I get that this is a business, but there's a part of this that feels so coercive and really crappy...you build a community and let people use it for free, and then once people have built deep connections, you make them pay to continue to connect. And at that the same time you use their ongoing presence here as a draw for others (look how many people have accounts here and are in the chatrooms! Big network effect!), so those same people you sort of tricked into relying on the site to connect are now also being used to draw others in. It feels really scummy, especially since it's a community based on something so personal and intimate, and I'd echo others' frustrations that such an enormous change to the basic way people interact was a surprise move. It's impossible for me to believe this wasn't done deliberately, which again as a longish-time user of the site feels like a betrayal.