In early 2018 I was looking for a change. Sex with hookers was getting old. Sure, the girls were hot, and their skills considerable Some were true blowjob artists. But it always felt rushed. The clock was ticking, and there was no opportunity to get to know someone.
Of course it felt completely fake. Amazing how many experienced women would scream with passion, claim that I was their best lover ever, that they had never cum like that with others. Were there really men who believed this bullshit? I guess so or they wouldn’t have done it.
Looking for something different, I checked out Seeking Arrangement. By far the largest sugar-daddy site, SA seemed to offer the possibility of actually getting to know the girl, having less rushed sex and all at what I expected to be a more reasonable price point.
It didn’t quite work out that way. You have to screen through a huge amount of profiles to find a few that interested you. If I expected to deal with less mercenary women than the full professionals, I quickly learned otherwise. What I thought was a generous stipend did not pass muster with the hottest girls on the site.
Back then, before Seeking Arrangement got paranoid, you could have pretty clear discussions about money expectations. Nothing hinting at “pay for play,” that sounded too much like outright hooking. The site barred any discussion of sexual acts and banned guys for exploring in their messages how far a girl would be willing to go. But you could discuss what sort of monthly “allowance” you were willing to pay.
Jasmin’s ad was hot. It had several very revealing pictures of a slim young woman with legs for miles – and one picture of some S&M toys like handcuffs and a paddle. Her short profile clearly expressed her interest in “kink” and stated explicitly that she was “very submissive.”
Exactly what I was looking for! After a few messages back and forth, we agreed to meet at a local coffee shop.
I liked what I saw. Jasmin was on the short side, probably 5 ft 3 or 5 ft 4. She had kick-ass tattoos, along one shoulder and on her chest above her nicely-displayed B cups. Pierced tongue, but fortunately no piercings of her nose or eyelids.
Jasmin carried off the bad girl vibe. Even though it was a little cold out she was wearing short shorts that showed off her beautiful copper-shaded long legs to perfection. It turns out that she’s a physical fitness fanatic into working out five times a week, and it shows.
Jasmin and I made small talk for a while. We chatted about experiences on Seeking Arrangement, the number of assholes who had stood her up, the women who had ripped me off. Jasmin had just left her job as a retail manager and was looking for something to help pay the rent. She asked what my kink experience was and I filled her in, that it was mostly fantasies aside from some long-ago experiences with S&M hookers. Then it was her turn to describe how she got into the scene, what she had done, what she liked. She had me drooling.
The Making of a Masochist
Jasmin came from a conservative immigrant home. Her parents were devout churchgoers and expected her to be a “good girl.” They dragged Jasmin with them to church. Jasmin didn’t like it but had little choice but to go along – until she turned twelve. Then, no matter how much they threatened her, Jasmin refused to go to church. As she got a little older, she developed a taste for more revealing clothes than her parents wanted her to wear.
Jasmin knew that she had a high sex drive. She also discovered that she had a very high pain threshold and “crossed wires” - things that hurt “caused me a tingle down below.”
Once she turned sixteen, she became an ardent masturbator. She discovered internet porn shortly afterwards. Pictures of women being treated badly appealed to her most, although she couldn’t figure out why. After watching some S&M videos on the web, Jasmin began to incorporate pain into her masturbating. Using clothespins on her breasts, sticking large objects in her pussy, hitting herself with the bristles-end of her hairbrush – all those helped get her off. She fantasized about painful and humiliating sex – being ordered around by a strong master, kept as a slavegirl, passed around as a “party favour” among multiple guys. As she discovered BDSM websites her fantasies got more specific. She imagined herself being tied up, spanked and whipped.
Despite her new taste for more revealing clothes that showed off her body, Jasmin still went along with “being a good girl” to keep her parents off her back. She got adept at living in two worlds: a good girl at home and school, and an adventurous explorer outside.
Jasmin didn’t go on formal dates – her parents had made it clear that “good girls don’t date until they’re eighteen.” So she took to meeting boys secretly.
High school boys were clumsy and didn’t go very far. The logistics of finding a place to make out were challenging. Jasmin found herself the subject of fumbling explorations behind the schoolyard, in deserted buildings in the neighbourhood and in the occasional basement. She was too shy to let the boys know what it took to get her off. Not that they would have taken instruction very well, in any case. Losing her virginity at the age of seventeen was “nicely painful” but the guy came so quickly that Jasmin didn’t enjoy herself that much. She blew that boy off immediately afterwards.
I interrupted Jasmin’s tale to ask if she was ever into cutting herself or self-harm. “Fuck, no! Nothing sexy about that.” Jasmin was not your meek masochist. She was a strong woman who knew what she wanted. And what she wanted was painful sex.
After graduating high school Jasmin wasn’t prepared to continue her studies, despite her parents’ urging. She was certainly smart enough for university but had no idea what she wanted to study. And she was anxious to establish some independence. She went to work in a mall downtown. The retail job paid minimum wage but she was still living at home, saving up to get her own place – or more realistically, to get a room in an apartment shared with several other struggling young people.
In her daily life Jasmin developed into a direct, fearless woman who wouldn’t take any shit from anyone. At work she was quickly promoted to assistant manager of the store. She said that she was tough but fair. She got along well with her employees even though she didn’t hesitate to call them out if they were not working very hard.