Was Jesus a woman? Is L Ron Hubbard in permanent orbit around the earth? Is Vladimir Putin a cross-dresser? We can be fairly certain the answer to the third question is ‘no’, but the jury is still out on questions 1 and 2. According the writings of the 14th century English mystic Julian of Norwich, God is both our mother and our father; and Jesus, she averred, is like a mother who is wise, loving and merciful.
I’m a committed lesbian. Since arriving here on Lush in early July, I’ve found this site to be a wonderfully safe haven for sexy fun and serious chat. So please can I take up a few minutes of your time (eliciting a reply too, I hope) with the latter?
I was probably born a lesbian – although it took me a long time to accept that I was one. In my adolescent years I tried to conform to the norm – if ‘tart’ can be considered the norm for a female. I was very popular with the men. I came out about 40 years ago, though that did not stop me from marrying the last decent man on earth. Apparently, I am still a woman, and therefore still a lesbian. I am sure I will die a lesbian. There are lots of lesbians here on Lush – and why not? Lush is a safe and friendly place for us, as it is for bi women, gay and bi-men.
I have heard it posited that most lesbians on here are really men. I don't know about that, one way or the other. I don't understand it if it's true. Why, when you have the chance to be who you really are, something you can't always do elswhere, would you want to be someone else? Are there really that many men who want to be lesbians? Thinking about it though, maybe there are. I sure as hell don't want to be a man, why should they.
I am not a man and wasn’t born a man. Nor will I die as a man. But my nagging concern is: What if I’m not a lesbian after all? What if I’m not even a woman? What if I’m a man! How would I know if I’m a man? What clues might I have missed? Would a search warrant be required or even a physical examination? Is this, perhaps, part of some great Global Anti-Lesbian Conspiracy? Dear old Alfred Kinsey, 70 years ago in his ground-breaking report, introduced the world to The Kinsey Scale. Our sexuality, sexual feelings and sexual attractions, he posited, can fluctuate in our adult life. Mine most certainly have.
So how do I tell if I’m a man? I don’t want to be one, I’m very happy being a lesbian. But if I’m not a lesbian I really need to know immediately.
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It doesn't matter what gender you are attracted to. I find females are gorgeous and males handsome. I do identify as straight but I have kissed and been heavy with females before. It was all in fun.
I have a hormonal problem which meant I stopped developing in many ways after the age of 12, so I am always getting asked where my mother is, and whether she knows I am a out alone. I am 30, but only 4'10", so my main difficulty around 'was I a woman' was to do with convincing people that I am an adult - my ID card needs replacing annually, lol. But, having gone through a phase when I wished I had bigger breasts (well tbh, any visible growth) and fuller hips and was more 'womanly', I came to accept I am the way I am, and that includes not finding men in the slightest bit sexually attractive. It may have something to do with finding older women of a submissive bent, immensely attractive (ehem).
I wrote messages to the three of you who responded so far, and Lush promptly threw them in the trash. I suffer from CRAFT disease, so I've no idea what I said. I'll try ty come up with something once my mail privileges are restored.
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I am a straight male, while at the same time I am fully believing that whatever form love takes, it is still love. We were never meant to be clones of each other. Each and every one of us is a full fledged human being and entitled to respect. Be who you are. If folks don't like it, fuck them.
BTW, most of the things I have learned about pleasing women came from women, some of whom identify as lesbians. Accept yourself.
While self-reflection is usually a good thing, if you came out as a lesbian 40 years ago, it's probably a little late to be questioning your orientation, let alone your gender. By Occam's Razor, the simplest explanation is usually the correct one, so if you've felt like a lesbian all these years, and you don't have a penis, you're probably a lesbian. I've never questioned my gender identity, as I have no androgynous ambiguity at all, and my bi-sexuality is so ingrained, I've never had any doubts about my orientation, but I've always been so sexually free and, well... promiscuous, for lack of a nicer word, people have suggested I have a man's personality in a woman's body. I tend to not ascribe stereotypical gender role expectations for members of either sex, so I don't worry much about being different from most women personality-wise. I've always felt confidently bi-sexual, but at certain periods in my life, I've been much more lesbian than other times, moreso because of situational opportunities than changes in personal preference. So I'm curious why at this late stage you are having doubts about your sexuality.
One of the first signs that you have achieved wisdom is to acknowledge your ignorance.
On Lush when someone says that a lot of lesbians on Lush are men, it is not figuritive but literal. There are a lot of men posing as women, especially personifying themselves as women. This is so they can cyber sex with real lesbians and get their rocks off.
Let's be real. I am sure almost all real lesbians can figure out the fakes very quickly. I am guessing the fake lesbian (men) usually end up cybering with each other unbeknownst. A rather humorous picture, right?
One great thing about Lush is making friends with wonderful people of all sexual lifestyles and genders.
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