As you probably know, the Lush UI works a bit different for men and women. But unless you have created a male avatar. you won't know that any measurements involving 'inches' or even a number followed by " automatically has 2 added to it. Even if the number is written out like "six inches", it's changed on the fly to "eight inches". Simple enough trick but it fools a lot of folk!
Put simply, yes. You learn a lot and there's usually at least one adult in the room at all times.
No. It's not something I find interesting.
Yes - bondage either way is a huge turn on for me. Love being tied up & teased - and returning the favour.
Although there's no firm rule, yes age matters - quite a lot. Firstly, age strongly influences your cultural "touchpoints", the music, the celebrities, the tv programmes, the books, films and events that mean something to you. And those cultural touchpoints are, for (most?) couples, an important ingredient in the glue that binds you together. And secondly, as you get into the latter phase of your life, age-related weaknesses become ever-more intrusive. Instead of being in harmony, your body clocks are running at different speeds. Basic changes of any kind (job, friends, injuries, illnesses) put pressure on relationships and this is a long-term, grinding set of changes that is far from insignificant. Are you both comfortable sharing your anxieties about what the future holds as the menopause or prostate enlargement kicks in, swelling of the ankles, heart palpitations during love making, or simply finding favourite positions impossible through wear and tear on joints? Maybe you are. More likely you have a lot of uncomfortable moments ahead in which the older partner will feel regret, guilt, fear and lessened. Don't get me wrong, my partners are much younger than me and it has been a joy. But it has been joy through the tears as well as through the years.
No. It's quite an unpleasant thought.
If my gf was interested in it, I'd be keen (but she isn't).
I have really enjoyed the conversations and rooms set up by MissCummington. And this strikes me as a really fun and imaginative idea from someone who has been a consistently imaginative and energetic member. Love it.
There are lots of articles but I doubt their real value as subs are as individual as anyone else. Simply put, one size does not fit all. You'll need to listen and explore her views. Maybe ask her what sexy books/films she likes & then talk about what she sees in it (I safely predict it'll be very different from what you took away!) If you want to read a lot of wittering by people who have personal experience and think they know a lot about it, sign up to Fetlife. People write a lot of stuff as if they were authorities and, as long as you bear in mind that they often have an axe to grind about the authenticity of one particular version of BDSM or whatever, you'll find it interesting. And just be aware that some of the stuff on there can be quite unpleasant so try to bear in mind that it is presented as consensual and typically only appeals to a few people.
It's nothing I have ever encountered in real life, so I am confident that you're in the normal category. Most of the porn videos look contrived and I presume are faked. Nothing about my partners body or bodily functions do I find scary or disgusting to be honest, any more than I do for my own body. (That doesn't mean I want to play with pee and poo though!)
No although I would enjoy it, I don't think my gf would be into it.
Yes, and love it. Naturally, it depends very much on the partner - the trust and imagination you share.
Mine are sensitive and erogenous. I can climax just from having them stimulated (although that's rare).
I honestly don't think that paddles are at all severe. Like anything else, I suppose it all depends on how you use them. Riding crops seem to me to be a lot easier to make a mistake with.
'All' is such a strong word - it's probably fair to say that most guys are at least curious, a minority are repelled and a minority are obsessed with it. I expect that what governs most men's feelings is their partner's attitude. If your partner hates the idea, then curiosity is likely to stay unexpressed or even repressed.
In years gone by maybe ...
Make-up is part of the way our society constructs gender - girls wear makeup but boys don't. So for a few men, its important that their partner sticks closely to the conventional, which includes long hair, wearing skirts and dresses, and so on. And it should be no surprise that your grandmother, coming from an older generation, places more value on conforming to a single stereotype of femininity.
At root, this is just a social convention and, these days, one without much power. And I would expect a good proportion of men would find a naked face attractive, another good proportion to not notice and a minority would find it an issue. Even in my mother's day, where makeup seemed to be a uniform, plenty of men found the make-up mask to be somewhat repellent. There's always going to be a spread of preferences but at this point in time, I'd say you'd find a lot of positive appreciation for your style regardless of it being one of necessity.
A few hundred miles would be fine, depending ;)
As a man main thing is that you need to be aware that plenty of women feel uncomfortable about their appearance, the mess, the smell and the practicalities of not wrecking the bedclothes or furniture. So you have to be encouraging and positive and passionate. And also the lubrication can be less effective, so don't take forever. But it isn't physically off-putting the way many women (understandably) feel it must be.
If I had to guess, I would imagine there are a few men who find it yucky, a few who find it exciting, and the majority who are up for it if their partners are.
I'll just add to the chorus of 'hot'!
They can be lovely - or ugly - but I would grow to love them on my lover because they are part of her. Really it's the same for everything: the things you find cute to start with become adorable and the flaws and imperfections you gradually find precious. Because you love the person as a whole, not as a sum of parts.
I am sorry to hear of how this has made you feel lessened. It does not, from the outside, make you less of a woman. It is sad to think about how you must feel - perhaps it would be helpful to seek some counselling? Good luck & /hugs/
This is a site dedicated to erotic fantasies and not a dating site, so I think it is perfectly legitimate.
I agree with kitty40. Plenty of guys, like myself, have very possessive feelings (even when we know they are silly/destructive) and react badly to any form whatsoever of sexual competition. A dildo could definitely fall into that category, especially one that is modelled on a real cock and even more so if it is visually larger than his own erection. So getting him feeling involved with the choosing and using is a way of seeing the toys as connected with him rather than separate. And you could try opening up the conversation to include other toys, get him to talk about what he likes and dislikes about all kinds of toys before narrowing in, because he might be a bit reluctant to discuss a topic that is a bone of contention. So to speak.
Love bare but any shape that leaves the labia free of hair is delightful.
This is a common situation. If it is a real deal breaker for you, discuss it with your wife. If you can't find a resolution, then separate. But don't cheat on her, unless this is something you have previously openly agreed (and it doesn't sound like you have). Betrayal within a marriage is cruel - that's why we have divorce, so decent people can escape an intolerable situation without becoming cruel.
Keeping my mouth shut. *sigh*
That would be a profound turn-off.
