I'm sure there are a lot of bisexual married men out there. My question is, does your wife know you're gay? Do you think she's suspicious? Having sex with her, do you do anything that could reveal your "other side?"
My wife has no idea and I am not in a hurry to come out. I'm not acting on it these days and haven't since a bit of experimentation that is now a few years behind me.
Not sure what I could do with her that would expose it. Ask her to wear a strap-on and peg me? Suggest an MMF threesome? She's quite vanilla (and I am, too, really) so none of that is something I would entertain asking anyhow.
More likely, discovering my gay stories on here or catching me enjoying gay porn would be the "discovery".
Thanks Seeker4. I'm in the same boat. My wife might get suspicious because, during sex, I almost never stroke her breasts (I'm not a boob guy) but I can't keep my hands off of her hard triceps and biceps (she works out). That's something I loved doing with guys back in the day. She was on top of me one time while I fondled her muscles. She asked my why I was doing that and I was honest. I said, "I like 'em." Somehow I thought it might make her suspicious because it seems a little gay.
Not an easy one as most partnets would freak out. I am one of the lucky ones, my gf likes to watch me suck a cock, even more so if it has been in her first and I have no complaints.
I'm bi and I've been married 27 years. I'm in an interesting situation as we are both bi and it's never been a secret. As for the second part of your question, I'm like a light switch. When I have straight sex, I'm very straight. However, when I'm having gay sex, I'm a different person altogether. I've had sex with gay men that had no idea I'm bi and married. One stereotype bi men face with gay men are that gay men believe bi men really aren't all that gay when with another man. I guess a lot of bi men are curious and are only willing to receive oral and give anal. I do everything a man could want from the first kiss to the goodbye kiss and all the sex in between!
Hi all, i am bi, have been since the age of 18. My wife doesn't know or suspect. The only thing i like to do when we are playing is, when she is sucking my cock i like her to come up and kiss me . I don't think that's ever raised any suspicions..
am bi wife don't mine if we have mfm I let her play after I get what I need and leave them alone its nice
I am a married bi guy..not gay. I enjoy being with men, but my wife still makes my blood boil. She knows I am Bi and she is bi too. We have an agreement that I can my boyfriends, but I can't be with another woman.
The romantic bi guy.
Stay horny my friend.
My wife knew I was bi before I did. (and what I did in high school and college doesn't count). I'm rediscovering men with all this time on my hands these days. And while I love to be with and have sex with my wife, there are definitely other things to enjoy that only men can offer. For me now it's mostly chat, but once we are released from this lockdown, chat will just be one of the things I will do with guys.
My wife does not know that I'm bi. We have a terrific life including a great sex life but I still need cock in my life. I've hinted about cock a few times to see how she would feel and it is not something she would accept so it's in the closet for me,
Taking "wife" to mean longterm partner of the opposite gender, yes, she knows. She knew before we got together due to one of those silly "I never ever" drinking games, so obviously she's OK with it. She likes me to tell her stories of being with guys, and I've shown her assume photos of what I got to before we met... Before her I slept with far more guys than women, and tended to be bottom, so it wasn't a phase or anything.
But, we don't have an open relationship. We talked about the possibility of my meeting guys early on in our relationship, and she said she was fine with it, but I got the impression she wasn't too keen, so I didn't push it. Then we started talking about having kids, so didn't want to risk getting anything that might affect fertility. Now we have kids, so there's barely the due us to have sex, let alone arrange meeting guys.
Maybe when the kids are a bit older we might revisit the possibility. To be honest, even if I never have sex with a guy again, I'm fine with that. I miss it, obviously, strap-on dildos are fine, and cunnilingus after cumming inside her is hot, but there's nothing quite like a real cock in your arse or receiving a mouthful of someone else's cum, but it's just sex, not worth souring the rest of our relationship for. I mean, I have a thing for women with dark brown skin, but it would be a bit out of order to insist on being allowed to sleep with them as a condition of our relationship, I don't see my lube for cock as that much different.
I am in a 5 year relationship with a married man as well as being married myself. Our wives do not know and we plan to keep it that way. We both have a great relationship at home so why disrupt a good thing. He and I meet several times a month for sex and that scratches our m/m itch. Being like minded and sexually compatible, we see no reason to bed hop with other men. Only seeing each other ensures discretion and safety. It truly is the best of both worlds.
Back in the late 80s, a colleague of mine ran a clinic for HIV patients. He told me MOST of his patients were married men that were in the closet to their spouses.
My wife loves the fact that I am bi, we have enjoyed so many adventures over the years, why not read about them, my stories are mostly based on true events.
Living bi-cariously through Lush
Jon, I don't know most of us are gay. Bi does not mean gay, even if calling themselves bi is sometimes a step on the long journey for guys who are actually gay. We've all got our own journeys to take, and they all go different places.
That said, yes been married over 20 years and bi my whole life. I shared my curiosity with her when we were younger: she felt pretty threatened by it, so I let it drop. Haven't brought it up since. Maybe that's why stories where a woman is turned on by bi guys are such a turn-on for me ... although actually, it was a turn-on before I met her, so nevermind! Anyway, I've only had one experience with another guy, sucking a cock through a gloryhole, and it was glorious (also written up in my "A Hole New World" story, which many of you have read). I'm glad I did that so I know what it really feels, smells and tastes like to have another filling your mouth with his hot, hard flesh and his hot, sweet cum. If I hadn't, I suspect the curiosity might have gotten the better of me, but that one experience was enough to keep me faithful to my wife for a lifetime. In other words, I'm not putting my bisexuality into practice, except in writing about it on this website.
And my wife is wonderful in every other way, and still turns me on. I have to say I love a woman's body, the curve of the hips, the breasts, the juicy pussy and in my case I also really prefer a full bush. The whole enchilada. Just because I have an interest in men doesn't mean I don't find women insanely hot too. I think if I only found a few more-masculine parts of my female partner I think it would be more challenge. Don't mean to single you out there Jon - hey, you've found out what turns you on most about your wife and use it. That works too!
NLC, you've got a great situation there, with a steady guy you can kiss, suck and fuck, without the risks of bed hopping, as you put it.
Those of you who have partners who understand and accept your bisexuality, and maybe even allow you to practice it. Mustang, that's in some ways an ideal arrangement: you each are allowed to have same-sex partners outside marriage, but opposite-sex sex is with your wife only? I could totally go for that, but never gonna happen. I suspect what Pete said is true, that it's vastly more common than most people realize. I've long suspected most guys are secretly bi but won't admit it, and most never act on it. Most women are, and everyone accepts that.
Colin, you've got a great deal going with Jaq too - a woman who not only allows it, but is turned on by it and encouraged it? You're living the dream, man! Plus, she's hot. I've seen your pics of her: lovely generous breasts, naturally hairy womanhood down there, the whole package. Lucky guy!
Living bi-cariously through Lush
Too bad to hear so many bi guys aren't reciprocal. If you let a guy suck you and you won't touch him, that's barely bi anyway.
Me, I'd reciprocate. I might even be MORE turned on by the idea of giving a blowjob than receiving one. Gotten plenty of them from women over my lifetime, so not as novel as giving one. Although I'd still be pissed off if the guy wouldn't do me in return. It's not like I don't want to get something out of it too.
By far I'm most interested in oral - true for my desires towards both women and men, actually ... I absolutely love eating pussy and have often done it until my tongue was too sore to continue. I love 69 with a woman even more, would love to have tried it with a guy - that is, someone intimately familiar with what they're doing feels like. A lot of my stories include 69, even though it doesn't happen as much in reality ... because they're my stories, right? I can do that.
Anyway, anal has never been that high on my list, with women or men, although I have always been a little curious. Does feel good to slip something inside there, especially if it hits the prostate. If I could have found someone who was, patient and gentle and well-lubed, back when I was single I'd definitely would have wanted to at least know how it felt to get one of those hot pulsing things in my ass. Wish it had been safer (on multiple levels) for me to try when I was younger, but that was the late 80s and early 90s. Just too risky then. Although I had no interest at the time, I now wish I'd also had the courage/ability to try other stuff too - kissing, body contact, frottage, maybe even docking with an uncut guy. I never dreamed about it back then (wasn't repulsed, just didn't seem interesting) but I would love to have dated a guy for a whole - the whole deal, going out in the evenings, sleeping over after fucking our brains out. Even back in those days, might have been a safe way to do it, but guys like me didn't have the Internet to find each other with. Even putting an ad in your local weekly was a real crapshoot.
Even though I'm not that much into anal, one of my ultimate fantasies involves it: having missionary sex with another guy while we kiss passionately, lost in rapture as the top fills the bottom with his cum, just like in straight sex. Could be me on top or him, could be me penetrating or him penetrating (holy shit! Guys can do missionary four different ways! Or is it cowboy if the guy being penetrated is on top? Any way, so many combinations to jerk off about!).
But to answer the OP's question: I'm fully committed and happy to not have sex with men. I have these fantasies, but I'm content to let them remain so. I suspect I'm far from alone. It is wonderful to have this site as an outlet for these feelings, too, since I can't share them with my wife ... I've actually been writing stories for about 5 years, but have only just started publishing them here a couple months ago.
My wife knows I am bi, she loves watching me with a guy as long as she gets to join in.
Nothing better than a crossdresser sucking you off while your wife watches.
Boobs are my big turn-on where women are concerned. I probably played with my wife's boobs more than she really wanted back when we were having regular sex (we are pretty much celibate right now).
