This is for guys that like to get women to cheat on their boyfriends, husbands or other significant others.
If you get a woman to cheat with you on her significant other, that is to say, somebody she has been seeing for years, (for simplicity I am going to say 'he') and then dump him and you start a long term relationship with her, how can you trust her?
I mean, if you could get her to cheat on her boyfriend/husband, doesn't that mean that another man could get her to cheat on you?
If you are thinking that she wouldn't cheat on you because that isn't in her nature you just proved that it is her nature.
Because she tells you that she loves you? Don't you think she told those same things to the guy on which she cheated?
If you think that you are so great looking, suave, debonair and loaded with cash, I am sure there are guys better looking, have more money and have better personalities too.
So how do you trust her? Even if you are married and have children then she could really take you to the cleaners with alimony and child support. And if you have an iron-clad prenuptial agreement, that tells me you never really trusted her and if you don't trust her, how can you claim to love her?
Again, how do you trust her?
It would depend on the circumstance of the cheating had i gotten to know her over time had we built a rapport and friendship over time thus building a foundation of trust, if so the trust would be there.
On the other had did it merely take a little persuasion for it to happen, in which case i don't think the relationship would ever be without doubt's from either party.
In my opinion cheating is asking for heartache and trouble and quiet simply if it isn't working with someone end it, and then start a new relationship.
The question could be turned around... how could she trust you if you went after her. I think it would be a bit presumptuous to expect absolute fidelity under the circumstances (though I feel that emotional faithfulness is much more important than physical faithfulness)
Cheating is a result of a void. if you fill the void and constantly have no holes in the relationship there is trust
I've had friendly sexual relationships with a number of women who were either married or living with their significant other. Generally speaking, there was sexual chemistry/electricity involved between whichever woman and myself. It was either a one off situation or there were several discreet encounters - especially if I knew the woman in question for awhile before we ever crossed that line together.
None of those women were looking to leave their relationship (at least not for me) and I wasn't looking to whisk them away from their situations. Let's fuck, doesn't mean, let's get married and have babies and live happily ever after.
The only trust I extended to any of them, was that they wouldn't lure me into a situation where the boyfriend or husband would be cold cocking me while her and I were cutting the rug together. Further considerations such as: I won't knock you up, and you and I won't be giving each other STDs ... are appreciated, but in the lustful heat of that moment, those things are sort of placed on the back burner, yanno?
Any man or woman who thinks they can trust someone they're involved with (in a cheating situation) in an ongoing scenario as you have initially described, CL...meh ~ I think that person is fooling himself or herself. At least I've never been that naïve.
There may have been a void there all right, and usually in my experience, it's because the sex they were once having with their spouse or mate was non-existent or sucked rocks all along. Hell, quite possibly...I couldn't satisfy their urges or cravings either.
I'm not starting up a long term relationship with that women but I'm also not going to get my panties in a bunch if said woman throws me over suddenly, either. She's cheating (just like I am with her) and it's her prerogative who she wants to see/screw.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Every single time guys give me a hard time about my boyfriends I tell them that that kind of talk doesn't get them pussy and they stop bothering me and trust me again.
I'm sure there are people who cheat with no intention of screwing up whatever relationship they're in, but I think a fair amount of cheating that goes on are people who are no longer satisfied with their current relationship but want to line up something else before breaking off their current relationship (like finding a new job before quitting your old one).
There are also women who lose their inhibitions after a few drinks. When I played and sang in bands I had lots of quickie sex or gotten blowjobs from married women who had no intention of leaving their husband.
cheating requires a pre planned one first, if this is not first reason then its a mental situation where one forgets the honour of other, if this is not the reason it may be a dispute with our loved one, if this is not the reason then its a mind play of another dirty one without considering the feelings of other, if this is not then its a ancestral behave taken from birth. other things r also possible but my experience i have given but i dont like to cheat anybody even in dispute also i do have guts to face the truth.
If I had sex with her while she was attached, then I'm as guilty as she is. In my view, judging her then would be hypocritical.
I think if she actually wants to continue a relationship with you after her break up you have as much reason to trust or mistrust her as you do with any other woman - just be sure to not make the same mistakes her ex-partner made.
From what I've seen in other relationships (especially with women who have had online "affairs" before a separation), very rarely will a woman stick with someone she was cheating with after she leaves her partner. Most women I've known in this situation are simply looking for a get out, and even better, someone to pin the blame on. You might kid yourself that you're the one using this married woman but it's as much the other way as well.
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Is this only a hypothetical... or a little closer to home? You don't have to answer that.
I can only give my 2c worth.
Why did they cheat? And what is the foundation of the new relationship?
Both questions need good answers before proceeding.
I'll give you a tip: Boredom & Lust will not be a good indicators...
So yes you could possibly trust them but it would require sober though & open discussion.
You know I ask myself the same question, how do I trust someone who cheated. My wife a while back was engaged to be married and she cheated on her fiance with me and of course we went on to get married. It's been over 20 years now that we've been married but sometimes I question if she's cheated on me. I do not have anything specific that she's done to cause me to wonder if she's cheated but like the original question said, how can you be sure they wouldn't cheat again?
It is quite simple for me. I am a great judge of character. I would be able to read her like a book.
Yes you can trust them. If you look to deeply into any given relationship you will probably find enough self loathing that you will not trust. In my experience with married woman who cheat there are a few things that make it happen....
1) they like the naughty aspect of cheating
2) they have low self worth and gain that self worth by being desired. Who doesn't want to feel desired?
3) their spouse/SO is an asshole or bad in bed....
4) They are bored.....
You could go on and on. The reasons very with each person. I don't think you can or can't trust them any more than if they didn't cheat....
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Some people thrive on the rush, but for most women, jumping into an affair is hard. Usually it's when things become either too boring or too unbearable at home that things happen. I once sent one of my most trusted friends out of my life rather than face up to the feelings that were growing between us. I was trying to keep it from becoming an affair, but to this day, I wonder if I did the right thing ….
He was probably the only one I would have seriously thought about leaving my husband for; but sending my closest friend and adviser (who was going through a lot of the same crap I was at the time) away made life that more unbearable for both us. My first sexual adventure (more of a one time fling with a friend than an affair) happened about six months later …
It was good, but not with the person I really wished for. < sigh > That was 15 years ago, and I still wonder if we weren’t brought together at that particular place and time for a reason … Some of my stories explore my fantasies about what might happen if we did get together again
I have a lot of fantasies, and Lush gives me an outlet to explore them without the guilt of an affair. That, and I love teasing the guys ;)
It's not only women it's men also. And no you can't trust them not to cheat. But how ever. There are ways you can get over that nasty speed bump. And still have a great life with that person
If you got so close that you didn't only shag her, you also got so close that you're considering a relationship then surely you know why she cheated. If it was because her husband was shagging the nanny or any other thing that makes him a bad man then you just need to make sure not to do the same thing.
If she just cheated because he wasn't up to par in bed then you can be damn sure she'll go looking for another cock if you don't satisfy her completely, and you either need a lot of confidence or communication to be sure she doesn't screw around.
Regardless, going into a relationship with someone that just cheated and doesn't feel guilty about it is far from ideal as long as there's a connection that's really strong.
But I'd also question your own morals as to your morals and how trustworthy you are. After all, ethical rules doesn't seem to apply to you...
