A little bit of background first. I was not a virgin, was not molested, and did not "know my whole life" that I was gay. I had many heterosexual relationships; I had sex with women regularly and enjoyed it when I did. I was not homophobic but I was in fact very comfortable being "gay adjacent". As a kid, when my family went to the Castro district in San Francisco, I was fascinated by the gay culture and curious about the...