Join the best erotica focused adult social network now
Login
Can a woman's sordid sexual history prevent her from being "the one"?
last reply
214 replies
23.7k views
0 watchers
0 likes
Lurker
0 likes
Quote by BethanyFrasier
My sordid sexual history is what makes me a great lay today!
You might just have to put your money where your mouth is
, or put your mouth where my money is,
or your mouth somewhere ;)
Well you get the idea... prove it !
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
My own sexual history is a bit sordid so I'd be a little hypocritical if I judged.
Click Pegasus4's Profile (lushstories.com) to see my profile.
Click Pegasus4's Stories (lushstories.com) to see a list of my stories.
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
Nope the present is now==the past is history
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
I wished I knew the answer to this, in real life, I have lead a fairytale life for years, und I hope any future friends or lovers,or some one who id really like to have a real relationship with would hold my past life against me....
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
My sordid sexual history has made me what I am today - very selective.
My FWB group appreciates what I was and who I am now, they are getting the benefit.
My FWB group appreciates what I was and who I am now, they are getting the benefit.
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
Not if it's True Love!
'tis himself!
0 likes
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Let's say that you met a woman and were quickly considering that she might be "the one" that you'd like to marry, settle down with, bring home to mom, and/or have children with.
Are there things in a woman's sexual history that would be a deal-breaker for you... or if not, would there be things that you'd rather not know or have her tell you?
In the realm of fantasy, porn, and imagination, a highly sexed, wildly-adventurous woman is a turn-on.
But what if you found out she'd been involved in more extreme sex experiences than you were used to - for example - gangbangs, bukkakes, double-penetration group sex, still enjoyed having sex with women, was involved in porn or online sex sites for pay as a performer, model or webcam girl, was a stripper at one point, worked in prostitution/escorting or was into maybe into certain fetishes that you weren't interested in.
If you found out early on in the relationship, would any of these factors dissuade you from considering her as a life-partner?
Be honest!
Nope. Seriously, just no.
I won't go into the details of my wife's sex life, but she was a long way from a virgin when we met, and further when we got engaged. Nothing about it made me think twice. Admittedly, she has not done a fair few of the things you list, but I don't think any of those would have slowed me down, either; she's the love of my life. IF she'd tortured someone to death or had , I'd have sadly had to reconsider. Fortunately, neither of those was an issue.
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
Certainly not. I judge people on how they treat me. They own their past not me
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
A sordid history is a great turn on for me. I am open to experimenting with her. Her history would show she has a high sex drive. So I have a high sex drive too, I would want to get to know her better.
The romantic bi guy.
Stay horny my friend.
Stay horny my friend.
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
No. I might not say hey Mum, Dad my new girl used to....
However, with me there is only 1 deal breaker, and there is never going to be a second chance.
Do anything behind my back and you know where the door is, don't let it smack your arse on the way out.
Our past is in our past. We can never undo it. If we are all honest with ourselves we have all done something friends and family would not like - well I have anyway.
If the person was open and told you, they trust you. Respect that trust and if you have any insecurities with something from their past, or if you found out some other way. I suggest you discuss it with them straight away before it gets a chance to gnaw at your inner self.
However, with me there is only 1 deal breaker, and there is never going to be a second chance.
Do anything behind my back and you know where the door is, don't let it smack your arse on the way out.
Our past is in our past. We can never undo it. If we are all honest with ourselves we have all done something friends and family would not like - well I have anyway.
If the person was open and told you, they trust you. Respect that trust and if you have any insecurities with something from their past, or if you found out some other way. I suggest you discuss it with them straight away before it gets a chance to gnaw at your inner self.
Lurker
0 likes
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Let's say that you met a woman and were quickly considering that she might be "the one" that you'd like to marry, settle down with, bring home to mom, and/or have children with.
Are there things in a woman's sexual history that would be a deal-breaker for you... or if not, would there be things that you'd rather not know or have her tell you?
In the realm of fantasy, porn, and imagination, a highly sexed, wildly-adventurous woman is a turn-on.
But what if you found out she'd been involved in more extreme sex experiences than you were used to - for example - gangbangs, bukkakes, double-penetration group sex, still enjoyed having sex with women, was involved in porn or online sex sites for pay as a performer, model or webcam girl, was a stripper at one point, worked in prostitution/escorting or was into maybe into certain fetishes that you weren't interested in.
If you found out early on in the relationship, would any of these factors dissuade you from considering her as a life-partner?
Be honest!
'Sordid' is a weird choice of word. I married a woman who had a pretty adventurous past and I also dated women like her before that. It would probably be a plus from my perspective as she would be more likely to be adventurous with me too! I hate the idea that in the 21st century people still apply different standards to men and women. Would you be put off a guy who had had lots of girlfriends
Lurker
0 likes
Quote by Jtholter
A sordid history is a great turn on for me. I am open to experimenting with her. Her history would show she has a high sex drive. So I have a high sex drive too, I would want to get to know her better.
This. Probably said it better than me, so kudos!
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
I wouldn't want to be judged on mine, no way I do that to anyone else. Our history starts the day we meet and go from there...
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
Quote by Dancing_Doll...no
Let's say that you met a woman and were quickly considering that she might be "the one" that you'd like to marry, settle down with, bring home to mom, and/or have children with.
Are there things in a woman's sexual history that would be a deal-breaker for you... or if not, would there be things that you'd rather not know or have her tell you?
In the realm of fantasy, porn, and imagination, a highly sexed, wildly-adventurous woman is a turn-on.
But what if you found out she'd been involved in more extreme sex experiences than you were used to - for example - gangbangs, bukkakes, double-penetration group sex, still enjoyed having sex with women, was involved in porn or online sex sites for pay as a performer, model or webcam girl, was a stripper at one point, worked in prostitution/escorting or was into maybe into certain fetishes that you weren't interested in.
If you found out early on in the relationship, would any of these factors dissuade you from considering her as a life-partner?
Be honest!
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
No, so long as she was sordid in the present too. Love wild and free
0 likes
The greatest love of my life has a completely sordid history. If she wanted me still, I'd take her back. She is my one.
Saucy Little Minx ♥️
0 likes
To the OP excellent question really enjoyed everyones responses. Glad it was brought back to life again!
Troublemaker
0 likes
"Prevent"??? Where does the line start?
Pussý Addict
0 likes
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Let's say that you met a woman and were quickly considering that she might be "the one" that you'd like to marry, settle down with, bring home to mom, and/or have children with.
Are there things in a woman's sexual history that would be a deal-breaker for you... or if not, would there be things that you'd rather not know or have her tell you?
In the realm of fantasy, porn, and imagination, a highly sexed, wildly-adventurous woman is a turn-on.
But what if you found out she'd been involved in more extreme sex experiences than you were used to - for example - gangbangs, bukkakes, double-penetration group sex, still enjoyed having sex with women, was involved in porn or online sex sites for pay as a performer, model or webcam girl, was a stripper at one point, worked in prostitution/escorting or was into maybe into certain fetishes that you weren't interested in.
If you found out early on in the relationship, would any of these factors dissuade you from considering her as a life-partner?
Be honest!
In all honesty it wouldn't bother me and the reality for me would still be a turn on and I would encourage her to continue enjoying her pleasures. Having a so called slut (or trophy) wife (or partner) would be ideal for me as we could indulge a lot of our mutual sexual passions together, either in group sessions or a voyeuristic or exhibitionist sense. The fetishes that I wasn't interested in could be something for her to enjoy her own personal space as I'm sure I too have many kinks that I'd still want to continue indulging in that she might not be interested in either.
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
No. It wouldn't..
0 likes
There are double standards for men and women. Women can't have sordid histories and men can. I think it's hypocritical.
Maker of Mediocre Jokes
0 likes
As long as the woman is drug and disease free, the sordid history contains nothing illegal, her history is just that, history.
That's in general though. I can think of things that would be too unpleasant to think about, certain kinks too extreme, though context matters. If the person was in an experimental phase and engaged in some of the more unsavory business I'm talking [REDACTED, because common sense] it would be different than here going "by the way, I'm really into [Still REDACTED]"
I also have a big problem with individuals who cheat on significant others, to the point where I don't want to be friends with them by and large.
I have a yes to the 'can' part of the question, but there are too many variables in play for me to give a better answer than, mostly no, but sometimes yes.
That's in general though. I can think of things that would be too unpleasant to think about, certain kinks too extreme, though context matters. If the person was in an experimental phase and engaged in some of the more unsavory business I'm talking [REDACTED, because common sense] it would be different than here going "by the way, I'm really into [Still REDACTED]"
I also have a big problem with individuals who cheat on significant others, to the point where I don't want to be friends with them by and large.
I have a yes to the 'can' part of the question, but there are too many variables in play for me to give a better answer than, mostly no, but sometimes yes.
My first Recommended Read: I Planned To Walk In On Them, But Not For Them To Keep Going. HELP!
'tis himself!
0 likes
I can't think of any sexual aspect to a woman's past that would make me discount her. If she has a disease, I need to know, but that's about it.
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
It depends. What is she now. We all have past, some we may or may not be proud of, but they make us what we are. So I would be more concerned with what she is today than 20 years ago.
Lurker
0 likes
Maybe I'm the only man on Earth that thinks like this, but what if she knows MY sordid sex history?
Advanced Wordsmith
0 likes
I've learned bits and pieces of my wifes past, some things I'd never imagined and some things I had only read about.
I very much wish I could get in on this kind of stuff but she says it would not be good for me to do these things. What's to do?
I very much wish I could get in on this kind of stuff but she says it would not be good for me to do these things. What's to do?
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
Absolutely not! We cannot judge anyone on their past. What happened before we met them cannot be changed and you either accept it or not. But if you love the girl/guy, then their past should not be a concern for you. We all have a past - that's how we got to the present. And before you judge someone on the choices or mistakes they made, look in the mirror!
I took on a woman with a previous marriage and a child. I did it because I loved her. And it was the best decision I even made bar none.
I took on a woman with a previous marriage and a child. I did it because I loved her. And it was the best decision I even made bar none.
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
Shakespeare- “Things without all remedy / Should be without regard: What’s done is done.”
Arak - The past is the past , learn from it and let it go. the rest is all bullshit
Shakespeare- "To thine own self be true"
Arak-Own that shit, I am going to be the best me I can be
Shakespeare-What’s in a name? that which we call a rose By Any Other Name would smell as sweet;
Arak - You do you , Until you make peace with and love yourself no one else can
Shakespeare-That Way Madness Lies
Arak- Cut it the fuck loose, it means nothing
Shakespeare-“Lay on, Macduff, and damned be him who first cries ‘Hold! enough!’”
Arak- Come gitcha some.
Arak - The past is the past , learn from it and let it go. the rest is all bullshit
Shakespeare- "To thine own self be true"
Arak-Own that shit, I am going to be the best me I can be
Shakespeare-What’s in a name? that which we call a rose By Any Other Name would smell as sweet;
Arak - You do you , Until you make peace with and love yourself no one else can
Shakespeare-That Way Madness Lies
Arak- Cut it the fuck loose, it means nothing
Shakespeare-“Lay on, Macduff, and damned be him who first cries ‘Hold! enough!’”
Arak- Come gitcha some.
Active Ink Slinger
0 likes
I'd prefer a gal with experience. I don't need to be your first when you're experimenting.