I would say that I’m a frustrated older man who finds relief reading the various stories published here.

I’m sure some will relate to my story.  It was the middle sixties and I was in junior high and the boy next door and I were swimming in his pool at his house.  I don’t remember how it started but we must have been playing grab ass and ended up grabbing each other’s cock.  We were both hard so I went under water and sucked on his.  He must have returned the favor because I went down on him again and was trying my best to get him to cum.  He made me stop and that was the last time we swam in the pool together.  They moved shortly after.

I went into the Army, got married, got out, got divorced, moved back to Memphis and started collage.  So now it is the eighties.  Lots of young girls there so I was horny and went down to the adult arcade to watch sex videos.  I don’t remember what video I picked but this gentleman asked to join me so I accepted.  He was standing close next to me.  After a short while I reached over and rubbed the front of his pants.  He told me not here its not safe and that he had a motel room not far away as he was here on business.  He gave me the address of the motel and his room number and told me to wait five minutes and then meet him there.

The next part seems a fuzzy now, I know I took off his pants and he was apologizing for the fact that his cock was so short.  I went down on him and it didn’t take long for his to cum.  I got up and spit it out in the sink because it didn’t taste good.

I have gotten married and divorced two more times and have been living with a younger lady for thirteen years and like most marriages the sex has gone away.

I have not forgotten my first time sucking a cock when I sucked my next-door neighbor.  I had a subscription to Penthouse while in the Army and my favorite part of that magazine was the letters, epically the ones about man-on-man sex with or with out a woman.  The internet has stoked the fires and has provided plenty of reading material and pictures to stroke myself to wonderful climaxes.

It doesn’t reduce the desire I have to hold, stroke, and suck a magnificent cock; it enflames it. 

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==

100% non-monogamist

Non-monogamists do not see sexuality as necessarily a 1 on 1 thing. Whether this means they will have several relationships or just see other people outside their relationship (or have even more exquisite constructions) depends entirely on the person and the situation, but they all have one thing in common: their sexuality is more than just between them and one fixed partner.

non-monogamists typically pair up with (several) other non-monogamists.

100% Voyeur

Voyeurs enjoy watching the nakedness or sexual activity of other people. Consensually, of course.

Voyeurs typically pair up with exhibitionists.

74% Dominant

Dominants like to be in charge. Some like to have their partner obey them without questioning, others like some resistance while taking it their way. Some are dominant only in the bedroom, others are dominant throughout their daily life as well. Unlike the top roles (giving pain/bondage/degradation), being dominant is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Dominants typically pair up with submissives.

65% Experimentalist

Experimentalists want to have tried it all. An open mind and an insatiable curiosity are their key features, and they will rarely form an opinion before they have gathered first-hand experience. They often have plenty of fantasies and will actively pursue to try them out.

Experimentalists typically pair up with other experimentalists.

62% Vanilla

Vanilla people enjoy regular, standard sex and relationship models. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you're having fun!

Vanillas typically pair up with other vanillas.

59% Daddy/Mommy

Daddies/Mommies take on a caretaker role in the relationship, being a guide as much a dominant. Daddies/Mommies dominate their little treasure submissives with an iron fist in a velvet glove: much cuddly and affectionate on the outside, while being as sturdy and hard on the inside as other dominants. Using subtle psychological mechanisms rather than brute power, they nurture their littles into obedience. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).

Daddies/Mommies typically pair up with girls/boys.

51% Rigger

Riggers like to tie up and restrain their partner(s), using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, spreader bars, etc.). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy having their partners completely at their mercy.

Riggers typically pair up with rope bunnies.

49% Switch

Switches like to... well, switch. Always taking a dominant or top position is not for them, neither is always taking a submissive or bottom position. Some prefer to switch with the same partner or partners, others have a dominant play partner and a submissive play partner, but in either case they do not fit on one end point of the spectrum.

Switches typically pair up with other switches.

47% Exhibitionist

Exhibitionists enjoy showing their naked body or a sexual activity to other people. Consensually, of course.
Exhibitionists typically pair up with voyeurs.

45% Master/Mistress

Masters/Mistresses receive complete control over the life of their slave(s), and all responsibilities that come with it. They go a step further than dominants in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Their primary focus is to create a stable and safe environment for their slave(s), to allow optimal servitude.

Masters/Mistresses typically pair up with slaves.

40% Age player

Age players like to play with age as part of their kink. They typically take on a much younger or older age than they actually are, or prefer playing with a partner that does so. Attributes and behavior changes (such as pacifiers, coloring books, speaking in more childlike language, etc.) are commonly paired with this, to enrich the context and make it more appropriate for the played age. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).

Age players typically pair up with other age players.

35% Primal (Hunter)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator (you).

Hunters typically pair up with primal preys.

34% Brat tamer

Brat tamers are, in essence, dominants who enjoy handling bratty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness from the side of the submissive, rather than a form of rudeness. They will take no offence to it, but will still teach the sub a well-deserved lesson (because, of course, that is why the bratty sub shows such behavior in the first place).

Brat Tamers typically pair up with brats.

34% Owner

Owners own pets/properties and take responsibility over them, on a 24/7 basis. Sexuality is not necessarily involved; in some cases, role play attributes are also provided (e.g., a cage for the pet). There is no link at all with sex with animals (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum), and many pets don't even feel like they're playing an animal, it's more about the typical relationship between an owner and a pet.

Owners typically pair up with pets.

23% Submissive

Submissives like to follow. Some like to give the control away to their partner(s), some like to have it forcibly taken from them. Some are submissive only in the bedroom, others are submissive throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the bottom roles (receiving pain/bondage/degradation), being submissive is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Submissives typically pair up with dominants.

5% Sadist

Sadists enjoy inflicting (certain types of) pain on their partner(s), usually in a sexual context.

Sadists typically pair up with masochists.

4% Rope bunny

Rope bunny likes to be tied up and restrained, using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, spreader bars, etc.). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy being totally at the mercy of their partner(s).

Rope bunnies typically pair up with riggers.

3% Degrader

Degraders like to degrade and humiliate their play partner(s), either by acting upon them in a degrading way, or by or by forcing them to do things they consider degrading.

Degraders typically pair up with degradees.

0% Brat

Brats are, in essence, naughty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness rather than letting their dominant down, and require a compatible dominant who will not only teach them a lesson, but also accept that any number of lessons might still not necessarily change this behavior.

Brats typically pair up with brat tamers.

0% Pet

Pets are property of their owner in daily life. Sexuality is not necessarily involved; in some cases, role play attributes are also provided (e.g., a cage for the pet). There is no link at all with sex with animals (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum), and many pets don't even feel like they're playing an animal, it's more about the typical relationship between an owner and a pet.

Pets typically pair up with owners.

0% Primal (Prey)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey (you) can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator.

Preys typically pair up with primal hunters.

0% Masochist

Masochists enjoy receiving (certain types of) pain from their partner(s), usually in a sexual context. Masochism is independent of pain tolerance: it is purely about the ability to enjoy (or get aroused by) certain levels of pain.

Masochists typically pair up with sadists.

0% Slave

Slaves completely hand over the control and responsibilities over their life to their master/mistress. They go a step further than submissives in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Serving their master/mistress is their primary focus in life and they rarely have limits for them.

Slaves typically pair up with masters/mistresses.

0% Boy/Girl

Littles (girls/boys) are submissive spirits with a strong flavor childlike innocence. They long for a nurturing loving dominant who plays a guiding, almost parental role in their lives. While they require a softer approach to be dominated than most other submissives, their submission can be just as deep as that of other submissives or slaves. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).

Girls/boys typically pair up with daddies/mommies.

0% Degradee

Degradees like to be degraded and humiliated by their play partner(s), either by being acted upon in a degrading way, or by being forced do things they consider degrading.

Degradees typically pair up with degraders.