I've been seeing this guy for the last few months quite casually and recently we had unprotected sex once. Last week I found out that I've now got a STI which he gave me (I know, I should have know better!!) We haven't spoken in over week and tonight he texts me and says he wants to take me out for dinner to make up for it. Previously, I had told him that I was starting to like him a lot, however, he said his feelings for me aren't as strong as mine for him. After, telling him that, I broke the news that he gave me an STI- which he felt bad about.
I don't want to invest my energy into someone who just seeing me whenever he pleases. It seems like he wants to take me out to dinner so he can feel better about himself.
Would you agree? And if you were in this position, what would you do?
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Over 90 days ago
Female, 32
Australian Capital Territory,
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Quote by sbp
It depends on if you put the emphasis on the 'fuck' or the 'buddy' part?!
Well, maybe I should have been clearer. I meant fuck buddy as in someone you are seeing casually. I guess the answers depend on the level of intimacy you have together. Fuck and feel ok to hang out or just fuck and have no communication in between. If the fuck buddy was replace with the word boyfriend/husband I would have thought the boyfriend/husband would have been more sensitive. The answers so far seems like they are coming from guys who have a steady gf or wife
Quote by SydneySider
If it was me and she still wanted to hang out, I would. And I'd want her to be open and upfront about why sex was off limits. If she is uncomfortable about the whole sex/period thing, then so be it, respect her wishes. One thing to remember is that we are talking about a fuck buddy relationship. Once you start hanging out, then it kinda goes against the idea of the fuck buddy. Once this starts to happen, you're no longer just fuck buddies, but maybe something more.
I think what I was trying to say was, if the guy that you were seeing casually (not your boyfriend) and every time you got together was just to have sex or you hang out at the beach and sex after, would he still want to hang out like watch a movie and make out, play around but not actually have intercourse with you if you had your period? At the end of the day the question is would you guys care if she was on her period and you would be happy not to have intercourse but just fool around?
I understand that coming over to watch a movie & cuddling may be warning bells that one person is falling for the other - and that's a different matter.
To the guys that have posted, thanks for your thoughts
Love to hear more on this :)