Older lady's why do ya not want it any more ( over 55 girls}

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How do you know they don´t

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I was just about to say that....

Complex topic.

My lover had a high libido through peri-menopause but once it hit full-on, that was it. She lost all interest in physical intimacy.

As I understand it, from what I've read and heard from friends, it really depends on the woman, and factors, such as how understanding and open their partner is, communication on both sides, and then a whole slew of physical conditions that result from the end of fertility; vaginal dryness, changes in elasticity, health issues (greater risk of UTIs and others that complicate matters.

At the end of menses, several chemicals are produced in lesser quantities such as estrogen and testosterone, which contribute to libido, levels of arousal, and desire. The drop can be very sudden and something of a shock, combined with other aspects of ageing and physical changes that can affect self-esteem and self-image.

As I understand it, exercise and diet certainly help (as they always do) but there are medical treatments such as Hormone Replacement Therapy that have helped some women (and not others) and herbal remedies that can help restore hormonal balance and promote a healthy libido post-menopause. There are natural lubricants and some new products that can aid in restoring blood flow to the genitals, resulting in arousal and lubrication.

My friends have not tried any of these yet, so I'm curious to hear if anyone has.

Now, I have a few older friends who spell it, "Men: A pause," who suggest that it is temporary, and a few have told me that although it is different now, they still have a healthy sex life with their partners.

I actually came on the forum to see if this was being discussed at all, because I am still very much in love with my friend and am trying to be supportive, whilst gaining more of an understanding of what she's going through (as well as many of my friends my age).

Thankfully, there is good information out there but I'd love to hear from women who have actually gone through this change and have found ways of coping and keeping their interest in sex and intercourse. I have to have hope that although things might be different from this point on, there can still be physical love.

I'm middle aged but still have a strong sexual drive, and at least for now, am fully functional. In other words, I'm not really ready to put it down, don my cardigan and settle for the rocking chair until my heart finally decides it's had enough and gives out.

That's said with some humour, by the way.

So, women, is there any advice you can share with a loving, patient man, who has a desire to understand and be supportive? I've heard and read that there is sex after 55/60, and I really have to hope that that's true.

Sorry that’s not all women. My sexual drive has not changed at all.

However HIS hit zero 14 years ago. I think we need to stop these medical stereotypes.

Desire is affected by more than one thing.

And if THIS is true why aren't doctors and big pharm on this like shit on a stick?

So many men say their wives lost interest. My husband lost interest. But men do not go through menopause but testosterone does taper off with age.

Maybe it’s half medical and half us? I would like to think it’s medical. But honestly I think he just never really desired me. Just wanted kids and I was the first available uterus.

This is NOT a comment on you. But if I adored my husband and was having trouble having sex. I would explore every outlet I could. Then give him bj’s to make sure HE was happy.

We we love well in my case loved these people but since when is marriage a roommate thing.

Complacency is a terrible thing. If his/her body isn’t able to have intercourse there are ways to make your partner happy and fulfilled.

Haven’t been married for years and when we had time together we were like rabbits but it was more a matter of not being together much. Some other stuff that is no one's business. At 53 my companions include a broad age group and I would not presume to categorize them in any way whatsoever. Each one is or was uniquely themselves and almost without exception wonderful to be in and out of bed. To clarify when I say “broad age group” I am not suggesting there are hordes of women from horizon to horizon, just a few within a broad age group. A Lothario I am not.😇

This has been covered extensively by the major advice columnists, including the likes of Ann Landers and not just Dan Savage.

Loss of sex drive and/or physical intimacy happens to both women and men, and I’m not convinced to one more than the other. I’m not even sure I agree with your premise that there are more old guys than old women prowling here, and in any event I wouldn’t expect the population here to be symmetrical even if men and women lost interest in similar proportions

Women, for their part, go through lots of hormonal changes in middle age that either impact their sex drive, or even if their drive isn’t reduced, can result in reduced physical receptiveness that can make sex more difficult and/or embarrassing.

Men, meanwhile, also often have more challenges getting (or maintaining) erections for a wide variety of medical reasons, some of which can be counteracted by the little pill and some of which cannot.

Then there can be a whole lot of psychological and relationship reasons behind a drop in sex drive and intimacy too.

Sorry, there are no guarantees in life. If you started this thread in hopes of reassurance that you’ll keep happily fucking until the day you die, or looking for simple solutions, you may not find them. Enjoy each day and each fuck to the fullest.

Don't know who you have been talking to.I'm 62 and I like getting fucked often.