I'm curious to find out how lushies feel about chatting, cybering and/or camming with profiles who are married or in some type of relationship. Depending on who you talk to, chatting, cybering and/or camming isn't technically 'cheating' while others would strongly disagree.
1. Do you engage in such discussions/actions with profiles who are married/in a relationship?
2. If yes, what do you do and/or how far do you take things?
3. Do you view married/in a relationship profiles who chat, cyber and/or cam with the opposite sex as cheating or not? why or why not?
**Can't WAIT to hear what you all have to say on this topic!!
1. Yes, I do.
2. I let it play out the way it wants to, I leave it up to the person who has the most to lose. If they don't seem to have a problem with it then I don't really mind because after the night I'm not the one who is going to lose anything from the process. But I definitely respect someone's wishes to keep the chat innocent if requested. I really like just chatting in general doesn't have to be sexual at all. But if it does turn sexual then so be it, why not have a little fun.
3. No, I do not view chatting, webcamming, cybering as cheating in all honesty. I view cheating as a physical act. In my opinion all of the above options are just like porn. And I don't believe porn is cheating either.
I know lots will disagree with me on this subject, and I apologize if the above message offends you. But when I have a girlfriend I will not cam, I will not chat, and I will not cyber at all. Because I am a true believer that I will have my girl, and she easily satisfies all my needs in life, not just sexual.
Respectfully,
Flirt
1. Yes
2. I don't actually pay attention to the "in a relationship" or not part of the profile. I figure if you're on lush and you're at the other end of the line, then we're both here to enjoy.
3. Cheating definition is in the eye of the beholder -- I believe in honesty in a relationship simply because it is mentally more healthy for both parties -- so I would want my partner to be OK with what I was doing, be it chatting, cybering or camming.
I'm basically in agreement with the previous replies. However, there's something to be said for 'emotional cheating'. I think it's nothing to share sexual preferences, stories, desires, etc....But to actual 'cyber' with someone CAN (although not necessarily) cross a line. I tend not to get too 'personal' or 'explicit' w/ someone who's married. Overall, I view it as a 'look but don't touch' thing. Once 'touching' occurs, then it's definitely cheating (if it wasn't before then).
I am married. I do NOT cyber sex! Two things about that, first, I feel as if that is cheating, second, it never held any appeal anyhow.
I do sometimes chat with friends on Lush that are married, in a relationship or single. We talk about all kinds of subjects. Nothing that would constitute cheating though. I might discuss sex in a general way. I have no interest in having an online sexual relationship. I do not cam.
I very rarely chat with anyone here and if I do I'm not concerned if they're married or in a relationship as I don't cyber or cam.
I don't cam with anyone but my partner and I very rarely cyber, but I do chat.
A bit of flirting or teasing is fine, but when it gets a little heavier thats when I start to feel uncomfortable if I know they're married or in a relationship.
I don't know if they have the same understanding that my partner and I have. We don't engage in it when we're together but when he's away working for 2 weeks out of the month and the opportunity arises... then we both do it.
If the person I'm chatting with doesn't disclose their activities with their partner then they're not necessarily cheating physically but they are cheating in the emotional sense if the conversation does turn sexual and they're not honest with their partners about it.
If my partner was at home all the time and I found him in the middle of a hot cyber session with someone else I'd feel hurt and inadequate. I'm right there and he has to go online to find his release? I think something's wrong if he can't come to me to find that same release.
I think its all about honesty and putting yourself in the other person's shoes.
You know if you've crossed the line when something fun turns into something you have to hide from your partner so you don't get caught.
I will chat etc with anyone it is down to them how far they want to take it
Yes I love to chat and I do not feel like I am cheating. I leave it to the person I chat with to set the limits.
We each must decide for ourselves those limits. I never push for the person to go beyond their limits. but love to cyber if the person wants that.
I do not understand the chat rooms. I have had an interesting and enlightening chat with one person on his sexual preferences and life, just friendship.
What is cybering - mutual masturbation while on the net? Have not done and will not.
I like to have mail exchanges, and it seems very few of my friends are online at the same time as me, so mail works better that chat I think. I and have learned much and achieved friendship through that, but nothing bordering to stating a relation other than friendship.
I found out I had to tell my wife about my Lush activity and other erotica reading, as I did not find it comfortable to do it behind her back, but I have never cheated on her in the form of establishing physical or serious emotional relations with anyone else - never will either.
(1) yes
(2) depends how far the other person wants to take it. I is fun to as theysay let your hair down. It is a way to explore your sexual fantasys in a safe way.
(3)no, to me cheating you actually met the person have sex with them. Camming cybering and camming you both know you will most likley neer met.
I do not cam or do phone anymore due to some issues I had in the past with a stalker.
As to chatting and yes cybering, I have done both in the past with those in relationships or married. And yes we have discussed their marriages or relationships as part of our chat at times. I actually chat much more than I ever cyber. I enjoying chatting about a person's life or sharing stories and stuff much more than I enjoy cyber.
I think cheating is in the eye of the person. And it seems every person has a different idea of cheating than the next person. My ex-wife thought everything was cheating. If I looked at a girl or a guy I was cheating. If I looked at porn I was cheating. One night she wasn't in the mood. I was. After she went to bed, I was watching a movie and got turned on. I took matters in my own hand. She walked in and went ballistic. Yes she even thought that was cheating. So yes I am sure that she would have considered cybering or even discussing sex with someone besides her would have been cheating.
1. Do you engage in such discussions/actions with profiles who are married/in a relationship?
Yes, i normally don't look up if they are in the chat room, but i have no problem chatting
2. If yes, what do you do and/or how far do you take things?
talk, sometimes turning sexual, i mean nothing will come of us doing it so
3. Do you view married/in a relationship profiles who chat, cyber and/or cam with the opposite sex as cheating or not? why or why not?
well if their partner knows then no, but if they dont know then yes. mentally its cheating but its all in your head, no physical action is taken so
I have only been in an Open Relationship, so cheating is not a term I am really familiar with. Why must we set up such barriers.
I think that cheating is physical. To me, online chatting is just a way to have some fun or blow off steam. For someone in a relationship, there should definitely be limits and boundaries. I think that overly explicit photos are a bit on the edge and personally, they cross the line for me (thats me sending them, i dont mind seeing somebody elses). Webcamming would be a definite personal no-no for me . My rule of thumb is generally "how would i feel if my partner were doing this? Would I feel that I was being cheated on?". And as for chatting, I wouldnt feel as if I had been cheated on if I found out that my boyfriend was chatting. As long as there is nothing physical, I'm cool.
