Agreed, and I AM seeing multiple THERAPISTS!
I have seen 4 Psychologists, 1 psychiatrist, my Family Doctor multiple times since this started.
Fletch and M: I'm here because y'all are also giving GOOD advice, and I'm taking it all in, not disagreeing at all, if I get offended, Its all GOOD.
Hope the discussions continue - we all get to choose.
They say, with age comes wisdom.
Join the best erotica focused adult social network now
Login
StormPipe
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 75
0 miles · Freeland
Forum
Rookie Scribe
Volya
I REALLY appreciate you straight forward realistic comments ..
Actually I am open minded enough to already see the action she took, and also in a safe, family situation ... not running off who knows where else showed more bravery than I ever did. I respect her for; and truly regret my actions.
Only real difficulty in your WORDs if ever she will be ready to talk from the heart with me about "Us"... when stressed, and I know this is just as hard for her emotionally and anxiety wise, as for me, she locks up tight with words ... so when we talk I try to keep it light and give her whatever she asks for ...
If her mind is made up, your WORDS are correct I'll just have to make the best life for myself as I can .... and "Let it be ... "
Personally, at this moment the most important choice about dick getting wet ... I chose (B) .... even if I have to take my of myself (a) - she did leave her vibrator behind which is better than my hand. For this old fart, it really is just another body function that has begun to deteriorate anyways .... if you younger males are reading this, for me, 30 was nothing, 40 was nothing, 50 was nothing, at 60 I was I was near death, at 65 I said whew, made it, I might even get another 20 years! But, my body definitely began to lose abilities; yet I'm still a fit active guy with pretty good lab numbers from the doc. So life is as GOOD as I can make it.
I REALLY appreciate you straight forward realistic comments ..
Actually I am open minded enough to already see the action she took, and also in a safe, family situation ... not running off who knows where else showed more bravery than I ever did. I respect her for; and truly regret my actions.
Only real difficulty in your WORDs if ever she will be ready to talk from the heart with me about "Us"... when stressed, and I know this is just as hard for her emotionally and anxiety wise, as for me, she locks up tight with words ... so when we talk I try to keep it light and give her whatever she asks for ...
If her mind is made up, your WORDS are correct I'll just have to make the best life for myself as I can .... and "Let it be ... "
Personally, at this moment the most important choice about dick getting wet ... I chose (B) .... even if I have to take my of myself (a) - she did leave her vibrator behind which is better than my hand. For this old fart, it really is just another body function that has begun to deteriorate anyways .... if you younger males are reading this, for me, 30 was nothing, 40 was nothing, 50 was nothing, at 60 I was I was near death, at 65 I said whew, made it, I might even get another 20 years! But, my body definitely began to lose abilities; yet I'm still a fit active guy with pretty good lab numbers from the doc. So life is as GOOD as I can make it.
Rookie Scribe
Yes, agreed all - I heard at my 3rd Yoga Class (Something I never would have done before she left), yesterday I heard this Quote ...
"From the moment a Man and Woman meet, every (second, minute, hour, 40 years+???) should be spent working towards more Harmony"
You may think this is a fault, but I have been listening to a retired Navy Seal leader (mostly about life and leadership and relationships), It's called "Jocko Podcast" Check it out. Yeah, I've changed already, and have been punished for my life plenty, not by my wife, but by God!
and like Navy Seals, I'm evaluating possibilities, and don't give up easily.
On a mission from God and I am late!
But, I'm a straight-forward guy, lots of people have told me, "If she doesn't want you, let her go..." One biker dude I met said "just get a Harley and ride man"
and I'm very sexual (look at Lushstories site we are talking/posting on), and if I am a DICK, maybe I should be on this site looking for who wants to FUCK this DICK, gals on here like DICKS, right? (Yikes words always get me in trouble!); but I think you folks here know and appreciate my words ... Maybe I should write my story??
But I'm intelligent and realistic, who wants to fuck a 68 year old dude's dick?
I'm afraid I'll just die a lonely old man, who beats off for his sexual pleasure.
Speaking of sexual pleasure, if you haven't heard of Hegre, check it OUT!
Who knows, maybe my fantasies can be realities with the right girl.
So, what I'm really here for is to ask Open Minded, strangers for their opinions, evaluate my options, and do the GOOD thing, and get Happy!...
"From the moment a Man and Woman meet, every (second, minute, hour, 40 years+???) should be spent working towards more Harmony"
You may think this is a fault, but I have been listening to a retired Navy Seal leader (mostly about life and leadership and relationships), It's called "Jocko Podcast" Check it out. Yeah, I've changed already, and have been punished for my life plenty, not by my wife, but by God!
and like Navy Seals, I'm evaluating possibilities, and don't give up easily.
On a mission from God and I am late!
But, I'm a straight-forward guy, lots of people have told me, "If she doesn't want you, let her go..." One biker dude I met said "just get a Harley and ride man"
and I'm very sexual (look at Lushstories site we are talking/posting on), and if I am a DICK, maybe I should be on this site looking for who wants to FUCK this DICK, gals on here like DICKS, right? (Yikes words always get me in trouble!); but I think you folks here know and appreciate my words ... Maybe I should write my story??
But I'm intelligent and realistic, who wants to fuck a 68 year old dude's dick?
I'm afraid I'll just die a lonely old man, who beats off for his sexual pleasure.
Speaking of sexual pleasure, if you haven't heard of Hegre, check it OUT!
Who knows, maybe my fantasies can be realities with the right girl.
So, what I'm really here for is to ask Open Minded, strangers for their opinions, evaluate my options, and do the GOOD thing, and get Happy!...
Rookie Scribe
I appreciate the truth, honesty, and open conversation. I hope this thread continues. I hope for Happiness for both my wife and I; however this turns out. I also hope for MORE good input from y'all. I REALLY do want positive change to occur; but know the situation is causing great pain, and anxiety for a lot of people close to us. I'm trying to do the right things as best as I can; that's really all any person can do. If she choses to "Stay Gone"; Making her own choices is a right she should have. (in this country at least).
For trinket, I did type, damn autocorrect: .. "and my happy place in this world is between a remake's legs (where I was the night before she left)."
It should have read: .. "and my happy place in this world is between a female's legs (where I was the night before she left)."
One issue that aggravated her is feeling like she wasn't her own person anymore, I WAS CONTROLLING HER (without seeing, understanding that fully), now I do, and I have changed already, I am doing the best I can to let her make her own choices, and not be an unhappy dick anymore!
To fletch64: Yes it does, I hope I can change that quickly, and both my wife and I become such a good, happy couple, each who has changed for the better. And, it won't suck to me anymore! and, wife and I are BOTH Happy.
Thoughts will be appreciated. Thanks to each of you for your time, and hope for the best for EVERYONE!
Am I still being a selfish dick?
For trinket, I did type, damn autocorrect: .. "and my happy place in this world is between a remake's legs (where I was the night before she left)."
It should have read: .. "and my happy place in this world is between a female's legs (where I was the night before she left)."
One issue that aggravated her is feeling like she wasn't her own person anymore, I WAS CONTROLLING HER (without seeing, understanding that fully), now I do, and I have changed already, I am doing the best I can to let her make her own choices, and not be an unhappy dick anymore!
To fletch64: Yes it does, I hope I can change that quickly, and both my wife and I become such a good, happy couple, each who has changed for the better. And, it won't suck to me anymore! and, wife and I are BOTH Happy.
Thoughts will be appreciated. Thanks to each of you for your time, and hope for the best for EVERYONE!
Am I still being a selfish dick?
Rookie Scribe
Been a month now, and she isn't back yet, but still is able to walk through the door, pride in-tact and say, "Breaks over, let's make our next 40 years Happy together". I don't plan on being a dick any more! I've spent 68 years miserable, unhappy, disappointed. I have already done MANY things, hopefully that she sees already. But, she is still way stressed out! She has the RIGHT to make her own choices. She is still filling her "Love Cup" with relatives, and I'm being a good boy. And, hurting I am, I'm doing my best! So, with that additional clarification. Do I still sound like a dick? Am I being selfish? Or am I doing the RIGHT things to be a GOOD, HAPPY old man, and win my wife back?
Rookie Scribe
So we've had a tumultuous relationship for the last 3 years, 15 month relocation 18,000 miles driven over 15 months, finally settled in a beautiful place, celebrated 40 year anniversary, no infidelity, no abuse (except emotional), I've been a dick.
Also in the last few years, 3 year health issue with 2 surgeries (me), death of her 95 year old Mother (w/o her being able to with her).
Wow, stressed out, both of us.
3 weeks ago she packed a suitcase with 3 days of clothes to visit her brother, "Taking a break" (Deserved). Got there and decided she isn't coming home. Can't live as my "wife", missed my 68th Birthday (Never before). We still talk daily by phone. Both agree, slow down, no need to change anything yet. EVERYTHING is the same, house exactly as she left it, she is everywhere in the house, but I can't touch her ... and my happy place in this world is between a remake's legs (where I was the night before she left).
We are very different people, and have differences.
I've obviously had a head full of confusion.
So ladies ... Help me out here please ...
Will she come back after cooling off? (She can do that with dignity, just "Break is Over")
I've already begun to address the issues that aggravated her, and I need to do for myself to be happy in this world.
What about me? How can a 68 year old guy have a "New Beginning", stresses, lonely and horny?
Additional thoughts, offers, questions via public or private
Thanks
Mods/Ladies: I supposed this might get moved to "Relationship advice"; but I really only wanted to hear from "The gals"; guys typically take the attitude, You're you, you aren't changing, neither is she. Fuck her. And I've been there; but I want the companionship, and frankly the touch, the sex, the love. How does an old fart like me find that?"
Also in the last few years, 3 year health issue with 2 surgeries (me), death of her 95 year old Mother (w/o her being able to with her).
Wow, stressed out, both of us.
3 weeks ago she packed a suitcase with 3 days of clothes to visit her brother, "Taking a break" (Deserved). Got there and decided she isn't coming home. Can't live as my "wife", missed my 68th Birthday (Never before). We still talk daily by phone. Both agree, slow down, no need to change anything yet. EVERYTHING is the same, house exactly as she left it, she is everywhere in the house, but I can't touch her ... and my happy place in this world is between a remake's legs (where I was the night before she left).
We are very different people, and have differences.
I've obviously had a head full of confusion.
So ladies ... Help me out here please ...
Will she come back after cooling off? (She can do that with dignity, just "Break is Over")
I've already begun to address the issues that aggravated her, and I need to do for myself to be happy in this world.
What about me? How can a 68 year old guy have a "New Beginning", stresses, lonely and horny?
Additional thoughts, offers, questions via public or private
Thanks
Mods/Ladies: I supposed this might get moved to "Relationship advice"; but I really only wanted to hear from "The gals"; guys typically take the attitude, You're you, you aren't changing, neither is she. Fuck her. And I've been there; but I want the companionship, and frankly the touch, the sex, the love. How does an old fart like me find that?"