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Do you ever "burn out" on writing sex?

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curvygalore
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as long as Betty makes an appearance. ?


Aww, you're too kind! Done! smile And that is already sorted as the most recent chapter of Tobias is newly published and Betty does indeed make an appearance...
Green_Man
Primus Omnium
There is a rather fine way to get out of a slump concerning the writing of erotica. Try spending just as much time writing non-erotic stories. Or poems. Any sort of writing will do the trick. Just as an example my catalog on Lush is over 500 pieces. I have over 400 on StoriesSpace. Keeping my creative juices flowing works quite well for me as I move easily back and forth in the two types of writing.

Also, it has been a tactic of mine to attempt to write in every genre available on our site here. And also on the SS site. That I have done and it does give me thrills to create something decent in every category for both sites. I did the same with the now-defunct HistoriasLush in Spanish. I had completed all the categories there as well.

Along the same lines, I will give myself some challenges to create in different ways. I study the types of poetry and try to write using multiple kinds. Like sonnets and such. I am trying to be open and clear. I love writing. I dislike writing the same thing over and over. So finding ever new ways to talk about the world and the human condition is surely a challenge. But it is gloriously fulfilling. Never give it up if it is truly your calling.
Guest
Lurker
Yep...

When I was having lots of sex, I loved writing about it.

I don't have it as much anymore, and I seem to want to write about other things.

I tend to use sex as an extension of my experiences as opposed to using it as surrogate for a lack of sex.

I do fine with the mechanics of it all, but I find the dialogue and the things that lead up to it are what makes a story interesting.
Master_Jonathan
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very sad. i've been waiting for a on top of the fridge that's up on the balcony story from you for ages now. *mopes*


Poor sprite... but there isn't a lot of room on top of my refrigerator and certainly no tie downs. Kinda limits my techniques! ;)
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There is a rather fine way to get out of a slump concerning the writing of erotica. Try spending just as much time writing non-erotic stories. Or poems. Any sort of writing will do the trick. Just as an example my catalog on Lush is over 500 pieces. I have over 400 on StoriesSpace. Keeping my creative juices flowing works quite well for me as I move easily back and forth in the two types of writing.



This is probably where I'm going. I'm toying with a bunch of story ideas, all for SS. Life just isn't leaving me a lot of writing time at present.

The truth is, I never intended to be a writer of erotica. It was something I did for my own amusement and arousal but it's never what I intended to make the focus of my writing. It just kind of happened that the first writing site I landed on that clicked with me was Lush. So a guy who never really thought of himself as a writer of erotica (I always wanted to write horror and fantasy primarily) now has 50 stories on an erotica site, several of them with Recommended Read badges, two of them in the runners-up list for competitions. And only a couple of them are fantasy in the genre sense of being about imaginary worlds and beings (they are all fantasy in the erotic sense). Maybe that disconnect is starting to boomerang on me a bit, esp. since I'm largely doing it "on the sly" and can't publicize my erotica much beyond this site whereas my non-erotic fic can be tweeted, posted on other boards, etc.
ThePhantom
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They're stories!? - just advance the timeline a little and make out the characters are older.


I have thought of that, but the story loses something if I make the characters older.
Just_A_Guy_You_Know
Wouldn't you rather have a nice cup of tea?
I joined lush because I wanted to explore my sexual side through writing. And then I did that. Now that the feeling of discovery has worn off, my heart's not so much in it these days. For the moment, I've said pretty much all I had to say in terms of eroticism. I may come back to it in time, or may not, but I don't feel pressured or driven to produce anything.

Don't believe everything that you read.
AbigailThornton
Orgasm Aficionado
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This is probably where I'm going. I'm toying with a bunch of story ideas, all for SS. Life just isn't leaving me a lot of writing time at present.

The truth is, I never intended to be a writer of erotica. It was something I did for my own amusement and arousal but it's never what I intended to make the focus of my writing. It just kind of happened that the first writing site I landed on that clicked with me was Lush. So a guy who never really thought of himself as a writer of erotica (I always wanted to write horror and fantasy primarily) now has 50 stories on an erotica site, several of them with Recommended Read badges, two of them in the runners-up list for competitions. And only a couple of them are fantasy in the genre sense of being about imaginary worlds and beings (they are all fantasy in the erotic sense). Maybe that disconnect is starting to boomerang on me a bit, esp. since I'm largely doing it "on the sly" and can't publicize my erotica much beyond this site whereas my non-erotic fic can be tweeted, posted on other boards, etc.


You can only 'force' any kind of writing that isn't coming from your soul for so long (unless that is your actual job, in which case you just have to find a way to knuckle down and get it done). It sounds like you inadvertently got on the wrong track - it was heading in the right direction (writing) when you started, but it's heading further and further away from where you want to be. You need to jump tracks.

If you don't have time to write 'properly' at the moment, just make sure that you capture your ideas and store them somewhere for when you do have time. One of life's pleasures is to take an idea from years ago and develop it into something special.

Don't worry. Don't stress. Don't be afraid to cut loose and do something else - where writing is concerned, the advantage is that you can always come back and pick up exactly where you left off. The story waits for you.
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You can only 'force' any kind of writing that isn't coming from your soul for so long (unless that is your actual job, in which case you just have to find a way to knuckle down and get it done). It sounds like you inadvertently got on the wrong track - it was heading in the right direction (writing) when you started, but it's heading further and further away from where you want to be. You need to jump tracks.

If you don't have time to write 'properly' at the moment, just make sure that you capture your ideas and store them somewhere for when you do have time. One of life's pleasures is to take an idea from years ago and develop it into something special.

Don't worry. Don't stress. Don't be afraid to cut loose and do something else - where writing is concerned, the advantage is that you can always come back and pick up exactly where you left off. The story waits for you.


Thanks, Abigail. Some good thoughts there.

I had a story going this week and it had some good, if rather short, sex scenes. Likely won't see the light of day because I have issues with where I went with it, but maybe those scenes could turn up in another story.
Pelwrath
Advanced Wordsmith
Yes , writing about the sex and craeting a viable story. Also, there's burnout/frustration from reading stories as well. I also have a time discerning, for the story, when the 'rules' of some types of relationships/sex styles are glossed over vs. real life.
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Guest
Lurker
I am currently burned out. Need to give my brain a rest...
Guest
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I am currently burned out. Need to give my brain a rest...
Meagananne1986
Sexy Seductive Siren
Yes. My first two stories got pretty good high readership numbers but after the next few drew substantially fewer readers, just kind of lost interest for a year or so. Just started writing again including my first competition story. I agree through, only so many ways you can described sexual interactions between people.
Meagan
jennabee81
Active Ink Slinger
Yes. All the time. smile Sometimes I include that feeling of sex scene obligation in my story as a meta notation. If I feel burned out by writing or by Lush, then I take a break.
My story in the Notorious competition, Abbey on Top has been described as "fun and arousing", "witty and erotic", and "sexy and hot". ?
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I have written a sex scene that I am fairly satisfied with. Unfortunately, not so much the story it is in. It's in fairly good shape writing-wise, just not happy with the direction I took it. Rewrite time, though hopefully I'll keep that sex scene more or less intact. So maybe I got it out of me.
Luxúria
Active Ink Slinger
My thoughts are such:

Have fun and get your creative juices flowing with the plot and characters, then try to challenge yourself with setting up the sex scene and giving just enough detail of the actual act, without going into a lot of detail.

Like everyone keeps mentioning; there's only so many ways you can describe "xyz" before the redundancy gets to you, and the only way I'm getting through that with stories I'm writing right now, is to find a way to make it clear what's happening while saying as little possible. Maybe I'm off track here, but it's helping me to stay motivated.
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