Hello ladies. I had a conversation over the weekend with a close female friend about the way her boyfriend ask her for sex. It got me to wondering about the best way men should approach women when it comes to sex. "Can I get some?" "Are you gonna give me some?" is what he says when he wants to have sex with her. I personally think it's funny to ask a woman that. But that's just me. My question is, what are the best ways for a man to persuade you/ask you, to have sex? My personal feeling is, unless you have set up a date just for that, the moment should be built up to with light conversation, touching and kissing. But I know not everyone thinks or works that way. So I come to you for some insight. Thanks.
It should flow naturally and be spontaneous. Otherwise, it's a potential turn off for me. Perhaps when I was younger, uncertainty and inexperience on both sides yielded the need to get clarity. At this point in my life, it's crystal clear.
If he walks up to me and asks “can I get some” I’m more than likely to punch him in the face. If we’re just chillin at home, some nice kisses and caresses to start with might prove to be more successful.
All my husband has to do is give me “THE” look .... but when we were dating he would pull me close and whisper “I want you” ... now his look whispers it to me ??
Even though there is a 99.9 % chance I would say yes, I like it to just flow into the foreplay and then into fucking with out actually saying a word. The body language speak louder any way.
Brandie
Are we talking boyfriends here, or dates with guys trying to get some for the first time? My boyfriends need only kiss my neck or walk up behind me and put their hands around my boobs and I'm game. A random date would know from my flirting and body language that I was giving him/her the green light. If I'm not interested, they'll know that too.
Random chat messages here that say "horny" or "wet" have never worked much for me. Maybe irl?
If it is the second date, the first must have been good or there would be not second.
They know a kiss and a close tight hug is all it takes to get me going.
I know few woman need sex as much as I do.
Never ask a question that can be answered with a "yes" or "no" answer. True in court and true in life.
"Am I gonna get some?" Seriously? If you have to ask...it's a hard "no".
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I can honestly say that I have never asked my wife for sex. It's something that should flow naturally. If we're in bed I'll start with gently kissing and caressing. If she responds thing will flow at a natural pace. If she doesn't, I'll just hold her until we fall asleep.
Other times I'll just be playful and tease or touch intimately. Again, if she responds, we'll go where the mood takes us.
On the other hand, She'll sometimes say to me, 'Let's have some sexy fun later.' My response is usually, 'Okay sweetheart. What do you have in mind?'
almost anything is better than "can i smash?". i can't recall the fella straight up asking for sex, not seriously anyway. it's generally a look or a makeout session, or situation, that just progressed to something more. words aren't needed in those circumstances.
After reading this closely, I see that you have electrified your communication skills with the “green lite / Red lite” thing. Is this worn around your neck or certain other body parts?? I think it’s a wonderful concept, but ya need to share more details 
Remind me to teach you the concept of metaphor someday, Rick!
but he’d know I wasn’t impressed.
