Let's say you're romantically or sexually interested in a woman. After finally approaching her or confessing how you feel, she tells you that she doesn't feel the same way and/or is shocked that you'd think that she was. You find this surprising, probably because of some of the things she has done or said. Clearly she has been giving you 'mixed signals'.
What are some of the things that women do (whether it's online or in real life) that you think can be misconstrued as a signal of interest?
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'Did she just accidentally rub her firm titties into my forearm, as she was trying to squeeze through the crowd, on her way to wherever...even though there was enough room for her to drive a snow mobile through the same walkway?'
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I think this is a problem not because women give mixed signals but because most guys don't know how to handle attention from women or interpret signals correctly. If she laughs at your joke, it doesn't mean she wants to fuck you. If she offers to pay for your coffee because you happen to be together when ordering, it doesn't mean she wants to fuck you. If she says hi to you because you are acquaintances it doesn't mean she want to fuck you. If she is walking up to the alter to get married and she happens to glance at you as she does, no she still doesn't want to fuck you.
I guess guys are wired to explore every possibility no matter how remote. That drive to procreate I guess.
Mixed signals eh?
I had a cyber thing (incl. webcam fun) going with this girl and when we met irl she wanted to sleep with me. Note, just sleep, no sex.
Another time one of my female friends grabbed my ass at a party. She was married and when I confronted her about it she denied doing it consciously.
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i think i tend to give out mixed signals - funny, but somehow being nice and attentive translates as... well, as Felix says, into 'i want to fuck'. so, i'm left with the choice of being misunderstood, or being rude...
btw, MF? i want to fuck - hope that wasn't too unclear! *giggles*
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I don't know how often its mixed signals or just me being completely and utterly clueless to the point where really, really obvious signals go right over my head. But I've had times, most notably right now with someone on my floor in college where I can't for the life of me tell if she's flirting with intent to get into bed or just being friendly.
Yeah, I think the 'mixed signals' idea is almost always men over-reacting to or completely misreading a woman's actions. A bogus defense after a guy does or says something stupid. I've been told I'm the sort of guy who fails to pick up on perfectly obvious signals that she is interested. The completely clueless defense.
Sometimes a woman gives a guy 'signals' cause she just wants to make the real guy she is interested in jealous or push him to make a move.
There are countless scenarios. And countless misinterpretations.
Often many guys haven't a clue when women send them signals. And often men are too stupid to read that she is only giving him negative signs. Move on dumbass. And the guys with the very aggressive approach are usually the most stupid.
If the guy is what she wants, I think most women keep on until they break through to him. Sometimes that takes a while. ha
In reality, there are a lot of pretty straight forward women that don't beat around the bush (not that kind of bush!). They come out and tell you.
I wonder...like Sprite said, sometimes it's a choice of being your version of "normal" or coming off rude. I'd rather err on the side of not being rude.
The flip side is, I've had lots of guys misinterpret my friendly touch on the elbow and/or greeting kiss on each cheek as something wayyy more than what it is, which is an expression of caring and implicit trust. This misinterpretation seems to happen regardless of whether or not I am accompanied by my s/o. Maybe it's a cultural thing?
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Both genders are equally guilty in this Paradise of fun. Girls are the Masters of Flirting and Teasing. Most of the time it means just that Flirting and Teasing. But often in this time of much more sexual freedom, it means your place or mine.
Do you young ones still say that I know I do but it may not be the term of 21 Century?
Yes, guys misreading the signals every day. However, the difference between flirting and teasing and something much more heated is so fine. Should we expect men not to misread the signals at least a significant amount of the time?
I have to confess that this happened to me very recently on Lush and it was 100% my fault. She never said or did anything to me to indicate a serious sexual interest in me, yet when she told me that she had "found someone". I reacted like a hurt puppy, which I had no right to do. One would think that someone my age with a fair amount of experience would be mature enough to just swallow my stupid pride and wish her well. It took me a day or so, but I finally did what I should've done to begin with. I owe her an apology. I have criticized many guys for this exact type of behavior, and look at me. Well, at least I didn't lash out at her for that BS "leading me on" bullshit that men just make up at times. I'll shut up.
I think things can always be misconstrued and both ways.
Sometimes, we just believe we are seeing what we want to see.
A person who really loves themselves will probably think that everyone loves them. On the other hand, someone lacking self confidence will need a great deal of persuading that someone is interested in them.
Equally, there can be genuinely mixed signals if the person is unsure of their feelings. Perhaps they are sexually aroused and react in a certain way on an evening out, but then in the cold light of day, after engaging their brain, they see things differently. An interesting question which is open to interpretation in so many different ways!
Interesting to see different people's experiences anyway.
Personally, I couldn't pin-point anything in particular...maybe just girls flirting to attract attention and feel appreciated, with no underlying desire for that to be anymore than some attention seeking for themselves.
Wouldn't you rather have a nice cup of tea?
I had the opposite problem when I was single, not knowing a girl liked me until... well, she found a way to get her point across...
Don't believe everything that you read.
I'm.... well I'm pretty fucking clueless so anything less than a very direct message isn't even a mixed signal. It'll go right over my head. Hell, my last girlfriend on the date when we made it official and first tumbled each other. She was wearing this very fancy little black dress, lots of eye contact, etc etc etc. Invited me back to her room and everything, still took her asking "Are you going to kiss me now?" for me to realize that there was sex in my future.
Grabbing my crotch. I thought that meant "go"
To her it was a game of how far to go and how much she could get away with before I got in trouble with her significant other, or mine...
All genders can sometimes be guilty of giving mixed signals. Sometimes it is through nievity .I have been guilty of the latter in the past and had to brush up on body language and eye contact as I found I was sending false signals. Sometimes people can find another person attractive or of interest to them but their existing arrangements i.e. existing relationship, prevents them from taking things further. It can be a bit of a minefield out there.
There is no doubt in my mind that when a woman is overly friendly, laughs with you and from time to time touches you in even a non-sexual way. She is not saying I want to Fuck You. But certainly, she is sending a signal that it is not impossible.
Guys seem to be programmed to push the envelope. Thank God they are.
Tough to answer.
Most guys aren’t hit-on or approached by women very rarely. And if they are, it’s because that women likes them. So, for some guys, just the act of being friendly and flirty (in the non-sexual way) can be a mixed signal or misconstrued.
A woman admitting they used to have a crush is a super MIXED signal lol because the question, naturally, becomes, “and what about now?”.
If a lady and I have been talking on a near-daily basis for over a month about our lives and delving into personal stuff, it signals that they may have an interest in starting something. Especially if you've gone on a few dates in that time too, it should not be surprising that a guy thinks you are romantically interested in them. Beyond that, any cuddling or kissing that you do when you've seen each other in person can be interpreted as a romantic gesture by a man, even if it was just a "spur of the moment" thing for the woman.
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