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dirtysweatywhore
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 154
Canada
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I did have a FWB, or so I thought. I knew him for a long time and it was just what I needed...loved that we got along well, had fun and that there was no obligations. What I did have was an expectation...an expectation that we were actually friends and with that I expect no bull shit... Sadly he could not deliver on that which turned us into fuck buddies. Call me weird to make the distinction...but for me there is a difference.
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once acted as a bodyguard for an NHL goalie... which is only entertaining since I'm 5'2", 120lbs and female...
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lol... the Sasquatch/Big Foot episodes on the Bionic Woman....
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I've always been fond of using the word 'Petunia'... if it fits the flow of the story of course
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I love kissing a man after he has gone down on me... especially when he has a goatee so there is that much more to lick clean
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Many moons ago, as a birthday treat for the new man in my life, i rented a vidoe camera (ahhgg... dating myself!) and taped myself going from fuzzy to slick. Had never done it before and have never stopped doing it since... would love, however, for someone to do it for me. I can't imagine how hot it would make me.
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I think if I really knew what it was I might like it... I'm such a social media rookie/virgin!
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Quote by LittleMissBitchQuote by Volition
Have to iron out the kinks before you get married. Cohabitating is a necessary evil in this day and age. Courting has long since gone the way of the rotary phone.
well i am living proof that the kinks that were there before are still here now. living together did exactly shit to help that. what really needs to happen is one needs to get ones OWN kinks ironed out on ones own THEN go out and get married or live together or whatever.
couldn't agree more!
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If you factor in the 80/20 rule/theory, then I would think that only 20% of the comments and votes are coming from a place of sincerity and genuine intererst in a story. What would be interesting to see is 2 voting options that cater to the respective voter types. As well, rather than the "poor-excellent" scale, provide a built-in comment.
For example, the 80% group may primarily be the non-contributing, looking to get their rocks off, shit-disturbing type who do not have the ability to even attach one descriptive word to their vote - not to mention too many choice causes confusion. Help them out and keep it simple.
3-Excellent/Great... means to them...loved it, got me heated, more/more
2-Good/Fine... means to them... kept me interested, would read another from this author
1-Okay... means to them...didn't finish reading, skipped to find another story
And for the 20% who appear to be genuinely invested in this site, seems like also keeping it simple may be of help since it sounds like most have adopted a three point scale already.
3-Excellent/Great... means to them... well done, interesting story, creatively scribed, etc
2-Good/Fine... means to them... not bad work, shows promise, needs tweaking, etc
1-Okay... means to them... got bored, needed more, etc
As for comments; I appreciate them. In fact it was comments that I read on other stories that I kept tucked in the back of my mind as I began to write my first erotic story only last week. I am someone who has always been encouraged to write, yet never had before coming to Lush. It has done wonders for my ego and simulateously crushed me as both comments and # of readers dropped as the story continued, when I thought I was developing a pretty decent story. No question I have a lot to learn about how to improve my style, and consider subject matter... and that will likely only come from the 20% group. So to those of you who commented... thank you kindly.
Overall I have had only a few comments, but would appreciate them all, good or bad. I do not know the difficulties in creating or altering the current systems. What I do know is that as a rookie scribe I have found myself affected by all aspects of the data provided. If I was bothered by one, I would hope I could take it on the chin, look a little further and consider the source.
And to answer the original question... since I have come to appreciate the value of votes/comments, I do, based on the same criteria that many have already stated. Mostly I try to show appreciation for the efforts an author has made.
For example, the 80% group may primarily be the non-contributing, looking to get their rocks off, shit-disturbing type who do not have the ability to even attach one descriptive word to their vote - not to mention too many choice causes confusion. Help them out and keep it simple.
3-Excellent/Great... means to them...loved it, got me heated, more/more
2-Good/Fine... means to them... kept me interested, would read another from this author
1-Okay... means to them...didn't finish reading, skipped to find another story
And for the 20% who appear to be genuinely invested in this site, seems like also keeping it simple may be of help since it sounds like most have adopted a three point scale already.
3-Excellent/Great... means to them... well done, interesting story, creatively scribed, etc
2-Good/Fine... means to them... not bad work, shows promise, needs tweaking, etc
1-Okay... means to them... got bored, needed more, etc
As for comments; I appreciate them. In fact it was comments that I read on other stories that I kept tucked in the back of my mind as I began to write my first erotic story only last week. I am someone who has always been encouraged to write, yet never had before coming to Lush. It has done wonders for my ego and simulateously crushed me as both comments and # of readers dropped as the story continued, when I thought I was developing a pretty decent story. No question I have a lot to learn about how to improve my style, and consider subject matter... and that will likely only come from the 20% group. So to those of you who commented... thank you kindly.
Overall I have had only a few comments, but would appreciate them all, good or bad. I do not know the difficulties in creating or altering the current systems. What I do know is that as a rookie scribe I have found myself affected by all aspects of the data provided. If I was bothered by one, I would hope I could take it on the chin, look a little further and consider the source.
And to answer the original question... since I have come to appreciate the value of votes/comments, I do, based on the same criteria that many have already stated. Mostly I try to show appreciation for the efforts an author has made.
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Having lots of fun, kinky, dirty sex with my man and not once being asked "how do you want to go now?"... until of course we bring another DSW to join us. Then I would simply say "Me first" 
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skyman
ooops! wrong pic... I should have said RetroBabe
ooops! wrong pic... I should have said RetroBabe
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Definately prefer a marathon man over a record setter. I'm with LittleBambi - 45 minutes of straight fucking is plenty.
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I would never say I don't believe in marriage bcuz I do and would like to be. What I do not understand is why for some people the dynamic of the relationship changes once they wear a ring. What is it that changes? Isn't being in a relationship about the commitment and that marriage only reinforces the commitment?
I guess I understand the data about people falling into marriage after living together - my question to that would be... doesn't that mean that one or both weren't really committed in the first place and the relationship would have ended regardless?
Shouldn't one of the first questions to be asked... is our living together about convenience? If the word convenience even comes close to this conversation, then someone needs to get the hell out of dodge asap!
I guess I understand the data about people falling into marriage after living together - my question to that would be... doesn't that mean that one or both weren't really committed in the first place and the relationship would have ended regardless?
Shouldn't one of the first questions to be asked... is our living together about convenience? If the word convenience even comes close to this conversation, then someone needs to get the hell out of dodge asap!
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Quote by Kornpopper
Maybe it's been mentioned before but I would like to see a How to/ tips and tricks section in the forums. I know you have the FAQ but there are still some questions I have not seen in there. I'm not looking for anything fancy just something to help the computer illiterate people like myself.
Examples:
How to quote someone. (took me about 2 months to figure that button out)
How to quote a sentence that someone says and not the whole text. (still don't know how)
How to post a link.
How to use the search function. (for those pesky people who ask the same questions over and over)
How to embed the youtube link without having to type the whole text.
How to exit the chat rooms without signing out of your account. (apparently the back button on the browser doesn't log you out of the chat room)
I can see that some of these are stupid questions but it would be nice to have an area where we can refer to if we are unsure of how to do something without having to send a message to someone to ask how. I'm sure there are more from others too. Just a suggestion.
Thanks
If I may add, as a social media virgin (I guess technically not anymore), a glossary or index of what some of the terminolgy means within a site such as Lush. I'm pretty sure I get the Badge section, but some of the basics are leaving me puzzled. For example, I'm still not entirely sure I understand the difference between friending someone and following someone and what they mean when they're talking about chatting or cybering
And oh yeah... I guess I just popped my First Forum Contribution cherry too for that matter. Thanks for hearing me.