Quote by Dancing_Doll
I like wearing a collar and leash sometimes for dirty sex and role-play but for me it's just a moment in time, not a lifestyle.
So I have a question for the collard and cuffed people: Is this similar to an 'engagement ring' or 'marriage' of sorts. I'm not in the BDSM lifestyle, so I'm really just trying to understand the dynamics behind this concept. Also, how serious is this commitment viewed? Knowing that many/most relationships and marriages meet their eventual demise, I'm just wondering how difficult it would be for a sub/master relationship to end and what the "uncollaring" ritual entails? Also.. would a sub seek out another master to collar them or is this considered a 'once in a lifetime' commitment only? And lastly... can you be in a relationship or marriage to one person and be collared/cuffed to a different "master" or is this prohibited?
Dancing Doll I will be happy to answer your questions. First let me say that just in any lifestyle there are many views on collars and they vary from person to person and relationship to relationship.
A collar is usually given once a contract has been signed and is an outward sign to others in the BDSM lifestyle that the submissive/slave/bottom is owned and is not available without consent of their Master/Mistress/Dom/Tops permission. The commitment for most that do this is pretty serious. Or it can be just for a predetermined amount of time that the collar is worn, such as during a BDSM scene. It truly depends on the agreement between the parties involved.
It is not difficult at all to end a BDSM relationship. Just as in a vanilla relationship either party can walk at anytime. There is nothing legal and binding about a collar. Typically there are no rituals for the ending of this type of relationship. I mean i through my last Master's collar at his head as i walked out the door.
Being married to one person and collared to another is not prohibited in BDSM. It all depends on the agreements and preferences of those involved in the D/s relationship. I know a few people that are collared to some one other than the person they are married to.