A question mainly aimed at those in long term relationships. When having sex with your partner do you ever imagine it's someone else? I often do and it helps. I have fantasised about other men, including people I have had sex with, and it helps
me get off. It is especially likely to happen when he does me from
behind or goes down on me. Anyone else? He has sometimes encouraged it but is mainly blissfully unaware...of course he may do the same and I don't mind, though I would
probably rather not know.
when I'm with my wife I'm usually pretty focused on her.mqvdIMo6If23PLnG
Sometimes we fantasise about other people, mainly women, but usually that is a joint fantasy and often it is either in the abstract or someone famous rather than people we know. I have fantasised about other people privately of course, and sometimes when in bed with a man, but it is not something I do a lot if at all when shagging my current bf. But rest assured it is normal, I am sure
lots do it x
I should also add that my wife admits to fantasizing about other men and that doesn't bother me a bit. Mainly certain actors, but also scenes from porn vids.
I suppose there is a part of all of us that is just sexually private. You might tell your partner you fantasise about other people, you probably wouldn't say "Your mate John"!
I have... long term, short term - doesn't matter... sometimes you're horny for a specific person and they invade your thoughts when you're turned on. I say let them into your head, and don't tell the one you're with.
It's not healthy for a relationship if it becomes a chronic habit, though. It also prevents 'intensely connected' sex, which I happen to love. So, I think once in a while it's fine but if I had to constantly rely on fantasies about someone else to get off, then I'd exit the current relationship.
Yes, of course. I would be surprised if anyone could say that they never have fantsized of someone else than their current lover. Perhaps it is just because it is so intrinsic to my sex life that it is hard to fathom that it is not a part of someone elses.
I suspect that this is particularly true of Lushies. We love the fantasy world; it is why we are here. If I could not imagine Personal Assistant, or Dancing Doll, or Sexyvixen (or perhaps you), life would be so boring!
Oh Goodness yes, when I was married almost all a the time. Especially someone that was completely Taboo.
Now that I am free to be who I am and with who I want not so much. However I am sure there will be times.
I have tried i once but i much perfer to look and watch at the job im doing watch her face and body making sure im doing the job right for her, after all sex is boring if dont do it right and both have good times rather than just you getting off
My mind wanders a lot (and I imagine hers does some as well), from me and her, to me and somebody else, even to her and me as somebody else; but it always cycles back to the two of us together several times through the encounter, and almost always ends on it. For context, I'm Pan and non-op MTF trans.
I don't think I could do it looking at him face to face but have definitely imagined it being another woman when he goes down on me......I don't think it does any harm after all we all have our fantasies and I'm sure as hell he does!
While masturbating I fantasize about others, I definitely need to at that time. But, when I'm with him I don't, I find myself focused completely on my partner so that I can feel him emotionally as well as physically. Now if this question was asked in relation to swinging, I'd have a different answer.
during the actual act....never..i love to have sex with the person i adore..they never get old to me
I have on occaision. I have even told my current partner afterwards a couple of times of my fantasies. But you can only do that if your relationship is strong enough to accept that.
No, not at all. Totally in the moment with each other.
Nope, why would I? I'm very happy with who I'm with and so don't want other men ^^
Never when I'm with my man, unless we are talking about our fantasies as part of our loving.
That totally changes when it comes to masturbating, then there are one or two who flit through my mind
