I have been going out with my boyfriend for 10 years, over the years our sex life has got better and better, as we've learned new things, and what each other likes.
Having said this it has become clear that my drive is higher than his.
For my up coming birthday, he has agreed to pay for a posh hotel room, we can have a marathon session and indulge in my high drive.
We have never been really good at talking about things in the bedroom, as we are both quite shy when it comes to things like that.
So I wanted to ask you;
I can get horny agian after sex really quick by thinking about how good the sex that we just had was, which makes me want to come again, so how quick can you men get hard again after coming?
It depends. If I come during sex or during oral and keep going, I can usually stay hard. If I come and then stop, I'll soften and it can take me 10 to 15 minutes to recharge.
The interlude is usually filled with smooches and fondling and teasing. Round two is usually longer and better.
There are several things that can factor in such as whether or not I have just finished lifting weights, finished a run, alcohol consumption, how many times we've already had sex in the last few hours, etc. Usually though around 10 minutes but give or take according to recent activity.
Lifting weights can temporarily increase a man's testosterone level so having sex right after that is always a good idea.
Alcohol consumption can actually impair your ability to quickly get another erection after cumming.
Thanks Guys, I was thinking we could use the hot tub after to gives a bit of a break, then maybe get him to use one of my toys on me until he's ready agian?
I've tended in the past to leave him alone after the gym, thinking he's be tired, but after reading about the effects testosterone levels, I might give it a go! :-)
I'm kind of an older guy, and and it definitely takes me longer to bounce back than it used to. Age is most definitely a factor. A guy in his 20s will have a far, far different answer than in his 40s.
I am fortunate as I will often stay hard after cumming.
That said I will not cum straight away again as I used too!
Drink plenty of water through the day.
Relax. Try role play. Dress up. Enjoy touching and caressing. Watch and read some porn together.
Let natural eroticism stimulate and excite you both.
Try something new. Be open and honest. Use some toys!
Pop out and flirt.
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Walt Disney I can't put an exact time on it, 15 minutes perhaps? Really depends who I'm with. I'm actually more into foreplay anyway. Generally though if the stimulation is good enough I can become hard again pretty soon but only if I'm with a woman.
If I'm with a man, it's purely for the sex, wham bam, thank you ma'am is my style with a man, it's all about my arrival.
With a woman, I'd rather keep going until we're both satisfied and if that means getting hard again, I'll do my best to get hard again while we fondle and kiss after coming.
I suppose it depends. Sometimes I can stay hard and go again right away. If I am soft and she takes me in her mouth I get hard right away
Oh dear. leave me out of this one lol.......I take at least a hour to get hard again xxxxxx
Get hard? really, upon command or rather we can choose to never let it go soft. Number of times I an cum is definitely more in question (these days, three is a long shot) and there are plenty of times when my body has given up long before my erection. Sad mental moment where you have to surrender to the reality that "it's not going to happen" - usually a smart time to re-hydrate and maybe use that hot tub ;)
WHen I was a young man, you could have set a timer by it. Eight minutes, just like clockwork. Ever snce about age sixty though, I've found it is very unpredictable; sometimes it seems almost immediate, but other times it may take me an hour or more. But the same is also true with cumming the first time. Sometimes five mnutes and I'm off, and sometimes it is forty five minutes before things peak. I suspect it has more to do with diet and whatever my blood pressure is at the time.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
You need to both get over your shyness, and talk about what really turns him on!
It might be kinky, it might be sweet whispers in his ears!
If you find out then you will be able to both enjoy sex more, and perhaps go for the marathon! ;)
Any man is only as good as his inspiration. It isn't a physical thing.. it's mental.. if the whole purpose is just dropping a load then it becomes more difficult.. but if the purpose is to extend the pleasure of your partner by trickling and delayed flow.. then four or five times a night won't be enough..
I stay hard after cumming if I keep pumping and pounding. Or if she continues to use her hands on me afterwards. Oral does nothing for me never has, never will. A warm wet tight pussy on the other hand is different. As long as she stays wrapped around me I stay hard as steel. If she hops off and uses her hands Ill remain hard. If nothing happens then I begin to siften after about 15 minutes. It usually will take me about 5 - 1o minutes to get it back up however.
An enthusiastic and properly motivated partner will often times have me acting as if I am 22 years old, in the sexuality department, again. I could be walking around half hard all the time and before I know it, Big Ed is ready to go plowing - even though 'she' might not even be in the house near me.
This libido thing is truly baffling to me, still.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Right away, post haste. If shes hott, it never goes down. Oh well always had a high labido.
it used to be quick but nowadays it can take up to 20 minutes to get hard again after sex.
i usually waste this time by going down on my girl.
she seems to like it.
It normally takes me about 15 - 20 mins to get hard again after cumming. But if we stay in the moment and continue with the foreplay etc, its normally quicker than that.
Same as the others here. It depends. If I have had a stressful day at work, 20 - 30 mins, but the afternoon delight, sometimes it just stays hard.
i can usually stay hard after cumming i tend tobe able to have sex 3 to 4 times a night
OK, first, I have to agree that the refractory period has been getting longer over the last couple of decades. In the early days of my sexual 'career', the damn thing never seemed to go down so, um, pretty much zero. Now, a couple decades later, the answer is a little, if you can excuse the pun, "harder" to articulate. I can get hard pretty quick with some deep kissing and making out regardless of how long it's been, but it won't last to completion if it hasn't had enough of a break. I don't know if this makes me odd or not, but there it is...
I guess I'm generally in the 15 minute or so category, but it gets longer for later rounds. I also find that each successive erection takes more time to come and more time to bounce back to full effectiveness. Round 1-2 may be 10 minntes, 2-3 may be 10-15, 3-4 is probably 15, 4-5 is more like 20, 5-6 may be 20ish, 6-7 is closer to 25 minutes. The orgasm and cum itself changes with each round as do duration, hardness, and everything.
Cheers
about 40 second if not 30 second
- I hadnt thought of that.
