the thing is that i loved my wife and was devtoed to her no matter what until she cheated on me.
it's not like just once it was going on for over three years. finally i told her that if she wanted this other relationship that i was ok with it and even offered to let her girlfriend move in with us so my wife could have the best of both worlds but that was not good enough.
as far as my ex goes i loved her with everything in me. i was a stupid impatient jackass and walked away. to which i have kicked myself in the ass for for about 16 years.
it's not like i'm jumping into something that i don't know about already, but what do you do when you have to question every action and word of the person your supposed to live the rest of your life with?
i can see everybody's point but when i do look in the mirror i get pissed because i have tried everything to make this marriage work but all it does is get worse. case in point imagine coming home from work and getting greeted with hey bastard where is your check? i know the idea of leaving my wife for my ex makes me look like an asshole but there is only so much a person can do to fix a marriage and i've come to the conclusion that it's time to get out.