having been approached a lot both on facebook and here by married men...
there seems to be a common thread...
my wife does not want sex anymore...
I ususally ask them the same question...do you do chores..all say yes
do you take care of the kids...all say yes
do you cook..oh yes every meal
do you sit on the coach on sunday watching every game imaginable...while she needs to talk to you...oh no....
do they have everything they want all say yes....
but i have to ask..is this a lie..or is it women?
me i cannot believe everyone of u pick up all your clothes, cook every meal, carpool, watch only lifetime for women
put up with inlaws and keep yourself model ready....
BUT if that is true
are we ladies withholding WHAT they need in order to get what we WANT?
was married to a man who withheld sex for the house wasn't as perfect as he wanted it to be
so...do u use sex..as a weapon?
me i love it but i wonder...can men also compartmentalize emotional feelings vs...sexual....
not a slam on guys here...or women...just wondering if all the come's on i have gotten from married men..are true
I think these guys are cheaters and trying to make themselves feel less guilty about it by blaming their wives. That being said, it is not uncommon for a woman to lose her sex drive while she is raising kids. Pregnancy can do it (it can also have the opposite effect!). Breastfeeding can do it. Being exhausted can do it.
i so agree ..they validate the reason for cheating
and yes when u have small kids and are run ragged i agree with that too..
thank you sweet penny!
devil i love what u wrote...i truly do
i think when we are dating it is all good behavior
but whatever sex u are having cut it by half...and that is marriage after a few years..so it if is NOT to your liking at dating..well
i mean if i have to pick up your damn underwear for 27 yearss for it is an HONOR to see your skid marks....
u will LOOK like your skid marks to me
i confess i am a shitty cleaner..absolutely....
but i truly believe... saying you know why i dont want to have sex with you...IT is because i just dont u LIKE u anymore..for u do xyz and it drives ME crazy..(though u did devil u really did...i applaud u for that!)
this struggle will continue
sad... as i have said in previous posts i believe that SEX is part of marriage and if you are worried enough about your money to have a prenuptial..why not a SEXNUPTIAL>>>>???
again LOVED love what u wrote devil..so honest...thank you!
I can honestly say that if I'm not loving you then there will be no lovin.
Its not that Im withholding sex as a weapon to get what I want or to get back at him for a particular reason,
its just that if we have had an arguement or for some reason he has pissed me off that day, then Im just not in the mood to please.
I love sex; the feelings, the emotions the bond that we share, but if Im angry I just dont feel it at all. My body doesn't respond and I
know that all I'm going to feel after its finished is resentment.
So I would rather go to bed, let a night settle the anger and start afresh the next day.
If my hearts not in it then I'm just going through the motions and who wants to have sex with someone whos not enjoying the moment ?
guy's, if your girl is not initiating sex, throw her on the bed, and fuck the daylights out of her!
if she genuinely does not want sex (and you are both healthy) find yourself another girl
Married women do use sex as a weapon. And while some guys don't clean well or communicate properly, from my experience, you could say the same of some women. So, it isn't across the board. What is weird is that it never was an issue until the "i do's" were said. I think its a power trip. A control thing and has nothing todo with who cleans what and well a job they do. Power and control and the bounty is her pussy.
It wasn't to punish, but I definitely withheld sex when I "lost that lovin feelin." When everything you do seems to be wrong from your job to how you keep the house to which utensil you use to frost a cake or are told "you're not very funny" (and I know I'm funny, because my mom told me so) to "if you listened to me, you could be a better person." BUT, you want to have sex with me?? Yeah, sorry not so much.
People talk to their bar tender. Many ladies have told me how they cut their mates off to get what they want or to punish them! I just smile and keep serving drinks. So yes they do.
Yes. But so do I. She wants it as much as I do. We shouldn't do that, but when your mad you do stupid things. So we punish each other and get no sex. The one good thing is make-up sex after we both cum to our senses.
If the men on here cook all the meals, pick up all the clothes, do all the dishes, watch Lifetime for Women, etc..... I know what the women want. Maybe they're saving themselves for A REAL MAN! Not to sound chauvenistic, but any man who does ALL those things described in your opening post is a gay man. Yes, a woman likes help around the house. But if a man does it all, then the woman will no longer respect their man. He becomes nothing more than a roommate who must pull his share of the chores. I expect my woman to be womanlike. I don't expect her to help me change the oil in the car. And if she took it upon herself to do it, I would look at her differently. Even to the point of being sexually turned off. Maybe women aren't denying sex as punishment. Maybe they're denying it because they want their man back. Of course, this whole argument goes out the window if you were originally attracted to the oil changing woman or the Lifetime watching man.
In many parts of the world a man has a wife AND a mistress and denial of sex by the wife is a moot point and getting rid of a mistress is as easy as changing socks.
I think the whole idea of having only one sex partner is a cause of a LOT of friction between men and women and the idea of only one wife, husband, BF or GF is just asking for trouble and grief.
Just one man's opinion and I suspect I should get prepared for INCOMING because this whole topic is likely to earn me the ire of many an American woman!!! LOL
Great minds think alike but dirty minds work together.... ;)
For me it depends on my mood, I might feel in the right frame of mind to have sex and tell the other half I'm ready for it.
He will get excited and then something comes up and then my mood swings to nah don't feel like any more.
Or I might feel like anal sex, however when it comes to the deed my anus is tender and feels pain to easily and I can't stand it. Which makes Mr Sweets get confused why I'm hot and then I'm cold when it comes to sex.
As for the quote saying just take the chick fuck her on the bed and if she doesn't put out then dump her. Wow that is a jerky answer if I ever saw one and I agree that is spousal weither it's a boyfriend/partner or husband.
"Sexual pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken."
Simone de Beauvoir
There's always the five sisters!
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