How many people in here are in a sexless mariage? I have admitted that I am. It is not through any fault of my own and it is not because of medical issues on her part. She knows she has me by the balls...I have everything to loose if I divorce . And I'm too old to start over.
Sexless for 4 years now....and counting
Damn, bro, I feel your pain somewhat. I am not in a sexless marriage per se, but the amount of times we have it are so low that I feel I (and we) are missing something that every marriage needs. Though sex is not everything in a marriage, it is a needed foundation to build on. And for me at least, it is a difficult subject to bring up.
So.... what defines a marriage as being sexless? Or to put it another way...
how often does a normal married couple (married for over 5 years / 10 years) do it?
One time a month? One time a week? Several times a week?
It's not only men who can feel like they don't get enough... Women too can be in a sexless relationship....
I think sex should be at LEAST a weekly thing, of course the more the better... I have found that men can have a problem wanting it all the time too. Frustrating I say.
I never believed marital issues could affect our sex life, but the buggy was slowing down, and I could see it was headed for a sexless marriage. We both didn't want anything to do with that and we are now happy, which means separated and living apart/not seeing each other at all.
The beautiful Tech Goddess has proven what real love and trust can do in a relationship and bedroom, something I never really experienced, truthfully.
Baker, I was in one.
5 years married, bet we could count on both hands the number of times we did it.
6 moth to consumate the marriage, 9 months without because of a cast.
Life sucked. and she wouldn't.
Bat
i am not in a sexless marriage....
but then again i am not married... could have something to do with it.
Do you know why your relationship is sexless? would be my first question...
my wife and i have been married for 17 years. and for the majority of our marriage it's never been sexless. i'd have to say our secret is talking. we don't hide anything from each other. we talk about everything.
The longest relationship I have had was about four years ago. We lived together for approx 16 or 17 months and the first 3-4 months we screwed each other like 300 times. Then, our work and school schedules got busy and we were awake/time off at different hours and so the amount of sex slowed down but we still found time to play and have sex in public and mess around so it wasn't dead. But, then the last 6 months or so she started putting out less and less and even started wearing JEANS to bed. This was confusing but I didn't think that much of it at first but I started to realize it had been over a month since we had sex and the light bulb went off that something was very wrong. I asked her why we were not having sex anymore and why she was wearing jean pants to bed instead of her underwear (which was her usual) and she just kept saying "I'm too tired" and "because they are comfortable" and then she told me she wanted to go back to jesus or something and not have sex anymore. I was just lost and confused with all of it. Long story short, she moved out to live with her mother and "find myself and who I am and return to a life of christ" and one month later I found out she was living with some drag racing fancy car douchebag.
Hell, I don't remember what my point was going to be...
In order to know virtue, you must first become acquainted with vice.
- Donatien Alphonse Francois de Sade
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En vis mann slår aldri en hund i klubben med en stokk, fordi hunden vil vende rundt og biter mannens ballene av. Hubby and I have been together over ten years, and if I throw out my carbonated hormones due to my current situation, we were averaging twice a week, sometimes more when the cold weather comes around (I like snuggling under the covers, what can I say?), but it was pretty regular. We've always made it a point though to keep the lines of communication open. If I'm not getting enough, or if I'm really not in the mood, I'll tell him and vice-versa. I'm kind of wearing him out right now, but he's being a good sport about it.
"A black cat crossing your path signifies that the animal is going somewhere." - Groucho Marx
I lived throw the same thing but I didn't want him on top of me any way.
A sexless marriage by definition is a marriage where you have sex less than 10 times a year.. For me... I have had NO sexual contact with my wife since november 9th 2004... so fifth year coming up.
According to statistics... 20 % of all marriages are sexless.
Since it was her decision solely to stop having sexual relations... I have withdrawn from the marriage.. We still live in the same house... but now... I show no affection towards her what so ever. I ignore birthdays ... anniversaries... ect. I am bitter over her decision.... and if I were younger... I would not hesitate to leave and start over. Its too late for me now.... and will live out the rest of my life misserable.
I have seen living proof that its never too late to start over... its more about whether or not your happiness is worth the risk...
Its been since early august since we had sex....she acts like we never have to again...
Primal I don't know your age but going without a physical or emotional connection can not be healthy. It already seems you are angry and that is only surface reaction.
I don't know how long you have been married or anything else for that matter but you can't go on like this. You need to sit down with her and tell her your needs. Let her know if she continues to treat you like a roommate then you will look else where for affection.
If that terminates your marriage because she can't handle the idea of you being with someone else then it's her problem.
One other thought comes to mind. You might have her medically checked checked to see if there is an underlying cause to her cutting you off.
I wish you the best.
Shy
Ok does it count that I have been in another country for over a year and have 9 months left before I can stick it in her.
Would love to find someone else to pass the time but too many eyes around here.
