Join the best erotica focused adult social network now
Login
NorthernFlicker
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 102
0 miles · Lower Post
Forum
Rookie Scribe
I guess we’re dealing with a matter of semantics here. Yes, cheating means cheating, no matter how you spell it. What I was trying to get at in this thread is this. Cheating on a partner during an otherwise normal relationship without the other partner knowing has, unquestionably, all kinds of ethical overtones. But if the ‘cheating’ partner has been driven to go elsewhere because of a sexually indifferent partner is there the same ethical element to it? The covenant that is made when a relationship is established is usually cemented by what is the most basic part of the bond, and that is the sexual part of the relationship. When one partner eventually refuses to give the other partner that essential and most basic part of the relationship then aren’t they, in some way, releasing the other from that part of the relationship? And if the ‘cheating’ partner doesn’t tell the indifferent partner that he or she has gone somewhere else to get the sex that they are being deprived of hasn’t that ethical part of the equation been diminished, or even erased altogether?
I’m in a circumstance where I’ve developed very strong feelings for a woman, but that’s as far as it’s gone. Otherwise we are just very good friends. She is married but she has told me it’s a very unsatisfactory relationship. We haven’t discussed it further but, knowing him reasonably well, I have no doubt that she isn’t getting any sex from him. She’s a very vibrant woman: good looks, intelligent, witty, funny, a good conversationalist, well... the list goes on, and I would love nothing more than to have sexual relations with her. She has told me about one of her girlfriends who caught her husband cheating on her. From what I gather, it is an otherwise normal relationship. But the way she told me about it (the cheating) she’s leaning hard on the ethical part of it. When I eventually try to further our relationship I think there’s a good possibility she will bring the ethical thing up. So, based upon what I’ve said above, I’m wanting to hear others’ thoughts on it in this forum.
Whew! That was a mouthful, but thanks for any replies.
I’m in a circumstance where I’ve developed very strong feelings for a woman, but that’s as far as it’s gone. Otherwise we are just very good friends. She is married but she has told me it’s a very unsatisfactory relationship. We haven’t discussed it further but, knowing him reasonably well, I have no doubt that she isn’t getting any sex from him. She’s a very vibrant woman: good looks, intelligent, witty, funny, a good conversationalist, well... the list goes on, and I would love nothing more than to have sexual relations with her. She has told me about one of her girlfriends who caught her husband cheating on her. From what I gather, it is an otherwise normal relationship. But the way she told me about it (the cheating) she’s leaning hard on the ethical part of it. When I eventually try to further our relationship I think there’s a good possibility she will bring the ethical thing up. So, based upon what I’ve said above, I’m wanting to hear others’ thoughts on it in this forum.
Whew! That was a mouthful, but thanks for any replies.
Rookie Scribe
I took my name because of an attempt at a little hidden humour due to the mainly sexual nature of this site and the stories that I've posted here. Where I live there is a lot of a particular type of woodpecker called northern flicker. Hence the hidden humour ....... wood pecker (get it? nudge, nudge, wink, wink)
Rookie Scribe
When a couple is having a normal sexual relationship (i.e. sex on at least a reasonably regular basis) I would consider it cheating if one of them had sex with someone else without the other partner knowing (not that I would NOT condone it). But, is it cheating when a couple has not had sex for a long time, and one of them has sex with someone else without the other partner knowing, just because he or she needs it?