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That is a lovely set (tweezer clit clamp and nipple combo). May I ask where you got them?
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knottywordz
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 154
United States
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BDSM and sex are not synonymous. Yes, BDSM scenes can and will include sexual contact of some kind, but that's really just a subset of the norm.
I would recommend the book SM101 by Jay Wiseman.
I would recommend the book SM101 by Jay Wiseman.
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As hot as this may sound, I would highly advise against it. (I'm swear I'm gonna get kicked off this forum being the safety police that I am and ruining all the fun). Another approach is to have a trusted friend set up an anonymous rope date with a known, trusted, skilled rigger. You don't have to know this person, but your trusted friend wouldn't allow you to be in the clutches and rope of an unknown.
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I am a skilled bondage (shibari) rigger. I have a lot I could say and expand on from what you've asked. I understand the fantasy about wanting to give up control and be "taken". The being taken part is very hot, but it's not always the reality and I would advise against seeking play partner for this express purpose. Find a local bondage group. Look on Fetlife.com. Go to some workshops, attend some meetings, meet some folks.
As far as bondage as a an experience, I can say it is quite amazing. So by rigger, I'm a Top. So I do the tying. What I look for in a play partner are women who are eroticized by bondage, like to feeling of being restrained and having their naughty bits "available". Some scenes involve sexual contact, most do not. Yes, they can be quite sensual they can suggest sexual play, but nothing occurs until EVERYTHING has been carefully pre-negotiated and agreed upon. I know, I just ruined the fun. ;) This is very important though. I recommend you educate yourself on as much as you can not only to be a better rope Bottom and have a deeper, healthier, more sensual experience, but to vet out ass clowns who just want to violate your boundaries and are most likely unsafe.
To quote my teacher: yours in uncommon restraint.
-KW
As far as bondage as a an experience, I can say it is quite amazing. So by rigger, I'm a Top. So I do the tying. What I look for in a play partner are women who are eroticized by bondage, like to feeling of being restrained and having their naughty bits "available". Some scenes involve sexual contact, most do not. Yes, they can be quite sensual they can suggest sexual play, but nothing occurs until EVERYTHING has been carefully pre-negotiated and agreed upon. I know, I just ruined the fun. ;) This is very important though. I recommend you educate yourself on as much as you can not only to be a better rope Bottom and have a deeper, healthier, more sensual experience, but to vet out ass clowns who just want to violate your boundaries and are most likely unsafe.
To quote my teacher: yours in uncommon restraint.
-KW
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I mostly require safewords in role play. "Fuck you asshole, that hurts! is not a safeword there, my slutty little pet". ;) I typically do rope and negotiate with Bottoms to use real words, real English. It's vital if something is wrong in a rope scene that it be corrected immediately! I also have non-verbal cues prearranged if it's a loud dungeon. But, stoplights, G/T/R are the norm.
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Wartenberg Pinwheels are great. I use them frequently in rope scenes. They can be delicate or mean. (menacing grin). Clean with alcohol between partners. (Please). I typically use them once someone is partially or better yet, fully suspended. Great across the nipples, clit, all the way up the back of the leg and up to the back of the neck. Drives them fucking insane! Test on yourself first, it doesn't take much force with these things.
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I am an experienced Bondage Rigger. My style most closely represents Japanese Shibari/Kinbaku methods. Yes, you're spot on. It is very sensual. I find my Bottoms experience anything from a fun, joyous, laughing ride in my ropes all the way up to very intense and at times, including orgasm - all depending on what was previously, and very clearly negotiated and discussed before the rope scene (not during, no mid scene re-negotiations, etc.)
I use mostly jute (Tossa Jute). There's something about the natural fibers and the sensual "bite" it has on your skin and tender bits.
I know girls who get eroticized just from the smell of my jute and the natural oils and wax conditioning on it. For me it stimulates many centers. It's physical (I put a lot of effort into a rope scene), it's artistic, it's very technical and of course it can be very erotic for me as well.
I hope that helps.
-KW
I use mostly jute (Tossa Jute). There's something about the natural fibers and the sensual "bite" it has on your skin and tender bits.
I know girls who get eroticized just from the smell of my jute and the natural oils and wax conditioning on it. For me it stimulates many centers. It's physical (I put a lot of effort into a rope scene), it's artistic, it's very technical and of course it can be very erotic for me as well. I hope that helps.
-KW