I usually keep a small triangle of trimmed hair. Wax when I can, but mostly shave.
Being a millennial myself, I absolutely think the younger generation is more accepting of LGBTQ dating, amongst many other things.
If I must be labeled, I would have to say that I'm bisexual, but I don't even like to use that term. I personally don't even pay much mind to gender when it comes to sex and dating. If I have feelings for a man, and he has them back, I will pursue that relationship and the same goes for women.
If I like someone and those feelings are reciprocated, that's when I'll go for it. I look at the PERSON, not the body parts.
And I have many friends that go about their love lives in the same way, and have been fortunate enough to have not received a ton of judgement from peers about it either.
Yes, I have used strap-ons a few times. I don't use them regularly, but a past girlfriend really enjoyed them. Something about strap-ons, either giving or receiving, is just so intimate. It doesn't always get me off, but the connection that comes along with it is really nice.
Pretty much always black for me.