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Ive been single about a year and a half now and have only just started feeling ready for something serious again but every guy i come across is taken!

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In response to Barbie above.... you've found a girl who doesn't need or want anyone to pay the way for her... ME. and no, I dont even secretly want it - yes, I like pretty things and I don't feel guilty about that. I like pretty things, men like other things - each to their own. But the bottom line is - I can pay my own way and yes, even treat myself to my own pretty things. And on an above comment about people not wanting to work hard - you've found another who doesn't agree with that because I do work hard and I work hard because I want to and I love it. I didnt get my education and work my way through my career chain for the ability to buy flashy things or wave a big pay check in front of anybody or even for status. Its just something that happened for me while I've spent years doing what I love. I realize you geared all that towards a man's purpose for doing things but I'd like to give most successful men out there the benefit of the doubt and say they all do what they do for the same reason I do what I do. I have a hard time believing that all men out there that work their asses off and have luxuries in life only do it to impress and buy drinks for hot girls. There's so much more to having self satisfaction and contentment then impressing people with drinks and pretty things.

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And if he even THOUGHT about buying me something big like a car I would turn around and run in the opposite direction.

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Being bought things (and accepting them) is almost like being in debt to someone. So if he buys me a car - what does he expect from me?

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In a perfect world, men typically shower the woman of their fancy with gifts of all sorts.
And it is a beautiful thing.

I recall a 4 day binge I enjoyed 3 years ago,
It was a perfect long weekend over on the islands right here in the not so glamorous state Of Ohio.
But the beer was cold, the women were hot, and the men felt like partying.
After the third night, I came to the realization that I had blown over a few thousand dollars some how, and had yet another night to go, plus I wasn't quite done drinking yet.
The crowd had changed, and many folks I had bought several drinks for were no longer in the bar.
I was one happy camper when a sexy blond approached me with a drink, and she continued to buy for a good while.
One buy one, guys, and girls alike, started buying. Some I recognised from the previous eve's, some I didn't.
I had a great time regardless, and still felt like a man the next morning. Hung over of course.
When I party, I try an make sure a good time is had by all.
And All one can hope for, is to be in good company with folks of similar ideals, men, or women.

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Blokes in power all want to be submited and degraded. I've peed on important guys before and its no big deal for me. Its pretty common in my parts actually. How can you want to squirt on a guy but not pee on him? Mostly similar in a lot of ways actually.

xx B.

You can pee in my iced tea, any day. Doesn't mean I'll follow you around, cup in hand, though. I'm a guy -- I just like to watch.

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cokeheadbarbie, I have the money to pay for all the drinks and dinner, but it would be nice now and then for the lady to pay for a few things. If not I might get the impression that all she is after is my money and taking advantage of me, who wants a lady like that in ones life!

In a relationship things should be equal, and by that I mean everything. I can do the laundry, cleaning, sewing and most of the cooking and I would expect her to be equal on the financial side as well by paying for some things.

latinfoxy is right about "I think theres a HUGE middle ground between a deadbeat and a guy that is comfortable enough in there own skin to let a girl reach for her own wallet to pay for somethings!. " It show she cares and isn't just after money.

cokeheadbarbie, another thought could be, why does he need to buy you a drink at the club, will he get something in return?
If I have to pay for EVERYTHING then I damn well will expect something in return!! Nothing is for FREE!

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Feels like some of you girls are trying to say it doesnt matter if the bloke is a deadbeat coz you are scared of sounding shallow and materialistic. Funny too since its exactly the way those guys try to play it off to make you all feel guilty for expecting some chivalrey. Like do you think Kate was buying rounds for Prince William? Hardly! It would be right embarasssing and all over the telly and tabloids in 10 seconds flat!!!

As much as girls want to play like they are mother theresa and above it all money is way important! If he can't even buy you a drink at the club then its a good sign that he is already in debt. Be smart girls!!

xx B.

There really isn't any point in assuming what other people think or feel as, at the end of the day, we're the ones inside our own minds - not you. Just because some people have a different opinion to you doesn't mean that they're 'scared' or any such thing.

We don't all need or want someone to pay our way for us - just accept that.

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Thanks guys for all of your answers, you are letting me know im not chopping balls every time i reach for my wallet ;)

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Feels like some of you girls are trying to say it doesnt matter if the bloke is a deadbeat coz you are scared of sounding shallow and materialistic. Funny too since its exactly the way those guys try to play it off to make you all feel guilty for expecting some chivalrey. Like do you think Kate was buying rounds for Prince William? Hardly! It would be right embarasssing and all over the telly and tabloids in 10 seconds flat!!!

As much as girls want to play like they are mother theresa and above it all money is way important! If he can't even buy you a drink at the club then its a good sign that he is already in debt. Be smart girls!!

xx B.

as i said before i dont want a deadbeat near me because i do have standards when it comes to pick the guy i decide to be with BUT he paying me for drinks jewelry and my apartment rent just because im pretty is not one of them!! i do want a guy with goals at life and that those goals are some how specially in the monetary issue equal to mine and i am use to a certain type of life and have no desire to get them lower. That doesnt mean that i need a guy buying me things for me to give them time or date.

I dont have any desire of having a boy around with tons of money but that he is only interested in me because im hot, yes i am hot but i also have brains to match it and work my ass off everyday making a successful business work out, i do like guys buying things for me what girl wouldnt, but that doesnt mean that i NEED guys buying things for me!!

I think theres a HUGE middle ground between a deadbeat and a guy that is comfortable enough in there own skin to let a girl reach for her own wallet to pay for somethings! just my

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Okay then. Have fun buying your man's drinks at the club. Giggles.

How cud it be materialistic to expect some bloke to shell out a few quid to buy me a martini if hes making intros?

You surely need to set your sights higher. Its only the broke men will tell you its shallow and materialistic cos what else can they say right? Thats how they suck you in and next thing you are going dutch on meals and "lending" money for rent on their flat to try to prove you arent materialistic or shallow. Hah Those deadbeats got game so you got to watch for their tricks otherwise you are playin' and payin' right into it.

xx B.

I think you're not quite getting the gist of what I'm saying.... I don't, at this point in my life, need the stable and providing kind of man. I don't see it as a man's place to buy me a drink, or anything else for that matter unless we're sharing our finances so to speak. If I happen to be out at a bar, chances are I've got enough money on me to buy my own drinks and a taxi home...

If a guy wants to buy me a drink, that's very kind of him. But if he wants to have a chat with me without buying me a drink.. well then that's also fine. I'm not going to say 'no freaking way' to a guy just because he doesn't buy me a drink or whatever, the only time I'll say 'no freaking way' is when I've spent enough time with the guy to judge his character and decide that I, quite simply, don't like it.

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Omifuck that story racked me into hysterics!!!! Any bloke who doesn't know its his job to buy girls drinks at a bar has got to be a right virgin or scared of girls. Theres no girl on the globe thats going to be talking intros with a guy at a club and then go buy and pay for her own drink while hes just standing there chatting her. Giggles. How embarassing! I guess its good for those types to spend their time online then because in the real world everyone knows that buying drinks is social and a way to buy a girls attention to have a chat with her. Its not being a whore its called being a normal person in a bar! I will chat until the drink is finished and if I like him we'll keep it up and he can buy me another.

Its not just because you give someone something it makes you a whore. I dont get the warped logic in this thread-posting at all.

Cash for a shag is a clear transaction. I have some male friendz in different parts of the world that help me out with rent sometimes or give me a little loan but it doesnt mean I absolutely have to have sex with them but if I'm staying at their place or on their boat and were partying and wrecked then sometimes things happen and so if I flash a little nipp to put a smile on his face or we party so much we end up having a bit of a shag then big deal no? My friendz tend to be loaded and nice to me if I need it but its not the same as a stranger paying you right out for a BJ.

IMO anyways.

xx B.

WOW the name Barbie defenitely suits you! I dont know about you but i wasnt raise to be just another hot girl waiting for a guy to pay my drinks bills or materials things, i need or just want. I was raise to be a smart, financially independent woman not a trophy wife that looks good but cant think or talk because no man would pay attention other than her boobs.

Yes is always apreciated to have a guy buying you a drink, not because of how much that drink cost but because of the gesture itself. Im not saying i want a deadbeat guy by my side because i want from the man i choose to be with to be as driven in live as i am and that implies material things and a comfortable life, but sometimes when you meet someone he/she might not be on the best financial situation of his life for an endless types of reasons and that doesnt mean that he is gonna be like that the rest of his life or that he doesnt deserve me talking to him long enough so i can decide if his PERSONALITY is worth of my time or not.

But getting back to the subject, i havent done it, have had some propositions but didnt feel the need or desire to do it. About the people that have get paid for sex one time or regularly im sure they have a reason why to do it and i see it must of the times as a win win situation, someone needed the money someone needed the sex so good for them.

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I'd never *expect* a guy to buy anything for me, if he wants to then that's lovely....but I don't see it as his place or as his job. If I'm in a relationship with someone then I expect them to not be overly stingey in the sense that if I'm the one doing all the travelling I want him to go halves with me on the fuel or train fare... but that's about it.

I mean, I look at it this way - if I was a guy and in the same sort of money situation I'm in now....I wouldn't be able to afford to buy her drinks or a meal out as well as my own! ....So what happens when a guy can't afford that sort of thing? Does that mean he shouldn't be approaching girls at the bar etc etc?

yes that means he needs to take himself down to the pub where the drinks are cheap and *approach girls he can afford!*

If he is out drinking himself does it not mean that he can't afford a drink for someone else?

Sorry but I could not be a sugar mama for some deadbeat

xx B.

....Really?

I think that's slightly ridiculous if I'm being honest. Having money is only going to get you a materialistic girl, or a girl who is extremely desperate for money. If you're looking to settle down then that's a bit of a different story as in those cases one is looking for someone who can provide....but in other circumstances I find it shallow hence I don't have that opinion....if I'm looking to date someone it's for him, not for whatever amount of money he has or whatever gifts he's going to shower me with.

I guess I'm cheap then since I don't require men to spoil me with anything other than kisses, cuddles and sex.

Bring it on all you poorer men

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I'd never *expect* a guy to buy anything for me, if he wants to then that's lovely....but I don't see it as his place or as his job. If I'm in a relationship with someone then I expect them to not be overly stingey in the sense that if I'm the one doing all the travelling I want him to go halves with me on the fuel or train fare... but that's about it.

I mean, I look at it this way - if I was a guy and in the same sort of money situation I'm in now....I wouldn't be able to afford to buy her drinks or a meal out as well as my own! ....So what happens when a guy can't afford that sort of thing? Does that mean he shouldn't be approaching girls at the bar etc etc?