife: Ludacris got it completely right in that one song he did. Most men's deepest desire is a woman who is a lady in the street but a freak in the bed.
I'd go for slutty at home, sweet outside.
Here's an interesting story for you. A while ago I was in South Beach for the music festival and went to this club called Snatch. We got hooked up at the owner's table and I'll tell you I looked around and was pretty impressed. We set down some coin for some Grey Goose and VIP service and next thing you know the owner brought us over 6 hot and incredibly slutty girls to dance at our private booth. It's crazy expensive if you want to party well in Miami. These girls were bending over and making out with each other for a glass of champagne. Even better there are poles installed in the club and random drunk girls get to pretend they are a stripper for the night. Its even better watching the amateur girls because they are looking to impress and get attention for their egos not for the money so they seem to put more effort into it. I'll tell you you can't meet a "good girl" in South Beach anymore than you can meet one in L.A. That's why I like it there!
Now would I bring one of these girls home to my mom? No way in hell. But I don't know if I ever want to settle down so my mind works in short term and in the short term then slutty girls are what I need!
I hate that if a girl likes to have sex she is considered a slut...
But to answer the question I love a girl acting slutty if I'm drunk and in a good mood. I'm looking for a 1 night relationship or a nice fuck all weekend thing.
But for an actual relationship I want a sweet normal girl. Don't need guys hitting on her 24/7 and I woul also like her to be presentable to the family.
I think I'm a bit backward.
I like girls who look/dress/act slutty, but are actually sweet girls.
I like a girl who loves to flirt and tease but won't actually go through with anything (with anyone other than me). Because I'm like that and it's really fun and sexy having a partner who is the same.
"Oh yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it you can either run from it...or, learn from it." - Rafiki, The Lion King
Most of the time is will prefer a sweet lady over slutty. I would like a lady that has traits of both.
Oh it's about so much more than this. I can handle sweet or slutty so long as she's smart and witty, and just a little bit pretty.
I'm a wild and Krrraaazzzy Guy!
happy lushing!
